Who are you?

  • seven_deadly_...

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    Jun 16, 2010 10:41 PM GMT
    Do you ever spend time thinking about your identity and how you define yourself?

    There are a myriad of ways in which we can define ourselves. By our gender, ethnicity, age, looks, body-type, profession, personality type, socioeconomic status, sexual orientation, interests, intelligence level, country of national origin, likes/dislikes, relationship status, etc., etc.

    And yet, do any of these things really, truly define us? If not, what is it that makes a person uniquely that person?
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    Jun 17, 2010 1:06 AM GMT
    seven_deadly_monkeys saidDo you ever spend time thinking about your identity and how you define yourself?

    There are a myriad of ways in which we can define ourselves. By our gender, ethnicity, age, looks, body-type, profession, personality type, socioeconomic status, sexual orientation, interests, intelligence level, country of national origin, likes/dislikes, relationship status, etc., etc.

    And yet, do any of these things really, truly define us? If not, what is it that makes a person uniquely that person?

    If I were single, I'd tell you to come spend your life with me, then you might find out about me and I about you.
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    Jun 17, 2010 1:09 AM GMT
    I think in many cases, the people you surround yourself with are a good indication of who you are and what you're like as a person. Of course, there are always exceptions when certain people are trapped by bad influences or pretend to be someone they aren't, but I've always felt that my closest friends and family show for who I am because they live you in spite of ALL those qualities the OP lists, whether they change or remain static.
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    Jun 17, 2010 1:12 AM GMT
    seven_deadly_monkeys saidDo you ever spend time thinking about your identity and how you define yourself?
    Yep. Then I searched urbandictionary.com and found out someone else beat me to it.
  • creature

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    Jun 17, 2010 1:22 AM GMT
    The aspects you listed do define us and shape us, depending on the society we are raised in. However I believe what really defines us are the actions we take. Many of us go through similar journeys, yet we take different paths. How an individual reacts to the world around him is the most telling.
  • Iluros

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    Jun 17, 2010 1:27 AM GMT
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    According to some writers of Batman Begins, what you do defines who you are. To other people, this is certainly true, though not knowing every detail about you they tend to fill in the gaps with their own crap. Who we are for our own purposes is considerably more complicated.

    The Hermit arcana in Tarot represents self-knowledge. The reason being the tradition of secluding oneself for the purposes of introspection was recognized by the ancients to grant divine wisdom. The cue we can take from this is that spending a little time to ourselves just to think can be enlightening.

    People are fluid. The ways that they can define themselves superficially change over time as they grow and explore new aspects of themselves. The truth is many people lead similar lives and yet become quite different. What makes us unique are not the fruit of our experiences but rather the root: two people can experience the same thing and react to it in different ways, perceive it differently, and feel differently about it later on. This tendency that we have, reacting to stimuli, is the fundamental essence of who we are, elaborated upon by life.
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    Jun 17, 2010 3:44 PM GMT
    Yeah I think about it too much sometimes and it's usually when I'm depressed, I try not to, it's too vain to think so much about yourself. Leave it up to others to define who you are.

    I have an issue at the moment about feeling guilty at being so happy which relates to who I am, what I'm doing and where I stand with people. It's frustrating.
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    Jun 17, 2010 3:47 PM GMT
    delusion is what drives the world after money.
    so i wouldn't get too introspective ...
  • seven_deadly_...

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    Jun 17, 2010 6:09 PM GMT
    Thanks for some really interesting replies.

    Iluros said:

    "People are fluid. The ways that they can define themselves superficially change over time as they grow and explore new aspects of themselves. The truth is many people lead similar lives and yet become quite different. What makes us unique are not the fruit of our experiences but rather the root: two people can experience the same thing and react to it in different ways, perceive it differently, and feel differently about it later on. This tendency that we have, reacting to stimuli, is the fundamental essence of who we are, elaborated upon by life."

    When I posted, I think this is what was really on my mind. What is the "root" (to use Iluros's word) of who we are? I don't have the answer and not sure there really is an answer per se. There are probably many, many different schools of thought on this.

    Also, I was somewhat surprised that people would think self-introspection is a negative thing. It's an interesting perspective which I hadn't thought about. I'll need to consider that, although it really goes against a strongly held belief that knowing yourself and self-introspection are worthwhile goals/activities.

  • Iluros

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    Jun 17, 2010 7:13 PM GMT
    I think people are conflating introspection with being self-absorbed. But they're not the same thing. True introspection results in insight, which you use to understand other people. But you start with yourself first, because you have to. "Know thyself" is square one.
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    Jun 17, 2010 7:25 PM GMT
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