Is Hooking Up Worth It?

  • metta

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    Jun 18, 2010 6:58 AM GMT
    Is Hooking Up Worth It?






    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z0LOg8aYfFg
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    Jun 18, 2010 7:04 AM GMT
    Hooking up with him would definitely be worth it. He's hot! icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 18, 2010 1:40 PM GMT
    I completely agree with him with the flip side to hooking up....what does it really get you in the end? you're still gonna be alone, each hookup is a cheap thrill then it's over....not that i am judging those that do, if it makes you happy amen! and I have hooked up from time to time as well, rarely, but i have, but after each time, I never felt good about myself.....what do you get out of it? just curious icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 18, 2010 1:41 PM GMT
    Guess it depends... what're you looking for?
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    Jun 18, 2010 1:47 PM GMT
    it could be fun, but personally i'm not into it. i find it to be much better when I know and have a relationship with the person...then any action is a lot more meaningful and an extension of the relationship. though as long as people make an attempt to play safe and get tested, i won't judge them.
  • omatix

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    Jun 18, 2010 1:54 PM GMT
    I agree with this guy - not worth the hassle, and makes it harder to recognize when you meet someone you should finally be taking things more seriously with. Not that I've never done it, and not that anyone shouldn't be able to have as much sex as they want to for whatever reason.

    And I'm grateful that he didn't have his shirt on in this video. Awesome.
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    Jun 18, 2010 2:03 PM GMT
    He's pretty dead on right. Never done a bath house although I have and do occasionally hook up when the mood is right.

    Lucky enough to never get an STD and don't want one.

    His VLOG is pretty entertaining, I've seen him before. He just keeps getting more buff... he's one hot guy now.
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    Jun 18, 2010 2:09 PM GMT
    I think he overstates the risks involved with hooking up wit respect to STDs, but understates the other risks. I had an extremely slutty period in my mid-20s, but I never once had unsafe sex. Mostly, because I no longer drank alcohol or did drugs. When I was partying, I didn't trust myself to make good decisions so I didn't hook up.
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    Jun 18, 2010 2:16 PM GMT
    As my partner and I say:

    We miss the hunt, but not the disappointment.
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    Jun 18, 2010 2:22 PM GMT
    Is it really a mathematical certainty?
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    Jun 18, 2010 3:12 PM GMT
    crazycool saidI completely agree with him with the flip side to hooking up....what does it really get you in the end? you're still gonna be alone, each hookup is a cheap thrill then it's over....not that i am judging those that do, if it makes you happy amen! and I have hooked up from time to time as well, rarely, but i have, but after each time, I never felt good about myself.....what do you get out of it? just curious icon_smile.gif


    you are correct, but let's be honest. gay people hold their ego and self-esteem on another man's opinion and this includes sex. so of course needy gays won't learn from their mistakes.


    edit: also he went to West/East side bathhouse? WTF is this 1980's? only old fogies go there.. there are so many more better NYC orgy parties that cater to under 30 muscle only crowds..

    hmmm 80+ dudes of low hanging belly balls or 80+ dudes of young muscle throbbing cock and the door is strict ie they wouldnt let my fat ass in even if i payed them for the rent space. but the again whatever floats your boat.
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    Jun 18, 2010 3:22 PM GMT
    I'm not against hooking up. Certainly I don't think it is evil or unsafe. Some people are just not happy if they don't make every little thing into drama.

    I have had some very satisfying hookups. If you take it for what it is, a good hookup can be HOT!

    Some of the best sex of my life was with the occasional hookup, together with my boyfriend at the time, with a third.
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    Jun 18, 2010 3:24 PM GMT
    crazycool saidI completely agree with him with the flip side to hooking up....what does it really get you in the end? you're still gonna be alone,


    That's crazy. With that logic, what is the point of doing anything in life? What does it really get you in the end? You're still gonna die... icon_rolleyes.gif

    I like your new abs though! icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 18, 2010 3:55 PM GMT
    viveutvivas said
    crazycool saidI completely agree with him with the flip side to hooking up....what does it really get you in the end? you're still gonna be alone,


    That's crazy. With that logic, what is the point of doing anything in life? What does it really get you in the end? You're still gonna die... icon_rolleyes.gif

    I like your new abs though! icon_wink.gif



    haha thanks for the abs comment, just got them tuesday! icon_razz.gif It's great that you get something out of it, and if you do that's awesome! do what makes you happy icon_smile.gif but for some of us that don't, unfortunately, and want more of a connection, it's really not that worth it. And as for what is it gonna get you in the end? you hopefully live an STD free life LOL icon_razz.gif and are not constantly stressin over contracting something everytime you hook up with a random guy, not knowing where he has been. Sorry that sounded judgemental, didn't mean it to come out that way but, isn't that the truth?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 18, 2010 3:57 PM GMT
    DAVEY WAVEY!!! LOL

    He's always so funny, get a kick out of some his comments.

