How do I know?

  • jeff2forge

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    Jun 16, 2010 3:36 AM GMT
    Hey guys, just looking for some advice!!
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    I've meet this amazing guy! Man of your dreams kind of guy. The only problem is, I don't know if he's gay!? I deff have my suspicions. I've never had it so hard to tell? Do I risk our friendship and make a move, how can I tell??????

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    Jun 16, 2010 5:44 AM GMT
    I say just ask him. But be non offensive about it...


    "Hey. I don't know if this is too personal or anything...but are you...gay?"
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    Jun 16, 2010 5:48 AM GMT
    I know you're interested in clues before you get the courage to ask him, but we don't have a lot to go on. Tell us a little more about how you know him and what kind of relationship you have now.
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    Jun 16, 2010 12:30 PM GMT
    Well, you could always print off a copy of this article, leave it in your car, and when he sees it, tell him it belongs to a friend that left it there. Then ask him what he thinks about it.

    http://www.ctv.ca/servlet/ArticleNews/story/CTVNews/20060521/rcmp_marriage_060521/20060521?hub=CTVNewsAt11

    Another way is to put a rainbow decal still with its adhesive backing unused laying on the dash. Tell him one of your gal friends gave it you. Then ask him if she's trying to tell you something.

    This at least opens dialogue without either of you feeling like you're stepping on thin ice.

    How's that?

    -Doug
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    Jun 16, 2010 12:33 PM GMT
    Does he know you're gay?
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    Jun 16, 2010 5:01 PM GMT
    I hate this question. Not being grouchy or anything. But what makes it so difficult to ask? Do you want life to continue passing you by? WTH? Remember this: you miss 100% of the shots you never take.

    cheers.
  • jrs1

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    Jun 17, 2010 1:32 AM GMT
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    Jun 17, 2010 1:38 AM GMT
    RawrlyYou speak of risking your friendship and it sounds like you've just met him. You ought to let that friendship develop first.


    This.
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Jun 29, 2010 7:22 AM GMT
    It's all in the eyes... figuratively speaking. For me, every guy I was interested in, I always tended to pay attention to his eyes and body language. There is a great deal of truth to the idea that "90% of all communication is done through body language."
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    Jun 30, 2010 12:09 AM GMT
    RYAN_SC saidIt's all in the eyes... figuratively speaking. For me, every guy I was interested in, I always tended to pay attention to his eyes and body language. There is a great deal of truth to the idea that "90% of all communication is done through body language."


    You would be surprise though with how many straight men these days can act, dress or look gay these days. In my personal opinion, I think it's worth taking the risk and finding out if he's gay or not. However, if you guys share a really good bond in the friendship, it might not be worth asking him and knowing for sure if he is or isn't a douche.

    So pretty much everything I just said was useless, but I posted it anyways, good luck on finding out icon_wink.gif.
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Jun 30, 2010 12:20 AM GMT
    One: If he's not gay, he's not your dream guy.
    Two: Say it. Just say "man, don't take this the wrong way, but if you were gay, I'd snap you up so fast it would make your head spin."

    And then either welcome your dream guy, or keep dreaming and hope he doesn't turn out to be a homophobic moron poser. Either way, the need to know is valid, and getting hung up on wondering is just a waste of valuable time - either time with him, or time getting over it and moving on.