A former jock, looking to get back in-shape looking for motivation.

  • coachjms

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    Jun 15, 2010 4:34 AM GMT
    I was a two sport athlete in HS (Basketball and Baseball), after a short sting of pro-ball, I went into coaching. Dealing with being in the closet in a tough sports eviroment, the stress and the pressure got me to the haviest I ever being. 278 lbs. Because I'm 6'3 I got away with being overweight, however I don't feel good about myself. So, I recently decided to make some peace with my sexuality, I'm still coaching and now I've decided to get back working out.

    For those out there that understand that I'm down mentality, and that effects my motivation, hey let me get some tips to overcome my lacking.

    I want to know your secrets, it will help me a great deal.

    I began Today, ate normal today!

    Hope to hear from you and Thank you in advice for all your comments and thoughts!
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    Jun 15, 2010 7:49 AM GMT
    My secret is the mirror. I got tired of having a body I'm not attracted to. I wanted to be able to look in the mirror and get a boner looking at myself. So, I began walking 30-45 minutes daily for a few months to get my body accustomed to activity again, then started working out hard back in Dec. 09. By May, I was able to look in the mirror and turn myself on again (seems narcissistic I know, just keep reading).

    Now that I'm finally full of myself...oops I meant attracted to my own physique, it's giving me motivation to work even harder to get the shredded Adonis look. Though I don't "need" that look per se, it will definitely boost my income a little bit because I do some adult/fetish work on the side to supplement my f/t income.

    One more secret: Patience and determination. Nothing works without those two secrets.
  • bkjhebert

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    Jun 15, 2010 11:04 AM GMT
    The keys are setting realistic goals and being consistent with your diet and workouts. Set weekly workout goals that are achievable in 3 - 4 days and seek consistency week over week. This way, you can skip a few days during the week and still meet your overall goals. Develop an exercise routine you can do at home during inclemete weather or days you can't get to the gym.

    With diet, seek to eat fresh foods versus processed foods. Keep healthy snacks with you where ever you go, such as nuts or protein bars. Remember that we live in a society where food is readily available, so denying yourself a slice of pizza or a dessert doesn't mean you can't have it when you want it. That mindset will help you forgo overeating.

    Good luck!
  • RSportsguy

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    Jun 15, 2010 11:10 AM GMT
    Welcome coach JMS! Good luck! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 15, 2010 11:50 AM GMT
    Find a way to keep yourself accountable to yourself and/or someone else. Blog... workout buddy... all good places to start.
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    Jun 15, 2010 12:46 PM GMT
    My main motivation is the guys I'm attracted to. It's not always true but aren't people with similar health and activity goals more well-suited? When I look in the mirror I try to put myself in the place of the guys I'm in to. Would they be happy with their body if they looked like me? I sure hope so.

    My other tip is to let yourself slip up every now and then workout/diet-wise. Be diligent -- but don't let a 'down' day or big indulgent meal get in the way of your motivation.

    Good luck! Post updates!
  • charonjr

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    Jun 15, 2010 10:53 PM GMT
    I'm having a similar issue: I'm 308 after years of diabetes and physical inactivity, due to injuries to my hands. I used to lift in the 80's, but never got it right: overtraining! A few years ago, I did start working out again and I got down to 280. Then a tough year (HELL 2009): mom died and two of my cats died, I lost my job and had to sign over my trailer (which I owned) to pay back rent of $475 (manager would not allow a sale), and I had to move back to Tucson leaving all of my friends behind, and my gym. That was all in a single month. Then, once here, blew two hernias and injured my hands in a fall. So I only worked out one month this past year.

    I'm sure that being overweight does not attract anyone, certainly not at the gym. So when I'm completely healed from my most recent hernia operation (end of June, I hope), I want to restart exercising.

    The one thing I totally regret about the gym: no one will partner with me. I don't know if it's because I'm gay and not afraid to say so, or whether others just don't want to be associated with someone who is fat, or I'm just not at their workout level.

    I want to see what others think would be the best way to strengthen my core.

    I see that there are great looking guys here in Tucson, but I'm actually kind of afraid to make contact with them because I'm so out of their workout "league", if you will.

    I do know that I ultimately want to look fabulously, muscularly, shredded and I'm 49, so I would like some help.

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  • coastguy90814

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    Jun 15, 2010 11:13 PM GMT
    coachjms saidI was a two sport athlete in HS (Basketball and Baseball), after a short sting of pro-ball, I went into coaching. Dealing with being in the closet in a tough sports eviroment, the stress and the pressure got me to the haviest I ever being. 278 lbs. Because I'm 6'3 I got away with being overweight, however I don't feel good about myself. So, I recently decided to make some peace with my sexuality, I'm still coaching and now I've decided to get back working out.

    For those out there that understand that I'm down mentality, and that effects my motivation, hey let me get some tips to overcome my lacking.

    I want to know your secrets, it will help me a great deal.

    I began Today, ate normal today!

    Hope to hear from you and Thank you in advice for all your comments and thoughts!