    Hooking up has its allure in the excitement of messing with someone you don't know... but its also awkward and potentially dangerous.
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    Jun 18, 2010 4:05 PM GMT
    Not worth it and not for me man.
  • Latenight30

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    Jun 18, 2010 4:29 PM GMT
    I think more PSA need to be like this. I wish these and some of the more modern condom ads were done on regular tv. But no... it's promoting sex.
    Sex promotes it's self, but it doesn't promote it safely.
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    Jun 18, 2010 4:37 PM GMT
    crazycool said

    haha thanks for the abs comment, just got them tuesday! icon_razz.gif It's great that you get something out of it, and if you do that's awesome! do what makes you happy icon_smile.gif but for some of us that don't, unfortunately, and want more of a connection, it's really not that worth it.


    I used to be that way but I've changed over the years. I really enjoy sex. Life is there to be enjoyed every day. Who knows, I could be paralyzed in an accident tomorrow. If that happens, I don't want to have any regrets over not living life to the fullest while I could.

    And who knows whether a hookup can lead to something long term? I hooked up on the beach with a nice guy 11 years ago, and it turned into a 10 year relation ship.
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    Jun 18, 2010 4:42 PM GMT
    viveutvivas said
    crazycool said

    haha thanks for the abs comment, just got them tuesday! icon_razz.gif It's great that you get something out of it, and if you do that's awesome! do what makes you happy icon_smile.gif but for some of us that don't, unfortunately, and want more of a connection, it's really not that worth it.


    I used to be that way but I've changed over the years. I really enjoy sex. Life is there to be enjoyed every day. Who knows, I could be paralyzed in an accident tomorrow. If that happens, I don't want to have any regrets over not living life to the fullest while I could.

    And who knows whether a hookup can lead to something long term? I hooked up on the beach with a nice guy 11 years ago, and it turned into a 10 year relation ship.



    My current six-year relationship began as a hookup. Hooking up and seeking a long-term relationship aren't mutually exclusive endeavors.

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    Jun 18, 2010 4:43 PM GMT
    Someone's always affected, wether you intend it or not.... even when you both express the desire for something casual.
    If I feel something more, I feel stupid. If I feel something less, I feel rotten.
    These days, I'd settle for a good conversation and make out session.
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    Jun 18, 2010 7:11 PM GMT
    DjDorchester said
    viveutvivas said
    crazycool said

    haha thanks for the abs comment, just got them tuesday! icon_razz.gif It's great that you get something out of it, and if you do that's awesome! do what makes you happy icon_smile.gif but for some of us that don't, unfortunately, and want more of a connection, it's really not that worth it.


    I used to be that way but I've changed over the years. I really enjoy sex. Life is there to be enjoyed every day. Who knows, I could be paralyzed in an accident tomorrow. If that happens, I don't want to have any regrets over not living life to the fullest while I could.

    And who knows whether a hookup can lead to something long term? I hooked up on the beach with a nice guy 11 years ago, and it turned into a 10 year relation ship.



    My current six-year relationship began as a hookup. Hooking up and seeking a long-term relationship aren't mutually exclusive endeavors.






    well it that case...I'm looking for a bf who wants to FUCK?!?!?!? icon_razz.gif
  • Regina_Guy

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    Jun 18, 2010 7:15 PM GMT
    metta8 saidIs Hooking Up Worth It?






    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z0LOg8aYfFg


    God I can't stand that guy!!! Put a fucken shirt and quit calling your self Davey Wavey. I'm just saying icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 18, 2010 7:21 PM GMT
    I find this guy so affected and annoying. I wish he would just own his raging narcissism.
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    Jun 18, 2010 7:22 PM GMT
    It seriously took a trip to the bathhouse for him to realize there are STDs out there?

    Ummm... just because the junior high health class didn't specifically say "for gay sex too" did he not think that STDs applied to him?

    You can hook up and be safe DUH!

    The feeling of emptiness that may remain after you cum is just your soul dying a little bit

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    Jun 18, 2010 7:25 PM GMT
    innerathlete saidI find this guy so affected and annoying. I wish he would just own his raging narcissism.


    Yeah, his affectations are annoying to me too. "Look at me, I'm sssso very pretty!"