"Why don't I ever get anyone to talk to me" threads

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    Jun 13, 2010 8:16 PM GMT
    Ok mates, I have recently seen many threads pop about lonely guys who never get hit on or who never have anyone that talks to them. I may have some insight that may assist you in your quest.

    I live in Houston, a big city with lots of gays. I am friends with a guy here who I will call Mark. Mark is a single gay educated professional in his mid 30s. Mark always has lots of people around him. He has about 3,000 friends on facebook. Mark isn't the hottest man on earth. It is very interesting that Mark has the power in the gay community to gather almost everyone... with the snap of his finger, he is like a shepherd guiding the gays. When he is at a party, you will never see him alone as he is greeted by everyone that walks through the doors.

    One time while I was watching him work his magic at one of his huge weekly house dinners (which by the way, is an honor to receive an invitation), I asked one of his best friends this question, "How does Mark do it? What is it about him that sets him apart from others?" His best friend's response....

    "Well Mark isn't the most attractive guy in the world, nor is he the funniest. With that said, Mark has this tremendous power to attract EVERYONE because Mark treats everyone the same. To him it doesn't matter if you are 60 years old, fat, and ugly or if you are a 20 year old model. He always pays you full attention and puts you first ahead of himself."

    Perhaps some of us can learn from this eh?....

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    Jun 13, 2010 8:34 PM GMT
    I've noticed that most people who post the "Why don't I ever get anyone to talk to me" threads tend to be people nobody would want to talk to in real life, either, and that's why they're trying to make friends online instead...with the same luck.

    Just an observation. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 13, 2010 8:39 PM GMT
    Some guys are on the dance floor with their shirts off, shaking what there mama gave’m others are standing along the walls waiting for someone to drag them out onto the floor.
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    Jun 13, 2010 8:45 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidSome guys are on the dance floor with their shirts off, shaking what there mama gave’m others are standing along the walls waiting for someone to drag them out onto the floor.
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    In the bar I go to, I stand along the wall with my shirt off, and inevitably someone will drag me out the front door into their hotel. Oops I meant onto the dance floor.
    Just an observation.
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    Jun 14, 2010 12:34 AM GMT

    The power given to make someone feel important, appreciated, accepted and heard is one of the most valuable gifts one can give and who doesn't want to be around the one giving those out. I had a friend in High school that promoted parties and made tons of money by getting teens to gather under one roof at some club on a random night. Yes he was gorgeous didn't play sports but his hobby was ppl. No matter if it was the fat kid frm camp, the cheerleader, high school jock, Bookworm, thug, gay, lesbian or Mary poppins whom ever, he always made you feel like you deserved to be amongst the company of whoever was there. He remembered names what high school on long island you were frm if not frm our home school etc..... It's remarkable to watch someone in the element of making ppl feel present.
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    Jun 14, 2010 2:25 AM GMT
    Hillie said
    The power given to make someone feel important, appreciated, accepted and heard is one of the most valuable gifts one can give and who doesn't want to be around the one giving those out. I had a friend in High school that promoted parties and made tons of money by getting teens to gather under one roof at some club on a random night. Yes he was gorgeous didn't play sports but his hobby was ppl. No matter if it was the fat kid frm camp, the cheerleader, high school jock, Bookworm, thug, gay, lesbian or Mary poppins whom ever, he always made you feel like you deserved to be amongst the company of whoever was there. He remembered names what high school on long island you were frm if not frm our home school etc..... It's remarkable to watch someone in the element of making ppl feel present.



    I just like to sit back and watch these kinds of people work their magic!
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    Jun 14, 2010 2:33 AM GMT
    Not everybody is a schmoozer. And the sooner that they realize that about themselves the sooner they will be able to deal with their temperament and their lives.
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    Jun 14, 2010 2:40 AM GMT
    so, you have those wonderful hosts inviting tons of gays for dinner.
    ok, what happens once the guests sit down and start bitching at this one and that one...lol .
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    Jun 14, 2010 2:40 AM GMT
    lol ikr?
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    Jun 14, 2010 2:45 AM GMT
    xassantex saidso, you have those wonderful hosts inviting tons of gays for dinner.
    ok, what happens once the guests sit down and start bitching at this one and that one...lol .



    That's just one element amongst many of the night.
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    Jun 14, 2010 2:46 AM GMT
    I dunno if the club scene is a good place to meet good friends. Gays in the club tend to fall into a certain clique in that particular city. So before you know it your in that clique also, and it usually isn't a good thing if you clique is know as plastic, if your a person w/feelings that is. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 14, 2010 2:50 AM GMT
    Aggieboy said
    "How does Mark do it? What is it about him that sets him apart from others?" His best friend's response....

