agri_sci saidHad this discussion with my buddy and I just feel that some people cannot have that surrender that falling in love entails. I mean, I have loved a few men but nothing profound enough to make me betray my logic to allow them to have that influence on me. Thoughts?
Perhaps too many thoughts already. What makes you call it a surrender, and a betrayal of your "logic" to love someone? Is it logic at work, or an illogical fear?
Often when we find ourselves doing (or not doing) what most everyone else is doing, and for no discernible reason, we invent all kinds of rationalizations that obscure the real cause. And not only to persuade others to accept our exceptional behavior as being unremarkable and logical, but to convince ourselves of it, as well.
And so, yes, in a sense some people are incapable of falling in love. But only because they won't LET themselves fall in love, not that they really can't. Your comments suggest to me you see love as a 1-way street, where others take your love from you and give nothing in return. That wouldn't be a good deal if that's how it always is.
But I've generally found myself loved as much as I loved others, so that I had to surrender nothing, but rather got back at least as much as I gave. And my own logic is that I have nothing to fear from the influence of others, and much to gain, provided I can tell the difference between a good influence and a bad one, and when my own influence on others is equally appreciated & welcome, too.