have you broken up with someone due to his spending habits?

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    Jun 16, 2010 8:05 PM GMT
    my ex for 3 years..i have more money than him, he knew this but didnt exactly gold dig on me.. hed pay for dinners/grocery/small vacations etc, but id take care of the big unexciting things like housing.. but im like uhmm you need to save more youre not maxing out your 401k how are we gonna retire in boca and have our pied a tierre in NYC? he was like uhm going out to dinner once a week or a movie here n there is the spice of life yadda yada

    i dumped him bcause i felt he was gonna raid my trust fund thru these frivolites.. by no means am i saying hes a gold digger, im just much more tight fisted w money than he is, despite me having significantly more of it than him. i liked him in every other aspect but i felt he was too loose with money even though he was able to save like 20% every month (which is probly more than most americans)

    .. my family just happens to save lik 70% of paycheck every month and i cant shake that habit so i had to cut him off.

    so i guess its not that he actually spent too much, its just i cant find someone whos as much of a cheap as as me. and i like being a cheap ass in my high floor ocean view condo thank you.
  • metlboy

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    Jun 16, 2010 9:50 PM GMT
    troll, right?
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:53 PM GMT
    So far I've read two of your posts and they've both mentioned your trust fund. Sad first impression.
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    Jun 16, 2010 9:55 PM GMT
    So you ended a relationship that was "perfect" just because you felt that him saving 20% of his paycheck was not enough for you?

    Says more about you than him, I think. And that would be "my money is more important than my relationships." Nice.

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    Jun 16, 2010 10:00 PM GMT
    Are you serious? The fact that he saves 20% of his paycheck is amazing. I'd say most Americans are struggling to pay off debts, let alone save. You should be less picky than to get rid of a guy for something that you could have worked out. Or don't date guys that don't have as much money in the first place, if that is your preference...
  • calibro

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    Jun 16, 2010 10:08 PM GMT
    perhaps you should invest in a personality with that trust fund of yours since your current one is rather obnoxious
  • creature

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    Jun 16, 2010 10:16 PM GMT
    By any chance do you have any known relatives in Austrailia? Particularly true blue aussies. Perhaps with a Swedish background?
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    Jun 16, 2010 10:19 PM GMT
    Yeah, I broke up with a guy for his spending habits.
    He had a bad habit of spending all his time at the beach instead of looking for a job.
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    Jun 16, 2010 10:20 PM GMT
    I have... still digging myself outta debt.
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    Jun 16, 2010 10:44 PM GMT
    If I was him I would dump you too.... planning for retirement at 30

    Snooze... you could die before then

    Live it, love it, spend it... take your boyfriend to Paris, rather than make him wait to walk with a zimmer frame on the beach in boca
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    Jun 16, 2010 10:54 PM GMT
    Well, perhaps you should strive to earn more then you can have your cake and eat it also. icon_lol.gif
  • leixguy

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    Jun 16, 2010 11:38 PM GMT
    I haven't broke up with anyone because of money but i drift apart because of it (with bfs and friends), i like my little indulgences, going for afternoon tea, buying expensive clothes, taking trips away etc but most people i know cant afford them (i prob cant either but that's a whole other story) so we end up drifting apart because i can only do these things with people who can afford it and ultimately end up spending less and less time with the people who can't.
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    Jun 17, 2010 12:12 AM GMT
    MsclDrew saidIf I was him I would dump you too.... planning for retirement at 30

    Snooze... you could die before then

    Live it, love it, spend it... take your boyfriend to Paris, rather than make him wait to walk with a zimmer frame on the beach in boca


    Normally I don't make judgmental comments, but there are always exceptions to the rule.

    If someone were to dumb me for planning for retirement at 30, then good riddens to that loser. Anyone with half a brain and any sort of financial savvy knows that you need a lot of money in retirement. Let me put it this way.

    if I had one million dollars, the best I could do would be to put it in an account that is guaranteed to spin off interest at 5%. That means I would get 50,000 a year. Take into account taxes, and we are looking at 37500. Thats in today's dollars. Average in the fact that inflation is going to erode the purchasing power of any money that we have, and we are fucked with a million dollars put away.

    If you want to spend all your money at 30 go right ahead, but you are the kind of poor saps who look at me with 20K in an IRA and want to retire the next year.

