How do you decide and realize that your "diamond in the rough" is actually using you for his personal "social worker"?

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    Jun 17, 2010 2:40 AM GMT
    Ya' meet a great guy, he's handsome, hung, fun to be with....but he has some serious "baggage" from previous relationships and unresolved issues from childhood and military "experiences"....what is "the line", or "the point", where you know that your "diamond in the rough" has a few too many flaws for you to deal with?...is it medical issues, or various "addictions", etc... The "caretaker" always wants to "fix it and make it all better"......when is enough or too much?
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    Jun 17, 2010 2:55 AM GMT
    Perhaps when it reaches the point that you feel the need to post something like this?
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    Jun 17, 2010 2:58 AM GMT
    It depends, I think, on what the issues are.

    -Doug
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    Jun 17, 2010 3:00 AM GMT
    Oh my dear dear Sporty you just described my last boyfriend to a tea!! he was handsome, hung, smart, cultured, worldly! but as I got to know him better and he opened up to me more he turned out to be a total freak! the guy underneath all those layers was a time bomb waiting to explode. But being the good and paternal guy that I am I gave him the benefit of the doubt; but you know what lesson I learned? one's love can only stretch so much to a point where once one of the two let go the one who usually gets hit the hardest is the one who had a strong hold of the relationship, that said once love breaks it isn't worth putting it back together.


    Leandro ♥
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    Jun 17, 2010 3:05 AM GMT
    Wilton saidPerhaps when it reaches the point that you feel the need to post something like this?
    Damn dude, you practically quoted my mind. icon_lol.gif

    And yeah, when it gets so bad that it actually bothers you enough to bring it into the public, it's already out of hand. I could tell you how to rectify the situation neatly, but I don't think the internet h as enough server space for all the typing I'd have to do. icon_lol.gif Just know that it can be done.
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    Jun 17, 2010 3:12 AM GMT
    meninlove said It depends, I think, on what the issues are.

    -Doug

    and how much you can take
    are you the store brand or Hefty, Hefty, Hefty?