How to go about being FB?

  • zenny

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    Jun 13, 2010 9:57 AM GMT
    I used to mess around with this guy, well at the time I thought we were a little serious ( as in...gettig ready to be in a relationship.) things were going fine untill he said he had to move Out of town, because of a new job he found...so we didn't really hang out or anything afterward. Like half a year later...(today) I saw Him out at the gay scene with his "ex". Ok so my question is how do I let this guy know I'm no longer interested in having a relationship with him, just wants to be kind of f- buddies? Btw at the time we were messing around I don't think he wants a relationship anyway. And I don't have his number anymore but I remember where he stays. Hahahaha
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    Jun 13, 2010 11:26 AM GMT
    start a conversation on relationships and how you don't want one but having a sex partner is still on the cards, no strings and see what he says about it.
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    Jun 13, 2010 1:29 PM GMT
    say hey man "let's be fuckbuds" don't say NSA i loathe those words being a fuck bud is a sexual relationship afterall
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 13, 2010 1:43 PM GMT
    A FB arrangement can be successful, but it all depends on the parties. Some want an arrangement where there is a major physical attraction, but the parties don't want to know (or care) about who the other person is or their life. Others like "friends with benefits", where both are friends, have things in common and they fuck on the side.
    That can be more challenging, but that also can be successful.

    The problem is emotions and expectations. You have to be pretty grounded and controlled to do well here. Good communication, understanding, etc are important components to success. Without it, I doubt it's going to go anywhere.
  • zenny

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    Jun 25, 2010 5:32 AM GMT
    Thanks guys for your expertise. I decided not to approach this guy and just let things happen (if it does). Moving on with my life.