Your boyfriend exchanged pics of his cock and body with someone else. Is that cheating?

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    Jun 12, 2010 12:22 AM GMT
    It hasn't happened to me yet hopefully! lol. However, what are your views on it? A friend of mine told me his boyfriend likes exchanging pics of himself (naked obviously) with someone else. Is it cheating?
  • masculumpedes

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    Jun 12, 2010 12:51 AM GMT
    To me "cheating" involves actual physical contact. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 12, 2010 12:56 AM GMT
    In a heterosexual coupling, how would you label it?
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    Jun 12, 2010 1:09 AM GMT
    wrestlervic saidIn a heterosexual coupling, how would you label it?


    Cheating.
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    Jun 12, 2010 2:46 AM GMT
    No.
  • GQjock

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    Jun 12, 2010 2:49 AM GMT
    Technically cheating? No

    But if he was MY BF?????
    It Would Be like DUDE WTF??? icon_confused.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Jun 12, 2010 2:52 AM GMT
    wrestlervic saidIn a heterosexual coupling, how would you label it?



    Look...but don't touch.... icon_wink.gif
  • swimbikerun

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    Jun 12, 2010 3:01 AM GMT
    It would less about what he might do and more about you two not talking about it. Paranoia poured on a relationship is like bleach on a rose.
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:02 AM GMT
    yes it is
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:05 AM GMT
    No, he's just showing off. People on this site do it all the time.
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:06 AM GMT
    The act isn't cheating, but it will lead to it.

    This is coming from someone who just discovered a whole lot about his ex's daily sexual exploits.
  • BlackBeltGuy

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    Jun 12, 2010 3:12 AM GMT
    swimbikerun saidIt would less about what he might do and more about you two not talking about it. Paranoia poured on a relationship is like bleach on a rose.



    correct and well said
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:12 AM GMT
    i don't mind him showing his body, especially on a site like this, but i am the only one who needs to see his dick and ass. Yes its cheating -- just like one can cheat emotionally, one can cheat virtually as well -- call me bitter, but only I should see his goodies.
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:13 AM GMT
    Well, what did those two guys in question agree to, to begin with? Was it considered no for mutually exclusivity reasons, or was it a problem?
    In an open relationship I could see it as not being an issue. In a closed one like ours, yes, but even then the parameters of monogamy are defined mutually, (hopefully, lol!), and in some, pics are no issue.


    -Doug

    PS No we have no pics like that. Monster movies are on at 9 on The Space Channel. Watch those instead, they're cuter. icon_lol.gif
  • mybud

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    Jun 12, 2010 3:32 AM GMT
    No
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:34 AM GMT
    Technically no it's not cheating if you limit cheating to just a physical aspect but I would consider it cheating or at least a first step to cheating.

    It usually starts off with something simple like talking, then the exchanging of pix (obviously) and finally the two meet which obviously leads to them doing something they shouldn't be doing.

    For those of you who said no or don't consider it cheating then ask yourself this simple question. Would you want your significant other to be sending naked pix of themselves to strangers without your knowledge? Common sense and logic dictates that if they are doing something like this without your knowledge then they are probably doing something way worse without your knowledge and that's probably cheating.

    Why entertain it? It's like sticking a bleeding finger in a piranha tank. What do you think will happen?

    Just my opinion.
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Jun 12, 2010 3:39 AM GMT
    When the BF didn't know about it I am sure it felt dishonest when discovered. But it is not cheating.
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:42 AM GMT
    It depends on the couple. Some couples might consider looking at porn while the other isn't around as cheating. Others have an open relationship so full on sex wouldn't be considered cheating.

    Unless it is a mutually agreed upon open relationship, sex outside the relationship is definitely cheating in my opinion. Looking at porn isn't cheating as far as I'm concerned. Exchanging pictures falls in between the two extremes but I find it closer to looking at porn. Just my two cents and I know others may view it differently.
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:45 AM GMT
    That is wrong
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:48 AM GMT
    well why cant it be consider cheating. The person had intent of cheating in the future hence him sending the photos in hopes of making a meeting happen. Its like when accused individuals send a parcel with a bomb in it but it didnt explode. The intent was to do an act of harm. So if we compare the sending the pics so that there could be a caused reaction then yes he cheated.
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:55 AM GMT
    I wouldn't say its cheating by all technicalities but I think its defiantly dishonest and could lead to at least suspicions and paranoia if not cheating.
  • kietkat

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    Jun 12, 2010 3:59 AM GMT
    It is precisely this kind of behavior that can plant the seeds of suspicion and distrust in the garden of a growing relationship.
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    Jun 12, 2010 4:02 AM GMT
    tereseus1 saidwell why cant it be consider cheating. The person had intent of cheating in the future hence him sending the photos in hopes of making a meeting happen. Its like when accused individuals send a parcel with a bomb in it but it didnt explode. The intent was to do an act of harm. So if we compare the sending the pics so that there could be a caused reaction then yes he cheated.


    How do we know what the guy was hoping would happen? True, maybe he is trying to find a hookup. But maybe he just gets a thrill out of exchanging pictures and that is as far as he wants it to go.
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    Jun 12, 2010 4:06 AM GMT


    What were these boyfriends' rules around this?


    lol -Doug
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    Jun 12, 2010 4:07 AM GMT
    sashaman said
    tereseus1 saidwell why cant it be consider cheating. The person had intent of cheating in the future hence him sending the photos in hopes of making a meeting happen. Its like when accused individuals send a parcel with a bomb in it but it didnt explode. The intent was to do an act of harm. So if we compare the sending the pics so that there could be a caused reaction then yes he cheated.


    How do we know what the guy was hoping would happen? True, maybe he is trying to find a hookup. But maybe he just gets a thrill out of exchanging pictures and that is as far as he wants it to go.


    I understand what you are saying, but why does he have to get a thrill out of someone else? If he wants to send pics, send them to his own boyfriend. If he isn't happy, then simply end the relationship.