cooper> That plastic guy is scary freaky.
No kidding. I find most results of plastic surgery to look too artificial. Just like fake tans.
treader> there's so many levels of compatibilty that need to be there to make a relationship work. It seems so hard....
I think that's the issue. Everyone thinks that when they find the "one", everything will fall in place, everything will be easy, and they'll ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after.
Then, when the honeymoon is over (usually 2-3 weeks later), suddenly each one finds out that the other, after all, is only human. So rather than get beyond whatever the problem is (or even talk about it), it's splitsville and on to the next iteration of the same thing.
I think that in many cases the problem isn't one partner or the other, not necessarily even compatibility issues - just not knowing how to work on and make relationships work. It's simpler to take the easy way out, break up, and try again with someone else (which, if you think about it, is one definition for "insanity").
My partner and I have been together for 12 years. It hasn't always been easy. In fact, it's never easy. We almost broke up a few times over this stretch. After one particularly bad spell, we were in therapy for a year. Now we argue like an old married couple. And then we have make-up sex.(:
I know some people here were still talking about starting a relationship and I'm talking about keeping one, but there might be a connection in the reticence to entering a relationship (because the other guy isn't "perfect") in he first place.
As for the superficial beauty, consider that love (of the relationship sort, not lust) isn't so much how you look into each others eyes, but how you look out together at the rest of the world.