How do i find out if he's interested?

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    Jun 22, 2010 4:24 AM GMT
    Ok, im a bi guy and im not out to anyone so its really hard for me to find guys. Im really interested in this guy at my gym but i dont know if he's straight or not. He's always staring at me, and we leave the gym around the same time everyday and we give each other these looks as we're changing like we want each other. I think he's gay/bi but i dont know how to approach him and im really straight acting so i doubt he'll ever approch me. Any advice or suggestions helping me figure this guy out?
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    Jun 22, 2010 4:26 AM GMT
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    Jun 22, 2010 5:18 AM GMT
    Dude, I was in the same boat forever. I went to a gym for a couple of months and saw a couple of dudes that were pretty hot. The way that I would go about this is to leave the gym around the same time again and just go up to him and introduce yourself. I know it's gonna be tough and I know it's gonna be uncomfortable, but if you like what you see, you gotta act on it.

    Example:
    He walks out the door and your standing by the side of the building.

    "Hey man, my name's ____. I've seen you around the gym before... Do you play any sports or do you just go to the gym?"

    or

    "Hey, I've seen you around the gym a couple of times... I'm lookin for a buddy to lift with sometime. You come here often?"

    You just have to make it happen... or you'll keep wondering "what if."

    And i gotta tell you, finding out that he's straight is a lot better than not knowing.
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    Jun 22, 2010 6:34 AM GMT
    Why wait until you're leaving the gym? Put yourself into a situation where it's convenient to ask for a spot or something, then strike up a conversation. The rest will eventually take care of itself.
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    Jun 22, 2010 6:35 AM GMT
    here4u saidOk, im a bi guy and im not out to anyone so its really hard for me to find guys. Im really interested in this guy at my gym but i dont know if he's straight or not. He's always staring at me, and we leave the gym around the same time everyday and we give each other these looks as we're changing like we want each other. I think he's gay/bi but i dont know how to approach him and im really straight acting so i doubt he'll ever approch me. Any advice or suggestions helping me figure this guy out?


    Ok just a sayin. Stop with the "Gay-bi-straight" thing for a moment. If your in the gym and you see him working out, ask him to spot you and introduce yourself. Just take it one step at a time. You say your bi and interested in him. He may be the anything... from bi interested or gay or just whatever. you don't know till you introduce yourself and get to talking. You could even tell him that you were thinking you need to shake up your routine a little and wondering if you could work out together once and share methods or ideas. Whatever. Don't be so tied up in what is going on in your pants and think about how you would do getting to know someone you weren't "interested" in. It will make it easier to break the ice so to speak.