Jumping From One Relationship to the Next...

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    Jun 14, 2010 11:22 PM GMT
    I've been noticing a lot in our community how many if not most men jump from one relationship to another.

    What I mean is, say someone has had a bf for a month, they breakup, then one of them, if not both, get into ANOTHER realtionship.

    I myself could never do that. I can't even make someone my bf, until a few months.

    Do you consider it unhealthy for someone to move from guy to guy like that? How long do you guys wait before really considering yourself "with" someone?
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    Jun 15, 2010 3:18 AM GMT
    I think that this is more rampant in the gay youth sector. I have met many gays like this and all have one thing in common. From my experience, they usually tend to not have much going for themselves career wise and only worry about going to the clubs and such... I dunno, just my opinion. For this reason, I tend to be attracted to older guys who have their life together and thus avoid some drama.
  • mybud

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    Jun 15, 2010 3:33 AM GMT
    chattrbox saidI've been noticing a lot in our community how many if not most men jump from one relationship to another.

    What I mean is, say someone has had a bf for a month, they breakup, then one of them, if not both, get into ANOTHER realtionship.

    I myself could never do that. I can't even make someone my bf, until a few months.

    Do you consider it unhealthy for someone to move from guy to guy like that? How long do you guys wait before really considering yourself "with" someone?


    It's called greener pastures syndrome...some gay guys see a relationship like upgrading their car....ya I love my civic but I'll get more attention in this bmw.....Dude it's unhealthy emotionally to jump from one guy to the next....but you expressing this shows me you wont be one of those individuals..Speaking for myself I don't measure the time when deciding to date a guy...for me I feel a connection....a spark....true love is timeless man.....BUD
  • calibro

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    Jun 15, 2010 3:36 AM GMT
    straight people do this too
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    Jun 15, 2010 3:42 AM GMT
    chattrbox saidHow long do you guys wait before really considering yourself "with" someone?


    I wait for third date because I want to give it some time and not seem like a crazy lesbian saying I'm "with" someone after the second date.
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    Jun 15, 2010 3:43 AM GMT
    What do lesbians bring to the second date????


    A UHAUL!
  • _gingin

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    Jun 15, 2010 6:17 AM GMT
    i've actually had a conversation that relates to this topic with my housemates before. i think there are a fair number of gay men not as you've described. it just so happens the most visual of the lot are usually the most promiscuous and flea-like, so to speak.
    yet my housemates attribute this to environment: for example, they believe sidneysiders (gay men) are by far more promiscuous and flea-like in their behavior to melbournites.

    i believe the approach to this phenomena should not come from value judgement of whether or not it is healthy or unhealthy and how far it deviates from some standard archetypal perfect practice of courtship because there isn't any standard to begin with. it differs from towns to cities worldwide, not to mention the different cultural and personal attitudes involved.