*** On 9/24/09 = 183bs. (YEAH, BABY! I've now lost my first 62 lbs. Started dieting on 2/1/09 at 245 lbs.)

Cardio: Walking
Started 4/16/09 4 miles at brisk pace; 4/17/09 (same); 4/18/09 (same)... not so much pain (other than callus! ouch!), though I do feel a bit 'rubbery-legs' afterwards for a bit. 4/19/09 4 miles. 4/20/09=rainy day, so aerobic routine inside; 4/21/09 4 miles and break thru my plateau and now at 222lbs. 4/22/09 4 miles. 4/23/09 4 miles. 4/24/09 5 miles (now doing a walk around an area lake in addition). 4/25/09 5 miles. 4/26/09 5 miles. 4/27/09 5 miles. 4/28/09 - no miles today. 4/29/09 5-1/2 miles. 4/30/09 5-1/2 miles. 5/1/09 no miles today. 5/2/09 3-1/2 miles. 5/3/09 4 miles. Past month and a half, no walking done... too busy with work to get it in... also noticed therefore that weight has plateaued at 212 for the last week as well... oh well, at least I haven't gained anything.

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Single for 8 years now. All-around nice guy; new to this website. Pretty much an open book. Gotta question? Ask.

[It's been a lifestyle change, not a diet. Want to get down to somewhere between 170 to 150 lbs (then perhaps a change of diet to support gym workouts). Thanks to great websites like http://caloriecount.about.com (basics of losing weight safely) and http://www.realjock.com (no, there are a number of great, nice, older, chubby/fat, gay, non-twink bodybuilder folks there, losing weight and becoming friends in the process! ]

Single (widower), 52 years old / German-Irish / 5' 10" / somewhat stocky, but losin’ the gut / buzzed short, grayish-brown hair / goatee / hazel eyes. Hairy stomach, pits, and all other places you’d expect to find hair! I’m an all-around nice guy, not bad on the eyes, just lookin’ to find ‘Mr. Right’ to settle down with for the rest of my/his/our years!

[ PLEASE NOTE: If you don’t like long personals, stop reading!… don’t be sendin’ bitchy emails to me, as no one’s holdin’ a gun to your head to read this, mister. I DON’T respond to emails that don’t have a picture of your FACE… I have no desire to see your dick or a-hole… because frankly I like to be surprised when I open a gift!. I also DON’T respond to men who live outside of the U.S. I DON’T respond to guys already in a relationship, looking for ‘3rd wheel’ or to create a ‘family’ of fuck buddies, or separated or already dating someone (well at least if I FIND OUT that to be the case!). PLEASE don’t waste my time or your time writing! Jesus! Isn’t any man – well local, that is! – interested in having a monogamous LTR with a great guy (whether that’s me or someone else. LOL). ]

Honest, intelligent, spiritual, creative, loving (passionate, great kisser and a real cuddler), dry/at times ‘twisted’ sense of humor. I think I rate decently on the masculinity scale. A romantic (I could list several ways I’ve shown that characteristic, but I would rather SHOW it to the right guy). I'm an introvert among strangers, somewhat extroverted with friends. Will dress up when the situation demands, but really a jeans; comfy sleeveless, flannel shirt and boots kind of guy. While I’ll visit family and friends, I’m very much the domesticated butch guy), happy puttering around home – sometimes in just a jock and would be even moreso with a partner). Would like to have a house some day (do some easy home improvement stuff with you, just so we'd have an excuse to check out those woofy guys at Home Depot) with a little vegetable and flower garden. Yeah, once in awhile I would hit the bar, with you of course, to have a bit of fun, but more to just remind me how very lucky I am to have found YOU!

My bad points? No patience for fools, or selfish, nasty, negative, manipulative people.

I don’t mind if you have baggage (Anyone who says they DON’T have baggage is big fat liar in my book)… but your baggage needs to match mine .

MY INTERESTS:
MUSIC (some examples): Dance/Soul/Rock of the 1960's and 1970's; Classical (Rachmaninoff, Chopin, Mozart); World (Latin, Caribbean, Irish); Country (Tim McGraw, Chris Cagle, Mark Wills, Garth Brooks, Rascal Flatts, Emerson Drive); Big Band era; the great Divas (Sarah Vaughn, Rosemary Clooney, and Judy, of course); and the Crooners (Billy Eckstine, Sammy Davis Jr). I am also a big fan of Christmas so I will play Christmas music year-round when I’m in the mood! LOL

THEATER (when I can afford it). Big blockbuster-special effects-epic/sci-fi MOVIES occasionally. TV (Enjoy watching an old B/W comedy, musical or Sherlock Holmes mystery on the VCR at home… cuddled up with cat or dog and you?)… somewhat addicted to watch current TV shows (‘True Blood’s at the top of the list) on dvd, as I hate commercials.

DINING OUT: Italian, German, Thai, Malaysian, Indian. COOKING/BAKING Irish, German, Italian, Southern, Tex-Mex, and comfort foods like soups, stews, casseroles, muffins… and desserts (less of the latter the last 5 months because of the diet.)

