Bottoming and Erections

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    Apr 24, 2011 12:39 PM GMT
    I think it's been said in the previous responses, but yeah...just relax. Enjoy yourself, top or bottom. If you think you're going to have ED, then you can stress yourself out enough to cause it.

    Also, it's not uncommon for a lot of sexual stimulation in your anus to divert your sexual response there. This doesn't prevent your erections, just means your focus is elsewhere. When I bottom, I almost always go soft during the first part of it and have to work up an erection during the event.

    And honestly, if you're doing sex right, you can both go through multiple erections during the whole event...it's not all about getting hard and getting off, there's pleasure to be had in the ebb and flow, right?
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    Apr 24, 2011 2:39 PM GMT
    fitnesshound saidI think it's been said in the previous responses, but yeah...just relax. Enjoy yourself, top or bottom. If you think you're going to have ED, then you can stress yourself out enough to cause it.

    Also, it's not uncommon for a lot of sexual stimulation in your anus to divert your sexual response there. This doesn't prevent your erections, just means your focus is elsewhere. When I bottom, I almost always go soft during the first part of it and have to work up an erection during the event.

    And honestly, if you're doing sex right, you can both go through multiple erections during the whole event...it's not all about getting hard and getting off, there's pleasure to be had in the ebb and flow, right?





    an excellent and "real world correct" response!
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    Apr 28, 2012 10:02 AM GMT
    Cuz have become a bottom now!
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    Jun 08, 2012 5:06 PM GMT
    Im going through the same thing (although that makes it sound like a bad thing...its not, its just something that happens sometimes).

    Im just out of a relationship (my first guy) where I was a total top for 4 years. We broke up and I got back out there.... I met a guy who is a top which was fine for me as it really wanted to bottom and see what its all about. It was great! The only thing is now I cant get hard without being topped.... This really freaked me out as I've always been able to get it up no problem. Im sure its an anxiety issue as Im starting to see I can get hard just playing around now as I'm comfortable so I know Im not broken lol!

    I've realized I need time to get comfortable with whoever I'm in bed with.... if i try to forget about it it gets better but if im freaking out and worried about not getting hard absolutely zip goes on down there :/

    Relaxing and being comfortable is the key I think...
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    Jun 08, 2012 11:00 PM GMT
    ... did you clean out using distilled water only? using tap water destroy the flora (microbiomics) and can change the body's ph and thus performance. As strange as it might sound.... It will help the bottoming 200 percent by going on a fast, taking only juice one day before, taking psyllium husk to cleanse the inside. Fasting also help topping as well, as cleasing open up the various tubes and conduits and glands.
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    Jun 09, 2012 6:31 AM GMT
    Bottoming is definitely a skill. I never enjoyed it - but thank baby JESUS that some guys love it!!

    I agree the condom thing is the likely culprit. You conditioned yourself, it is going to take some practice to recondition. I think it's really hot - that your given it up for him, a dominant in submision.. Seriously.. I'm hard.
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    Jun 09, 2012 10:26 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    xybender said... did you clean out using distilled water only? using tap water destroy the flora (microbiomics) and can change the body's ph and thus performance. As strange as it might sound.... It will help the bottoming 200 percent by going on a fast, taking only juice one day before, taking psyllium husk to cleanse the inside. Fasting also help topping as well, as cleasing open up the various tubes and conduits and glands.


    This is way too much work for sex.


    but you only get out what you put inicon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 13, 2012 1:27 PM GMT
    Addictedtothegym saidHey Guys,
    Thanks for the feedback. But actually there was a lot of foreplay that went into my before I actually took the plunge. Like I said I never ever let anyone eat my ass, finger my ass, etc. But now all of a sudden i'm cleaning out my ass before I have sex, having my ass stimulated, I just wonder if all this stuff going on in my ass might have caused me to go limp. I'm just not used to it. But even still we came twice, then went to dinner and came back home for round 3, and once I again I was soft! I mean its just crazy to me, I'm never horny and soft at the same time. I just feel really embarressed because he said to me "you know its ok to be a bottom." Obviously I agree, without bottoms we wouldn't be having sex, but the truth is I'm not a bottom, bottoming is not the way I enjoy having sex, its currently only happening because a. I really really like this guy and want to satisfiy him and b. because I can't get it up. I'm absolutely terrified now to sleep with him again because I'm afraid it will happen again. I've never used any pills or anything and have no idea how I would even go about getting them, so I'm not sure how I can make sure it won't happen again.icon_redface.gif


    sounds to me like you are really not into him. if you were you, you dick would be hard enough to rat ta ta concrete
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    Jul 14, 2012 6:14 AM GMT
    Ziggy1 saidIm going through the same thing (although that makes it sound like a bad thing...its not, its just something that happens sometimes).

    Im just out of a relationship (my first guy) where I was a total top for 4 years. We broke up and I got back out there.... I met a guy who is a top which was fine for me as it really wanted to bottom and see what its all about. It was great! The only thing is now I cant get hard without being topped.... This really freaked me out as I've always been able to get it up no problem. Im sure its an anxiety issue as Im starting to see I can get hard just playing around now as I'm comfortable so I know Im not broken lol!

    I've realized I need time to get comfortable with whoever I'm in bed with.... if i try to forget about it it gets better but if im freaking out and worried about not getting hard absolutely zip goes on down there :/

    Relaxing and being comfortable is the key I think...


    I think the OP and Ziggy were always bottoms and now just met someone more dominant and they now have a new role. Big deal.

    Listen to Usher sing Scream. I love being on Top!!!! FUCKING TO MUSIC RULES!!