    Check out my videos on my FB page. They are a bit rough cut but might help get back in the swing of things. There is some basic good information in the videos that you may want to get 'reaquainted' to. Good luck man!

    http://www.facebook.com/BELIEVE8
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    Jun 15, 2010 11:28 PM GMT
    One way to follow nutritional goals is to create calorie, etc. daily targets and follow them. Creating a log help keep you accountable, but it does take focus. This site is free and is an excellent source of nutrition information and lets you maintain a diary of what you eat.

    http://www.sparkpeople.com
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    Jun 15, 2010 11:30 PM GMT
    You'll get more sex.
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    Jun 16, 2010 1:14 AM GMT
    There's a couple of my RJ buddies I'm kinda accountable to, and that really helps. There's plenty of neat guys on this site who are more than willing to help you out. Just feel your way around and ask. Use others for motivation. There's plenty of former fat guys on this site. I'm hoping to join that club myself. You can do it. I'm trying to go from 227 to 170. I'm at 216 now after a little over a month, and the way I see myself is changing. I actually am starting to like me now. Just make sure you put your needs first when it comes to taking care of the only body you were provided with. Stay in touch, maybe we can help each other, OKicon_question.gif
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    Jun 16, 2010 3:00 AM GMT
    You'll get more sex.
  • mybud

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    Jun 16, 2010 4:13 AM GMT
    Welcome to the forums man....For motivation to stick remember you started this journey to better health for YOU.....not for your partner...not for the hot guy at the gym...not for your friends or co-workers.....See your workouts as ...me time...look forward to them...relish them...Lastly...There's alot of great regular,nice, guys on here to get advice and motivation... utilize them......Much Luck.....BUD
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    Jun 16, 2010 4:31 AM GMT
    I surf porn that feature hot, muscley guys. I think, "That could be me...: and I hit the gym.

    OK, not really.
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    Jun 16, 2010 4:54 AM GMT
    -Find something you love to do and make it your focus.

    -Train for an event. Finishing a 5k or something like that is a good start.

    -Understand that the body isn't what defines you and in order to have to change your looks. You have to change mentally or else you're just going to slip back into the same patterns no matter what your intentions are.

    -Joining a recreational sports league so you can get back into that competitive mentality which can set you up for success.

    -Don't overthink your diet...just make a good decision in that moment and hold to that without worrying about what everyone else is eating or what you wish you were eating.

    Hope that helps.
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    Jun 16, 2010 7:35 PM GMT
    You'll get more sex.
  • coachjms

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    Jun 18, 2010 4:21 AM GMT
    Hey, I'm really glad that I took the type to post up, everyone has being so supportive and kind to share their secrets and motivational tools with me.

    I began to workout Monday June 14 and it's thursday night and I'm happy to write this after an hour of a great cordio work out. Feeling the sweat again, brought me back to the glory days of my playing days and it really motivated me. I love the feeling of being on the run, competing again. And even though I'm not facing an opponent, I do see my out of shape and weight as the oppent I must strike out and beat.

    Thanks again to all of you guys!

    Keep going!
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    Jun 18, 2010 4:42 AM GMT
    Caslon14000 saidYou'll get more sex.


    Yeah.
    That's the only reason why I want to get in shape.
  • nicelyproport...

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    Jun 18, 2010 6:33 PM GMT
    Do it because, when you're in shape, EVERYTHING is better.
    What worked for me was to go for it in a big way:

    A few years ago I was 40 pounds heavier than I am now; at my biggest, about 50-60 pounds.

    For me, a half-gallon carton of Breyer's used to be single-serving size. No bowl needed.

    At the same time I'd tell myself that I just wasn't built like those guys in the fitness magazines.

    The truth is I wasn't really trying. I'd make a small change, get a small result, then say it wasn't working.

    Then one day I decided to put it to the test. I decided to really go for it.

    No more added fats. No more processed sugar. Only lean protein, whole grains, fresh vegetables and fruit.

    When I worked out at the gym, I worked out. Hard. For every set the other guy did, I did three.

    Instead of running two miles at a stretch, I started to run five. Then six. Then seven. Once I ran 21 miles in a day.

    I got used to being a little hungry. To burn off the fat, I had to use more fuel than I was consuming. How could I do that without being at least a little hungry?

    Lo and behold, my body started to change. I started to see abs. And biceps. And pecs. The pics in my profile tell the story better.

    Now it's a way of life. I can't imagine going back to the way I was.
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    Jun 23, 2010 1:01 PM GMT
    Feel free to message me if you want. I'm trying to lose weight too so we can do it together. One day at a time.
  • sportsjockla

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    Jun 23, 2010 1:25 PM GMT
    Find different exercises to do at the gym. Don't do the same thing over and over. You won't get results that way and you will get bored fast. Watch other guys in the gym how they work out. Talk to or hire a personal trainer. No better way to commit then to do that.
    Good luck!
  • ThePsychonaut

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    Jun 23, 2010 1:44 PM GMT
    My self esteem and my body are definitely linked, I made the commitment to loose weight after I finally got the nerve to see a mental health professional and its quite simply the best thing I did, if you are feeling down yourself give it a shot. it can really make a difference.