COLLECT antique Christmas tree pins, vintage Christmas cards (and handcrafted items with them) and cookbooks from the 30’s through 60’s, and glass paperweights. Once in awhile I like to do CRAFTING (not particularly butch, but get over it, man!)

MUSEUMS but also small, quaint, scenic SMALL TOWNS with antique shops, historic homes, country and renaissance fairs. NATURE, camping (in cabin/trailer… no tents! LOL). I'm more a lake and river guy, than a beach guy. Not much of a TRAVELER, having a pet makes me want to stay close to home (though I do like a yearly trip to P-town). I’d like to get back to DANCING if I had a partner (hint, hint), as it’s always fun to see a lot of shirtless, furry guys around (I'd like to learn to CW dance as it's romantic and sexy).

But when home I want to be in bed SNUGGLING, reading, talking, watching late night TV with my one special man. I READ constantly (eclectic tastes): spirituality, Christianity, geology-earth science, product and special event marketing, paranormal and haunted houses, NYC history, poverty and homelessness, Spanish language, cooking, LGBT literature and culture, JRR Tolkien… Flannery O'Connor (and other southern writers). And, again, I definitely, really, LOVE CHRISTMAS (it surpasses Halloween in my book!). Enjoy board games, herbal tea and homemade cookies on a rainy-snowy night. When I’m NOT in a relationship I tend to do a lot of volunteer work in the gay community to be useful and meet folks.

Not a big sports guy except for HS / COLLEGE WRESTLING (gee, I wonder why?). Like to walk… Once I feel comfortable with my weight (nearly there), I really’d like to have a PARTNER to work out at gym with (if only for the sweaty sex afterwards? Hey, I can dream). Have been investigating the home gym option as well.

SEXUALLY turned on to a guy in (or half out of) a well-cut 3-piece suit, or old tight, worn jeans and a sweaty, ribbed A-shirt! (If you're into construction/roofing or delivering packages for UPS, all the better). Into white socks, jocks, and briefs; pit-sniffin' and tit play; oral sex; Leather (though too much looks downright silly), and safe kink (get to know me to find out). Very into giving / getting slow and intense JO. I'm at my best with a partner who likes to take control (but I also Top when chemistry is right). One-on-one mutuality, constant touching and massage, and verbal fantasy are great turn-ons for me. By the way, I’m not a ‘player’ even being currently single… can’t quite remember when I last had sex with another guy.

POLITICS & RELIGION: I'm pretty much "Out", but discreet when need be. Politics are progressive-liberal-Democratic. My faith (Christianity) has brought me through difficult times and I'm now a regular church-goer (raised Dutch Reformed, now UCC). If you're faithless or anti-Christianity (or anti-‘a higher power’), we WON’T be a match, sorry.

I’m a second-time WIDOWER, once after 14 years, the other after 6 months, both to different heart disease problems... both died in their early 50's. It's been hard to lose two guys I really loved (and who loved me). All the sex in the world can’t compare to knowing that another person loves you deeply with their whole heart and soul. But I feel extraordinarily lucky, despite the pain of their deaths. Whewwwww! Thanks for readin’ all this… huggz, Brian

1. Friends, and anyone else who is dieting and would like to chat.

2. Those who are knowledgable about exercise and dieting and have good, healthy advice to give to me.

3. Yeah, a workout partner would be great!
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WHAT I’M LOOKING FOR:
White or Latino man, age 40 to 56 (give or take a few years older/younger), preferably 5’10” or taller. Please be a NON-smoker and casual drinker (if at all). You should like cats (I have an all-black short-hair). I like dogs (EXCEPT teeny-tiny yappy kinds!) Someone who identifies as a Daddy or Daddy-Hunter would be great. Some body hair preferred, facial hair a plus. Like all types of men (including bears and otters), though neither of my past partners would have considered themselves a bear. Since I still have a ‘few’ unwanted pounds, so can you (though big, burly, solid, muscular guys won't be discriminated against). I’m especially attracted to quiet, ‘take charge’ kind of guys. Above all you should possess a good, kind, loving heart… and be a ‘one-man-is-good-enough-for-me’ type of man. Be financially stable. I'm not artsy-fartsy, but having a bit of political/cultural awareness and education is a good thing in my book. I'm not looking to control your life and do every little, last thing together, but we should share some mutual interests (in the bedroom and out) and want a stable, comfortable laid-back home life where we can entertain close friends and family. Let’s create our own little oasis away from the damn negative craziness of this world.

Lookin’ for that ‘one in a thousand’ great guy! I’m holdin’ out for him. While I’d prefer to stay in metro-NYC area, I’d consider moving – once! – anywhere in continental U.S. for the right man (and have been consciously down-sizing possessions to do just that). So drop me a line and tell me why you’re him! Whewwwww! Thanks for readin’ all this… huggz, Brian

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