    Good luck man.

    On a side note, saving 70% of your money is extreme, have some fun man. Planners generally recommend that you save 15-20% of what you make for retirement, college, insurance, etc.
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    Jun 17, 2010 12:54 AM GMT
    When you said you broke up with him, I was really expecting something more frivolous than a weekly dinner out or an occasional movie. Jeesh. Live a little. I would say he is the lucky one and now probably a lot more happy.
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    Jun 17, 2010 12:57 AM GMT
    Wow...I know all the money in the world can't get the perfect bf. So- 30 years from now, if you're alone, you're going to wish you had that perfect somebody to share that nice condo with.

    Speaking for myself-I could pay off my mortgage in 5 years. And this is a mortgage over 350,000. But my mom told me that I'm only young once. If I do nothing for the next 5 years, by the time I have money to enjoy life with my friends, they will have families and their own mortgage. I'm better off enjoying my youth with them while I'm still young. (Not to say 30 isn't young, it's just that you're more settled down at that time icon_biggrin.gif)
  • Webster666

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    Jun 17, 2010 1:01 AM GMT
    Sort of...
    I dissolved our domestic partnership because I wasn't about to take on the responsibility of his endlessly spiraling credit card debt.
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    Jun 17, 2010 1:02 AM GMT
    My ex would spend out of his league because, as he put it "fine clothes and things are a status symbol." Sales were an enigma to him that only cheapened the real value. He was spending out of his means and that's not reliable.

    What is reliable is saving 20% of my wages. I think I'm going to adopt that plan and hope my next bf doesn't see me for less because of it.
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    Jun 17, 2010 3:33 AM GMT
    If he is making less, it is difficult to save as much. I save quite a lot, but can't make it to 20% without cutting something like rent or food. Because of my rural location I probably make quite a lot less than most here.

    But I have the feeling you're trolling for reactions.
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    Jun 17, 2010 3:38 AM GMT
    your life seems abundantly sad by your own making
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    Jun 17, 2010 3:43 AM GMT
    i have no mortgage im not ashamed of having a trust fund but im a super saver even though the dividends are from my parents. i believe on saving on stupid stuff like groceries, excessive tipping, or even too many clothes but splurging on big items, like home and cars.

    i have freidns who have the super cheap mentality but still have money.. problem is im not physically atracted to them, i just need to find someone with this mindset that im attracted to.

    i think many people here are pretending love is everything, its not all.
  • calibro

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    Jun 17, 2010 3:49 AM GMT
    jduckj saidi have no mortgage im not ashamed of having a trust fund but im a super saver even though the dividends are from my parents. i believe on saving on stupid stuff like groceries, excessive tipping, or even too many clothes but splurging on big items, like home and cars.

    i have freidns who have the super cheap mentality but still have money.. problem is im not physically atracted to them, i just need to find someone with this mindset that im attracted to.

    i think many people here are pretending love is everything, its not all.


    and i think you're somewhat delusional as many of us in this thread have conveyed. you come off condescending, spoiled, and immature. if that's the reason you dumped a guy then you deserve to be single. you constantly bring up money in your posts, which only furthers my perception of you being controlled by it. i don't care how much money you have; it can't make up for the ugly you're showing us.
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    Jun 17, 2010 3:50 AM GMT
    Kind of reminds me of this guy I knew once.
    His grandfather had won a lottery and he received 200K a year in a trust fund from it.
    He invited me and a friend to the horse racing track. Long story short, I ended up paying for everything (food, beer, gas) while he made only small bets. When I asked him to get the next round he said he couldn’t afford it. When I gave him a dirty look he said, I didn’t understand he has to make that 200K last all year…shmuck.

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    Jun 17, 2010 4:08 AM GMT
    photosrus saidAre you serious? The fact that he saves 20% of his paycheck is amazing. I'd say most Americans are struggling to pay off debts, let alone save. You should be less picky than to get rid of a guy for something that you could have worked out. Or don't date guys that don't have as much money in the first place, if that is your preference...


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    Jun 17, 2010 4:56 AM GMT
    I'm poor- so all I do is buy things on craigslist and sell them as soon as I get bored of them. I've gone through 2 PSP already- Damn that puyo puyo 7 game!!! icon_evil.gif
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    Jun 17, 2010 5:49 AM GMT
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