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- Member since: 02/01/11
- Last active: This week
- Age: 56
- First location: Vernon, Connecticut, United States
- Relationship Status: Single
- Looking for: Friends, Dating or Relationship, Training Buddies
My Stats and Info
- Build: Defined
- Height: 5' 5''
- Hair color: Brown
- Eye color: Brown
- Ethnicity: White
- My gym: Cardio Express in Manchester, CT
- Weight training: 4 times per week
60 minutes per session
- Cardio training:
- Sports I like: Bodybuilding, Weight training
- Other sports I like:
- HIV status: HIV -
- Safer sex?: Always
If you wish to contact me, please first read my whole profile, including "About the guys I'm looking for, and the postscript.
I'm interested in friendships and ultimately a long term relationship. Not at all into bars, partying, drinking, drugs or people into that. I'm a sensitive, affectionate and honest guy. One of the most important parts of a friendship or relationship is simply enjoying being with each other. It's also about caring and being there for each other, mutual support - that means emotionally, too. For details, I am also an artist.
I'm a good communicator and need someone who knows how to communicate in words and actions, so we can share interests and good times, and as importantly both give and get the comfort and support we need from each other right when we need it! More on this in about the guys I'm looking to meet.
Not into sports as much, though there are lots of healthy sports and sport shows to play or watch. If it's not on my list and I find it interesting, I may wish to learn it, or just learn to watch it with you at times. Not at all into or watching horror or violent movies, disturbing reality shows, or such sports like boxing.
Only interested in friends and a relationship where we respect, view, treat and love each other as equals.
I'm a fit guy who is slender with definition, now more than in the pics in early 2011. I'm a hard gainer and working on building more mass while maintaining definition with natural strength training and bodybuilding. I work out 3 to preferably 4 times a week for 60 minutes or so per session, though my schedule interferes sometimes. (Not doing cardio right now.) I have anxiety problems that make working out important but overdoing it causes stress. I work hard at the gym, but with balance. My goal is not just looking good but feeling good.
Guys I'm Looking To Meet
Share, discuss, chat about all aspects of health, fitness, bodybuilding, workouts, supplements. It would be cool to have a work out partner so we can spot each other. Similar goals or workout would make it better.)
Reading all of my profile and the postscript is a good idea. This is a summary. I'm also looking for friends, and ultimately a LTR relationship (with one guy). You don't have to be into working out or a have a "perfect" body," though taking care of yourself is important.
Looking for a guy(s) who are affectionate, caring, understanding, patient, friendly, non-violent, and trustworthy. Must be out, no drugs, no smoking, no alcohol (except if special meals but prefer no alcohol).
If you are in a monogamous relationship and want friends and no play, you must show it, including saying so in your first message. I'm not looking for people in a relationship who play, or say they are looking only for friends and show the opposite. It is not going to happen with me and men in a relationship or open relationship, including if you hold secret in yourself that it will some day.
Only interested in friendships and a relationship in which we respect, view, treat and love each other as equals.
Looking for a guy who is a sensitive communicator, who doesn't need to be prompted to know when I or others need your understanding words of support. I'm definitely not talking about someone who thinks they are listening yet actually is only playing know it all and giving advice. I'm speaking of truly listening and responding in words of understanding, interest, and support. What I and all people need is someone (many people) with understanding and heart who makes sure to show he is with you and on your side, a reliable, supportive, loving friend(s) and partner, a support network
My "about me" sums it up. Someone who we both enjoy being with each other. That's what it all comes to for most of us. Plus caring and being there for each other. There's more to each of us that I look forward to sharing and getting to know. More details in the postscript.
I want friends and LTR because we all need others to enjoy life with, and we all need a loving support system. Just want good friends! Ultimately a good partner or husband all around!
The following is what I would think is obvious. Just if it requires clarification. I'm not perfect and nobody is. Still these are my thoughts on basic points about getting along with each other.
How some guys say it is be "emotionally available." Whether outgoing, shy, strong and muscular or average, the guy(s) I'm looking for warmhearted, caring, trustworthy guys who who shows it. (Not "friendly" guys who are aloof, dense, or cold when it comes to recognizing their or my needs, particularly emotional.) The foundation of a friendship or relationship that works and lasts is about the heart and its steadfastness. You just like the guy, or love the guy, and that means showing it and being there for each other - being a good friend, a good partner/husband.
Looking for honest, clear communication that is done timely, fairly and with love. Guys in touch and honest with themselves, able to say clearly and kindly what and when they need to express yourself. It also requires the ability to put oneself in your friend's or partner's shoes. This means being touch with him, patient, able and ready to listen, making sure he knows you not only care and are interested but understand what he's saying. It's knowing that you can talk to each other about good times and bad, and your friend or partner wants to listen in the first place, will understand, and give comfort and moral support. It also means being able to say you are sorry, doing it timely, and sincerely meaning it. It's standing by your friend/man, really standing by each other, and standing up for each other. I practice all of the above to the best of my ability am looking for guys who do, too.
Maintaining a healthy and positive attitude about being gay and others being gay is crucial. Knowing that being yourself, being gay, and feeling good about your sexuality is essential to health and survival. It means not to deny but to recognize and work on any lingering ignorance and fears about your sexual orientation, as we are challenged by our environment constantly. This includes knowing being gay is totally normal (equally as normal as being heterosexual) with no exception (that nothing went wrong, that heterosexuality is not the "default" of human sexuality nor throughout much of the animal kingdom, in fact). Supporting other gay people to be themselves is just as important.
This also means knowing that a desire to "change" (destroy) one's sexual orientation (being gay or bisexual, which is who you are) is, with no exceptions, : 1. not possible; 2. (even if it it were possible, and it is not) is internalized homophobia, unhealthy and dangerous self-hate, highly destructive and damaging to one's health and survival; 3. not to be encouraged or accepted at all in oneself or in others. No, it's not at all the same as creative grooming such as changing your hairstyle, nor is it at all the same as the desire for a sex change, which is a desire for cosmetically becoming more of who you really are.
I'm not black, but black pride is not about trying to feel good about yourself because you can't be white; same with being gay. It's about feeling good about yourself because that's what is crucial and fundamental to your health and survival. Healthy people, gay or not, do not encourage or support their own or other people's self-destruction such as "changing" their sexual orientation. Healthy, decent, caring people understand all of this paragraph and show it, and develop their own and others' self-esteem, love and appreciation of who they are; I WISH TO ASSOCIATE WITH ONLY SUCH PERSONS. If you don't know how to care for love yourself for who you are, you're not going to know how to care for or love others for who they are.
[ I hate writing this, but here it is. The problem is the types of people in this paragraph usually don't have any idea or ability to recognize they are like this. I'm not looking for:
- "all about me" types; pushy guys; those looking for "trophy" husbands; those who dish advice instead of patiently listening and showing support.
- people who violent or like violence, who may believe in violence and cruelty sometimes, or like hearing about or watching violence and cruelty, or who don't take violence or cruelty seriously, or joke about it. This includes violent sports like boxing if knocking each other bloody to the floor. I also don't like horror movies and sick reality shows where any part of it is people waiting to see if someone is going to get hurt physically or psychologically.
- bad tempers, passive aggressive; denial, projecting one's problems onto others; defensiveness
- antagonistic guys who play devil's advocate thinking they are witty, rational and smart, when in reality they're simply contrary, like to pick arguments, or defensive and in denial.
- at first friendly guys who seem to do anything for anyone, but in close personal friendships and relationships are unpredictable, clueless, thoughtless, emotionally shallow or void, cruel and/or cold. ]
Looking forward to meeting a good friends and a good man!
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