I'm a freelance writer who travels a lot, reads a lot of fiction, culture and style mags and, especially lately, politics. I love music, from deep house to nu soul, from classic rock to Bach.

I'm a total urbanite; I never get enough of life in the big city and fortunately I have the kind of job where I get to leave my placid Midwest hometown for the Bright Lights pretty often. Something about an overcrowded metropolis, especially in the spring, summer and early fall, and I just can't sit still. But I also love my parks and beaches, too. Cities like Chicago and Los Angeles are great for integrating the best of nature's lake and ocean beaches, clean parks and mountain views with all the obvious trappings of modern life.

Ideal day starts with an energizing meal full of fruit and protein, a long run on a beach or something like Chicago's Lakeshore Drive or any New York City park, followed by a thorough yet efficient workout in a state-of-the-art gym. Day proceeds to a long city-walk with some hot coffee and great people watching, some me-time in a bookstore, vinyl shop or vintage clothing store before a great, rustic dinner with friends at a crowded, funky restaurant. Fast forward to cocktails at our favorite dive or the hottest new joint in town. And of course, meeting someone new to add to the mix is always a great scene to put the book down for now...

I'm always the "trainer" in the workout partner relationship (and in some other relationships as well!) so it would be great to find someone to work out with who actually pushed me instead of me being the pack leader all the time. Of course, an equal energy and fitness level would be great too but I've been doing this a long time and would love to learn some new things from a guy who's more aspirational for me than identical to me to push my naturally ectomorphic physique past the 200 lbs. threshold.

As for friends, well if you have a bit of subversive sense of humor, or can at least appreciate one, love music, know what the hell is going on in the world and have a healthy love of fashion, music and men without being too obsessed with any, then we can be cool. Ideally, you work out, too.

And lovers...I'm still learning what I like.

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