Delayed ejaculation

  • Kellzor

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    Feb 04, 2008 11:59 AM GMT
    Allrighty, so I was recently with a man and we were fooling around. To make things short and less emberasing, we ended up exchanging oral sex.

    However, the only problem was that I didn't come. we went at it a few hours later and i met the same problem.

    Now I know this can happen to older guys, but I just turned 19! The only way I was able to do it was if I started myself off with some masturbation and then let him finish me off.

    I really want to be able to come for him, not let him just sit there while I play with myself. Any help or suggestions?
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    Feb 04, 2008 12:44 PM GMT
    At 19, I doubt there's anything physically wrong with you. My first guess is that you simply weren't attracted to him; it's pretty hard to shoot a load when you're not sufficiently excited. Also, according to your profile, you're new to this, and it could just be the nervousness of inexperience. And from the description, I get the impression this was casual sex and not lovemaking in the context of a relationship; it could also be that your dick is wired into your heart, and casual sex just doesn't sexually fire you up.
  • Kellzor

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    Feb 04, 2008 1:52 PM GMT
    Well but thats the problem. Ive been dating him a while and I really like him. I do hope that we work out and I can call him my boyfriend soon.

    Everything is great now except for that one part!

    Ugh, damn body or mind! haha
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    Apr 02, 2008 7:49 PM GMT
    I don't think it is that uncommon not to be able to climax while someone is blowing you. It could be you are subconsciously trying to prevent coming in his mouth.

    I have never climaxed in someone's mouth, even when I was HIV-, it was considered risky behaviour.

    Invariably I climax by having my partner masturbating me after we have engaged in oral sex and foreplay.

    Now if you are having trouble climaxing even after being masturbated for awhile by your partner, then it could be you are getting self-conscious about not being able to come, which in turn prevents you from coming.
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    Apr 03, 2008 7:37 PM GMT
    Kellzor said

    However, the only problem was that I didn't come. we went at it a few hours later and i met the same problem.

    Now I know this can happen to older guys, but I just turned 19! The only way I was able to do it was if I started myself off with some masturbation and then let him finish me off.


    This has nothing to do with age. Probably just nerves. I've had the same thing happen with guys at different ages. I can stay hard for a long time (most recently when it happened, hours), but it's like my dick is having an anxiety attack, lol.
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    Apr 06, 2008 4:58 AM GMT
    This also happens to me, i can go on for hours most of the time. This isn't bad, this is good. All (or at least I've been told) guy I've been with have enjoyme me being hard for a long time and cum after a long time.

    Do more foreplay. Have fun having sex. I'm a very sexual person, I enjoy it. Which means I don't just fuck or get sucked, it means you play with yourself and your partner.

    Try games and toys and always have new ways to have sex.

    Relax and enjoy the ride.

    ps. If you still have trouble with this, cum and meet me and I'll make you cum.icon_eek.gificon_wink.gif
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    Apr 09, 2008 3:45 PM GMT
    Look at the bright side, I've been with guys who've shot their load before I could get the condom all the way on them. Then we had to just, talk about baseball.
    How about those Reds?