Afraid of moving to a smaller city

  • bluecrow

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    Jun 15, 2010 8:55 AM GMT
    I moved to Sydney last year from Shanghai. Lucky me, I found a job and earned some money. Then my contact finished, I have been looking for a job since then. Lately I have been thinking to discover the other opportunities in other cities.

    Sydney is considerably the largest city in Australia. Except Melbourne, other cities are much smaller. Adventure? Sure! Whether it's a strategic move? Not sure.

    I am actually a bit concerned about what the chances are meeting the other guys in a smaller city. I am in my 30's and looking. There are definitely quite a lot gay men live in the area where I am living right now. Surry hills in Sydney, there are the most gay population. You see gay guys and gay couples everywhere. More than half of the male you see on the street are actually gay. It's a quite gay friendly suburban. Although I haven't met the one, I guess I just have to hanging there, make new friends and networking. My flatmate has met someone through a mutual friend recently.

    I know many of the guys on RJ are not from large cities like NYC. So how do you guys meet the others besides using those gay website, such as manhunt, gaydar. Not that I am oppose those website, however, most of the messages I get from those sites are from people who's looking for hookups.

    Have you ever think of moving to a larger city where a lot more gay guys and gay friendly? And if you have to live in a small city where you have to drive miles away to get a local gay bar. how do you handle the situation? Are you considering to move somewhere else? icon_eek.gif
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    Jun 15, 2010 9:23 AM GMT
    I was raised in a rural community, just outside a hick town with a population of ~3000 animals, including people. It was over an hour from the nearest gay bar.

    Now I live in South Florida, which is a gigantic metroplex with over 100 gay bars in a 50 mile radius. Out of all those, I only go to one semi-regularly, on South Beach. Even without going to gay bars, it's still easy to find gay guys out and about in public. They're everywhere.

    Now this summer I'm working out of state in a small town, over an hour from the nearest gay bar; and the area in general is not gay friendly. Then again, most small towns are not gay friendly. I can't wait to get this summer contract over with, and get the fuck back to SoFla where I belong. But in the meantime, I'm having fun hitting on this one cute dude who can't take his eyes off me nor stop chatting with me every chance he gets. I'll probably end up boning him before I leave. icon_biggrin.gif
  • beaujangle

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    Jun 15, 2010 11:54 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidI was raised in a rural community, just outside a hick town with a population of ~3000 animals, including people. It was over an hour from the nearest gay bar.

    Now I live in South Florida, which is a gigantic metroplex with over 100 gay bars in a 50 mile radius. Out of all those, I only go to one semi-regularly, on South Beach. Even without going to gay bars, it's still easy to find gay guys out and about in public. They're everywhere.

    Now this summer I'm working out of state in a small town, over an hour from the nearest gay bar; and the area in general is not gay friendly. Then again, most small towns are not gay friendly. I can't wait to get this summer contract over with, and get the fuck back to SoFla where I belong. But in the meantime, I'm having fun hitting on this one cute dude who can't take his eyes off me nor stop chatting with me every chance he gets. I'll probably end up boning him before I leave. icon_biggrin.gif



    over 100 gay bars? really?
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    Jun 15, 2010 12:05 PM GMT
    You know... I moved to Northampton, MA from New York City. I thought I'd never meet people out there. I was not only proven wrong, but there proved to be a much tighter-knit community there compared to New York... it was SO much easier to make friends and meet some guys who were interested in doing things other than club-hopping.

    It could be a good thing.... don't worry.
  • vintovka

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    Jun 15, 2010 2:23 PM GMT
    I've lived in a small city for the last 19 years and there is a decent sized gay population here, but gay "culture" in Providence (and nearby Boston) seems to be mostly a combination of whatever was happening in NYC five years ago mixed with last year's Abercrombie and Fitch catalog. So as a non-stereotypical gay man with limited fashion sense and neck tattoos, I've thought on many occasions of moving to New York, LA, or San Fransisco (all places where I've gotten a better response).

    All the same I love Providence, it is a smaller and more close knit community than you'd ever find in a larger city--it's just that most of my connections here are with straight people--good for the social life, not so good for the sex life, haha.