I think i've been way to desperate

  • highlyevolved

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    Jun 13, 2010 3:13 PM GMT
    hink the guy im seeing is gonna break it off with me!

    The other night we were kinda talking on the phone but the conversation wasnt really going anywhere so I told him "im gonna go this conversation isn't going anywhere" then phone cut out so we never said proper goodbyes.

    I said him a text saying "goodnight then" and he sent one back saying "it cut out. night".

    I saw he was on fb but he didn't start any chats with me.

    So last night it'd been about 24 hours since i'd heard from him so I bit the bullet and texted him.

    Me: I miss you sooo bad. I need you. i wanna come see you tonight
    Him: Awww that's really sweet of you. What are you doing? i'm watching movies with Bec.
    Me: Nothing just at home.
    Him: I would come and visit you but it will be too late to get there when Bec leaves.
    Me: I was gonna come visit you but it's okay i understand
    Him: Awww

    Haven't heard from him today and im going iNSANE.
    The last time i saw him was Monday so a week tomorrow.

    I don't know what to do but I feel like shit atm

    I wanna become the prize again.

  • calibro

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    Jun 13, 2010 5:14 PM GMT
    dude, your response isn't healthy. you should be more worried about why you're being so attached and paranoid than how to become his prize again. back off.
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    Jun 13, 2010 5:27 PM GMT
    I am sorry but this site has filled its quota for whiny Australians. You are going to have find another site. Have a nice day.
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    Jun 13, 2010 5:33 PM GMT
    Caslon! hahahaha noice
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    Jun 13, 2010 5:33 PM GMT
    Caslon14000 saidI am sorry but this site has filled it quota for whiny Australians. You are going to have find another site. Have a nice day.


    HAHa wow. You live in freakin Australia, a land filled with hot guys everywhere! But i agree that the OP's response is REALLY unhealthy. Take it easy..
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    Jun 13, 2010 5:42 PM GMT
    You shouldn't have said "need." Just play it cool and wait for him to get back to you. In a couple of days, if he hasn't initiated any conversation with you, just message him, "What's up?" or something. Being needy is not attractive and you'll attract guys more with showing them as little interest as possible.

    I know how you feel though, new crushes can make you go crazy.

    What exactly does "become the prize" mean?
  • calibro

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    Jun 13, 2010 5:55 PM GMT
    Caslon14000 saidI am sorry but this site has filled its quota for whiny Australians. You are going to have find another site. Have a nice day.


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  • mybud

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    Jun 13, 2010 11:09 PM GMT
    Beenin needy is the gay poison.....Bud
  • highlyevolved

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    Jun 13, 2010 11:37 PM GMT
    mswete saidYou shouldn't have said "need." Just play it cool and wait for him to get back to you. In a couple of days, if he hasn't initiated any conversation with you, just message him, "What's up?" or something. Being needy is not attractive and you'll attract guys more with showing them as little interest as possible.

    I know how you feel though, new crushes can make you go crazy.

    What exactly does "become the prize" mean?



    I want him to see me as the catch again rather than some desperate guy.
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    Jun 13, 2010 11:47 PM GMT
    highlyevolved saidhink the guy im seeing is gonna break it off with me!

    The other night we were kinda talking on the phone but the conversation wasnt really going anywhere so I told him "im gonna go this conversation isn't going anywhere" then phone cut out so we never said proper goodbyes.

    I said him a text saying "goodnight then" and he sent one back saying "it cut out. night".

    I saw he was on fb but he didn't start any chats with me.

    So last night it'd been about 24 hours since i'd heard from him so I bit the bullet and texted him.

    Me: I miss you sooo bad. I need you. i wanna come see you tonight
    Him: Awww that's really sweet of you. What are you doing? i'm watching movies with Bec.
    Me: Nothing just at home.
    Him: I would come and visit you but it will be too late to get there when Bec leaves.
    Me: I was gonna come visit you but it's okay i understand
    Him: Awww

    Haven't heard from him today and im going iNSANE.
    The last time i saw him was Monday so a week tomorrow.

