Ethnic Guys: Do you find it offensive/objectifying when a guy says to you- I love ________ (Fill in with any ethnicity) guys. You're so hot!

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    Jun 16, 2010 2:39 AM GMT
    ... or something along those lines.

    I didn't think a lot about this until I read some comments about a video of a Black guy, (not on here) a poster said you know, I want a big Black cock and another poster replied why do you have to mention his race, you don't say I want a big White cock... and it made me think if any other Ethnic guys find it offensive/demeaning when their ethnicity/race is brought up in a "positive way"?

    I'm asking this because I just find it interesting (I'm majoring in Psychology so I'm always intrigued about human behavior LOL)

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    I don't find it offensive (but that's me I don't know about other guys) but if it's like really over the top it does bother me, because I've talked to guys who just because I'm Mexican finish every sentence with papi icon_rolleyes.gif LOL

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    Jun 16, 2010 5:19 AM GMT
    "I love blonds. You're so hot."

    "I love redheads. You're so hot."

    Doesn't sound so bad in those contexts. Trouble is in this country we're so self-conscious about race.
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    Jun 16, 2010 5:40 AM GMT
    i should think not, since they bitch enough on here when they AREN'T objectified.
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    Jun 16, 2010 5:46 AM GMT
    No, no me molesta, papito icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 16, 2010 6:52 AM GMT
    At my age, as long as they like whatever I am, I'll take it. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 16, 2010 6:57 AM GMT
    I don't think there's anything wrong in wanting big black cock. Perfectly reasonable if you ask me.
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:08 AM GMT
    This is kind of a funny question. I've always had a "thing" for Latino guys but after I moved to NYC my eyes were opened. I saw so many amazingly hot guys of different ethnicities. One black guy I dated, and another who is just a friend, both told me they don't date black guys. They date white guys. Does that make me the "ethnic" guy where they're concerned?
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:08 AM GMT
    LatinTwink said I've talked to guys who just because I'm Mexican finish every sentence with papi icon_rolleyes.gif LOL


    i get it the other way around, cause i love mexican men, and they are always calling me papi. so have i now offended mexicans?
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:12 AM GMT
    LatinTwink saidI didn't think a lot about this until I read some comments about a video of a Black guy, (not on here) a poster said you know, I want a big Black cock and another poster replied why do you have to mention his race, you don't say I want a big White cock... and it made me think if any other Ethnic guys find it offensive/demeaning when their ethnicity/race is brought up in a "positive way"?


    What? Oh I guess some guys don't mention "white" because they don't want to be labelled as racist. If I loved white guys I'd say white. But truthfully I love Latino and Blatino and Middle Eastern and guys who are kind thick.
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:13 AM GMT
    p.s. Mexicans, please teach each other that "dad" does not = "papi." I stopped dating this Latino guy cuz he would send me messages but instead of saying the usual stupid "papi" he said "dad." So it was like, "oh dad I can't wait to see you again dad I want you to fuck me again dad," while I'm hoping to god the FBI spying on my phone knows I don't actually have a son.
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:19 AM GMT
    JakeBenson said
    LatinTwink saidI didn't think a lot about this until I read some comments about a video of a Black guy, (not on here) a poster said you know, I want a big Black cock and another poster replied why do you have to mention his race, you don't say I want a big White cock... and it made me think if any other Ethnic guys find it offensive/demeaning when their ethnicity/race is brought up in a "positive way"?


    What? Oh I guess some guys don't mention "white" because they don't want to be labelled as racist. If I loved white guys I'd say white. But truthfully I love Latino and Blatino and Middle Eastern and guys who are kind thick.
    You beat me to it. I was just gonna say that down on South Beach I've been told by many Latinos that they love gringos; and when they tell me that I tell them I love Latinos. icon_lol.gif Then we drop the race talk, leave the bar, and go "prove" our likings for each other. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 16, 2010 7:16 PM GMT
    JakeBenson saidp.s. Mexicans, please teach each other that "dad" does not = "papi." I stopped dating this Latino guy cuz he would send me messages but instead of saying the usual stupid "papi" he said "dad." So it was like, "oh dad I can't wait to see you again dad I want you to fuck me again dad," while I'm hoping to god the FBI spying on my phone knows I don't actually have a son.


    Yeah, you know since we all do that... icon_rolleyes.gif

    And dad does = papi...
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:00 PM GMT
    LatinTwink saidI'm asking this because I just find it interesting (I'm majoring in Psychology so I'm always intrigued about human behavior LOL)


    From a psychological or philosophical standpoint, yeah it's objectifying (took a class in existentialism and there's a lot written on the very subject). But in reality, I think it's just who you're attracted to. I'm short, and it would be really stupid of me to feel "objectified" and turn down a guy just because he was into me being short... we can't help that we're into some physical attribute more than others, race included.
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:11 PM GMT
    RowBuddy saidI get labeled "ethnic" all the time. I guess being "French, German and Basque" (all of which considered wholly "white" ethnicities) makes one "not-white" when you happen to get all the dark hair/eyes genes/olive skin and your other family members got the pasty and red head genes.

    When the Census people came to knock on my door and heard my last name (a Basque origin name shared by many latinos because many basque people moved to Brazil and filtered up thru south american and mexico and eventually into the USA) and looked at me they only gave me two choices as to my ethnicity "Are you Hispanic of Latino?". I yelled at them and told them I am WHITE and my last name is BASQUE and NOT Latino. Clearly your ethnicity is only based on your appearance and last name now! icon_evil.gif




    You should've told them you're simply the original European since Basques had been living in Europe before any Indo-European-speaking group migrated to the continent!
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:14 PM GMT
    dancerjack saidi should think not, since they bitch enough on here when they AREN'T objectified.