    "Well Mark isn't the most attractive guy in the world, nor is he the funniest. With that said, Mark has this tremendous power to attract EVERYONE because Mark treats everyone the same.




    wait wait....hold up
    i'll add to the answer...lolz

    it's cuz there aint a chance in hell that Mark will stand under a light pole in the middle of da streetz and weep them tears for an hour cuz it turned out the dude was a hungry bottom.....lolzicon_lol.gif
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    Jun 14, 2010 2:53 AM GMT
    id love to meet this mark...sounds like the type of man i always never end up meeting.
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    Jun 14, 2010 2:54 AM GMT
    Aggieboy said
    "Well Mark isn't the most attractive guy in the world, nor is he the funniest. With that said, Mark has this tremendous power to attract EVERYONE because Mark treats everyone the same. To him it doesn't matter if you are 60 years old, fat, and ugly or if you are a 20 year old model. He always pays you full attention and puts you first ahead of himself."


    Exquisite truth. We all know someone like this if we think hard enough. That one extremely popular person that you see, don't quite know how or why they got into that position, or how YOU will ever get someone like that to think you matter, and then they greet you as if you're the king of the world. And then you get it.
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    Jun 14, 2010 3:12 AM GMT
    Aggieboy saidOk mates, I have recently seen many threads pop about lonely guys who never get hit on or who never have anyone that talks to them. I may have some insight that may assist you in your quest.

    I live in Houston, a big city with lots of gays. I am friends with a guy here who I will call Mark. Mark is a single gay educated professional in his mid 30s. Mark always has lots of people around him. He has about 3,000 friends on facebook. Mark isn't the hottest man on earth. It is very interesting that Mark has the power in the gay community to gather almost everyone... with the snap of his finger, he is like a shepherd guiding the gays. When he is at a party, you will never see him alone as he is greeted by everyone that walks through the doors.

    One time while I was watching him work his magic at one of his huge weekly house dinners (which by the way, is an honor to receive an invitation), I asked one of his best friends this question, "How does Mark do it? What is it about him that sets him apart from others?" His best friend's response....

    "Well Mark isn't the most attractive guy in the world, nor is he the funniest. With that said, Mark has this tremendous power to attract EVERYONE because Mark treats everyone the same. To him it doesn't matter if you are 60 years old, fat, and ugly or if you are a 20 year old model. He always pays you full attention and puts you first ahead of himself."

    Perhaps some of us can learn from this eh?....






    So i am just like your friend Mark (not to brag). And yesterday I was at a club where a lot of older guys approached me, being the person i am, i talked to them nicely as I would with anyone..
    later that night, my friend james gave me a really hard time about it. he kept on making fun of me saying how "oh ur into those types of guys". and he kept on pushing me towards them and doing dumb stuff like that. he did this the whole night.


    because of what he was doing to me, i began unconsciously thinking that what i was doing was wrong. and that i probably look like some slut talking to every guy.

    But after reading what you wrote, i got a warm feeling inside which assured me to continue as i am.

    thanks.
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    Jun 14, 2010 3:17 AM GMT
    Thanks for writing this about me Aggieboy, it's true I do have a lot of friends and like to treat everyone the same. It was really sweet of you to honor me like this.

    I'm joking of course but I agree with your friend Mark's philosophy. Life's too short to be a dick to anyone.
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    Jun 14, 2010 4:05 AM GMT
    It's funny some dudes on here think you chattin with them is a waste if your not attracted to them...... Some in Gay society need to lessen the "it's all about the looks philosophy" and look a little deeper...Some awesome men lurking under the surface........................BIG BUD
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    Jun 14, 2010 4:26 AM GMT
    someguy saidThanks for writing this about me Aggieboy, it's true I do have a lot of friends and like to treat everyone the same. It was really sweet of you to honor me like this.

    I'm joking of course but I agree with your friend Mark's philosophy. Life's too short to be a dick to anyone.



    ..and fragile.
    "Life's too short to be a dick to anyone."




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    Jun 14, 2010 4:31 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidI've noticed that most people who post the "Why don't I ever get anyone to talk to me" threads tend to be people nobody would want to talk to in real life, either, and that's why they're trying to make friends online instead...with the same luck.

    Just an observation. icon_wink.gif



    Funny icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 15, 2010 10:49 PM GMT
    tereseus1 saidid love to meet this mark...sounds like the type of man i always never end up meeting.




    I agree icon_biggrin.gif
  • Nayro

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    Jun 15, 2010 11:01 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI've noticed that most people who post the "Why don't I ever get anyone to talk to me" threads tend to be people nobody would want to talk to in real life, either, and that's why they're trying to make friends online instead...with the same luck.

    Just an observation. icon_wink.gif


    hmm ur a bitch icon_razz.gif I still love u though.