    I don't know what to do but I feel like shit atm

    I wanna become the prize again.



    Hink isn't going to break it off with you, he already has. Hink doesn't want to see you anymore.

    There are so many threads like this where gay men seem to be hung up on the last one and it prevents them from keeping an eye out for the next one. I wonder how many have missed the guy that would have been the right one. Keep looking. You are young and will probably have to put a lot of notches in your lipstick case before you find the right guy for you.
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    Jun 13, 2010 11:50 PM GMT
    Caslon14000 saidI am sorry but this site has filled its quota for whiny Australians. You are going to have find another site. Have a nice day.


    Charming!

  • DCEric

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    Jun 14, 2010 12:47 AM GMT
    Move on. If you have trouble with that, see a therapist, not an online forum.
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    Jun 14, 2010 12:54 AM GMT


    Trickery I tell you!icon_rolleyes.gif
  • highlyevolved

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    Jun 14, 2010 1:36 AM GMT
    Can I ask why you think it's over?
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    Jun 14, 2010 1:39 AM GMT
    WestAussieGuy said
    Caslon14000 saidI am sorry but this site has filled its quota for whiny Australians. You are going to have find another site. Have a nice day.


    Charming!

    Oh I didnt mean Western Australians! ... icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 14, 2010 1:53 AM GMT
    highlyevolved saidCan I ask why you think it's over?


    Go back and re-read your original post.
  • highlyevolved

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    Jun 14, 2010 2:15 AM GMT
    I'm pretty clueless and blinded atm!

    Would you say it's because he didn't say he missed me?
    Would that "this conversation is going nowhere" really have killed it all...he called me and before that everything seemed fine?
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    Jun 14, 2010 10:20 PM GMT
    highlyevolved saidI'm pretty clueless and blinded atm!


    Don't worry too much about it. You can still get away with it. You're just young. Years from now you can replace the adjectives 'clueless' with 'old' and 'blinded' with 'bitter'

    highlyevolved saidWould you say it's because he didn't say he missed me?
    Would that "this conversation is going nowhere" really have killed it all...he called me and before that everything seemed fine?


    Oh why does it take the tears of a boy to see how men are? He hasn't been contacting you, so it seems obvious he has moved on. You should do the same. There is something better out there, so go and find it.
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    Jun 22, 2010 6:27 PM GMT
    Don’t let your sense of self-worth depend on “being his prize again”. That desperate desire to be wanted or sought-after is very unhealthy and could potentially really harm your mental well-being. You and your boyfriend need to have more open and honest communication in order to build a healthier relationship, and not one in which you are clearly co-dependent and his interest level clearly fluctuates. If it’s difficult or impossible to establish the type of communication you wish you could share with him, you really need to question whether this relationship is right for you. True love is when both partners can love and accept one another wholly, completely and unconditionally, and when both partners can support one another to become the happiest and most successful versions of themselves possible.

    Take everything I’ve said with a grain of salt though, lol, I’ve never even had a boyfriend, so I’m probably full of shit.
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    Jun 22, 2010 7:00 PM GMT

    This post reminds me of how very soulless communication has become in the modern era.

    Get off your FB and your txting and go talk to that boy, or you will always be driven crazy by context by what you don't understand!
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    Jun 22, 2010 7:04 PM GMT
    You guys are encouraging assumptions, assume and you make and -ass- out of -u- and -me-. You should go speak too him about it. And if he does want to stop seeing you, you'll have to deal with that accordingly. Until then, grow some.
  • TonyD

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    Jun 22, 2010 7:14 PM GMT
    Based on what you've written,
    the relationship does not seem over.

    However, your needy feelings and naming it desperate
    is a normal human dynamic.

    For one, people need each other ...and to the guy who said 'need is the gay poison' on this thread...he's right. Until you meet more mature people where need is normal and needs to be factored into our interactions. If we had no need, we wouldn't bother with anything