    What a silly insult!
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:18 PM GMT
    If only more people understood that not all Hispanics have dark brown/black hair, tanned skin, and brown eyes icon_rolleyes.gif And not having those features doesn't make anyone less Hispanic either! Nor does the ability (or lack of) to speak Spanish.
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:24 PM GMT
    I dont see how it would be any different from saying you just looove blue eyes and blond hair.
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:25 PM GMT
    lol, yep maaaajor turn off.
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:25 PM GMT
    RowBuddy said
    pocketnico saidIf only more people understood that not all Hispanics have dark brown/black hair, tanned skin, and brown eyes icon_rolleyes.gif And not having those features doesn't make anyone less Hispanic either! Nor does the ability (or lack of) to speak Spanish.


    Right. Just like when people ask for my license for ID at the supermarket to use my credit card and start talking Spanish at me like having a last name like mine and looking Mexican means I have the magical ability to understand spanish. Umm. last time I checked the most Spanish I speak is "You quero taco bell".


    Haha. Even though I speak Spanish, I usually don't speak Spanish right away to someone who "looks" Hispanic or has a Hispanic name just because there are plenty of them who don't speak Spanish at all. I don't change the language unless they insist on it first.

    I mean, how many Americans of Irish heritage actually speak Irish Gaelic or German Americans who speak German?
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:31 PM GMT
    Hmm, personally I'm not sure what to make of this topic overall. Being Hispanic means you're of a Spanish-speaking culture. But really, all the countries with Spanish as their main language are different enough from one another not to be lumped into one group. Although certainly all of them share the same history of being former Spanish & Portuguese colonies. Sharing the same language is a nice bond, too, even if the varieties are different.

    The only term I don't care for is Latin/o/a as a synonym for Hispanic. The only real Latin people are the original Latins who founded the ancient city of Rome and spoke the Latin language! Otherwise, you might as well apply to the term to all of the Roman Empire's descendants: French, Spaniards, Romanians, Catalans, Portuguese, Italians, Romansch, they're all of Latin heritage.
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:33 PM GMT
    IMO, people probably won't feel offended/objectified if someone finds them attractive because of their ethnicity, but they might feel that way if someone is viewing them ONLY through the prism of their ethnicity.

    I'm half Japanese/half Caucasian, so I don't really look like a full-blooded asian guy and I can't remember a time when someone was into me specifically because I'm asian.

    I have occasionally heard, "I'm not normally into asians, but you're cute" (or some variation thereof). I'm not quite sure how to take that one. My first thought is always, "So you're feeling abnormal and you find me attractive. Huh." Ultimately, I choose to take it as a compliment.
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:44 PM GMT
    JakeBenson saidp.s. Mexicans, please teach each other that "dad" does not = "papi." I stopped dating this Latino guy cuz he would send me messages but instead of saying the usual stupid "papi" he said "dad." So it was like, "oh dad I can't wait to see you again dad I want you to fuck me again dad," while I'm hoping to god the FBI spying on my phone knows I don't actually have a son.


    LOL maybe he was into dad-son roleplay hahaha icon_twisted.gif I know I find that hot LOL
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:47 PM GMT
    pocketnico saidHmm, personally I'm not sure what to make of this topic overall. Being Hispanic means you're of a Spanish-speaking culture. But really, all the countries with Spanish as their main language are different enough from one another not to be lumped into one group. Although certainly all of them share the same history of being former Spanish & Portuguese colonies. Sharing the same language is a nice bond, too, even if the varieties are different.

    The only term I don't care for is Latin/o/a as a synonym for Hispanic. The only real Latin people are the original Latins who founded the ancient city of Rome and spoke the Latin language! Otherwise, you might as well apply to the term to all of the Roman Empire's descendants: French, Spaniards, Romanians, Catalans, Portuguese, Italians, Romansch, they're all of Latin heritage.


    Well, yeah Hispanic/Latino, which are used interchangeably in the U.S. is an ethnic identification, there are White Hispanic, Black Hispanic, Asian Hispanic because there's not an Hispanic race since we're all mixed (Part Native and Part Caucasian).
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:49 PM GMT
    LatinTwink said
    pocketnico saidHmm, personally I'm not sure what to make of this topic overall. Being Hispanic means you're of a Spanish-speaking culture. But really, all the countries with Spanish as their main language are different enough from one another not to be lumped into one group. Although certainly all of them share the same history of being former Spanish & Portuguese colonies. Sharing the same language is a nice bond, too, even if the varieties are different.

    The only term I don't care for is Latin/o/a as a synonym for Hispanic. The only real Latin people are the original Latins who founded the ancient city of Rome and spoke the Latin language! Otherwise, you might as well apply to the term to all of the Roman Empire's descendants: French, Spaniards, Romanians, Catalans, Portuguese, Italians, Romansch, they're all of Latin heritage.


    Well, yeah Hispanic/Latino, which are used interchangeably in the U.S. is an ethnic identification, there are White Hispanic, Black Hispanic, Asian Hispanic because there's not an Hispanic race since we're all mixed (Part Native and Part Caucasian).


    Just more ways for people to be divided and classified. Stupid U.S. Census icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:50 PM GMT
    seven_deadly_monkeys said "I'm not normally into asians, but you're cute" (or some variation thereof). .


    LOL I think that's offensive I'm part South Korean and I've talked with guys online who have told me I don't like Asians nor Blacks and I'm like icon_rolleyes.gif I'm part Asian and they're like - But you look Latino, so I still like you and I just stop talking to them.

    After someone says to me I don't like ________ guys, even if they're not talkin specifically about my ethnic group I find it a turn off. It's 2010 guys!!! LOL