Dating a boxer ...

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    Jul 23, 2010 5:19 PM GMT
    SoDakGuy saidAll right, ever since I started boxing four years ago, whenever I mention a guy here in Minneapolis I'm an amateur boxer, most of them cringe and become disinterested.

    I train to fight in a ring. I know the difference between getting into a fight in a ring and also using it when I got assaulted - twice. I know not to use my skills in the relationship and I won't.

    So, would you date a guy who is a boxer? Why or why not?



    i would feel safer dating a boxer, they are hot as fuck
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    Jul 23, 2010 5:28 PM GMT
    Who wouldn't want to date you Mr boxer icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 23, 2010 5:34 PM GMT
    i wish i knew some gay boxers, id love to date a few
  • shutoman

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    Jul 23, 2010 5:53 PM GMT
    Would I date a boxer? Yes. No question. You guys go to the heart of physical courage. I salute what you do and what you have become.
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    Jul 23, 2010 5:55 PM GMT
    Personally, I love hearing about gay men who are involved with the typical masculine sports such as boxing, rugby, and even UFC fighting. I think it goes along way in helping to defuse the typical gay feminine stereotypes.

    Would I date a boxer?? Hmmm, I don't know. I would be extremely worried about him constantly. Emotionally, I would have a very hard time watching someone kick the shit out of my boy in the ring.
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    Jul 24, 2010 3:08 PM GMT
    GBRelentless saidMy boyfriend is a MMA fighter in the WEC division. I do not have a problem with his career, however, its his constant traveling that annoys me sometimes.


    Nice, good luck to him.
    Yeah, it's a hard life on many levels and the pay isn't there in MMA.
    More power to him though. Is it travel for camps or just competition?


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    Re: People's negative reaction to people with combat sport hobbies or the like. In the developed world most of us lead such protected lives that physical injury is a concept with little context -- it's just a "bad" thing. People have trouble understanding why someone would let themselves get hurt or be willing to hurt even a willing partner.
    Personally, I think that mindset is indicative of an unhealthy separation from... for lack of better word "physicality". Bodies were designed to be bent, damaged, and broken a bit. The great thing is they can take it, and, on a psychological level, I think we're the better for learning not to fear it. Still some people are like those little kids that freak out if they get a cut and run to their parents.
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    Jul 24, 2010 3:13 PM GMT
    Okay.
    This thread is full of fun quotes:
    Techboxer saidOn the flip side, I've found that most guys won't date me because they think I'm violent. This couldn't be farther from the truth. I would never raise my hand to another human being unless they were being a complete dick pestering me...


    I don't think you qualify as the 'opposite of violent' if you're willing to beat on people that are "pestering you" or simple being "complete dick"s.

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    Jul 24, 2010 3:19 PM GMT
    I teach basic boxing. I never thought once about my sexuality when I would wrap a guys hands or fix his stance. To me boxing was a great way to get the stress out and because of it I rarely get upset.

    As for dating a boxer, my guy thinks its awesome, sometimes for shits and giggles when we're traveling he'll say something like "oh how bout I pick a fight with someone and you step in and end it icon_twisted.gif " or the famous line "can you beat him? oh how about that one there?"

    So really its not a big deal, I mean I thought we all had a sport we loved, hence REALJOCK, I didn't think it was just for a mindset and or to look at pretty things. I joined cause I honestly thought we all had to have a sport we were good at icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 25, 2010 8:20 AM GMT
    I don't see why anybody would have a problem with dating a boxer... I mean, it's just another sport. I mean, y'all use gloves and have mouth protectors so at least you're safe while doing so. (Although, I practice Akayama-Ryu Jujitsu and when we practice we don't use protection...so I would rather get hit by a gloved hand rather than be thrown over someone's shoulder, have my head hit the ground and then have a random bone "broken"....)

    So, hey, mind if I ask, what weight class are you in? I would guess, based on your pics... light heavyweight or cruiserweight?
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    Jul 25, 2010 8:50 AM GMT
    SoDakGuy saidWell, the guys who use to give me crap no longer do. So, that's actually pretty dope!

    Yes, it's a violent sport, but there's a zen like quality to it too. I'm a lot more calm and my emotions are in check. Beforehand, I was pretty much a mess and really didn't know how to express my emotions. Hell, I live in the Upper Midwest. That's the norm here.

    Anyway, taking up boxing is the smartest thing I could have done. It's saved my life from being an emotional mess; gained a new best friend; tons more respect to the sport and the skills saved me when I was assaulted.

    So, who WOULDN'T want to date someone who is in a hobby (even a violent one) that made him a better person?


    Are you kidding me?
    HELL the the YES I would date a boxer.. no questions asked LOL I like wrestling myself better, and even Kung fu, but fighting sports are a huge turn-on.. and yes, they make you more zen in the end...
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    Jul 25, 2010 9:02 AM GMT
    superficially, yeah, i'd say it's hot. i would, of course, worry that the guy was going to end up brain damaged eventually, which would be a turn-off... but in the short run, it's pretty fucking hot, dude.
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    Jul 25, 2010 9:29 AM GMT
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    GBRelentless saidMy boyfriend is a MMA fighter in the WEC division. I do not have a problem with his career, however, its his constant traveling that annoys me sometimes.


    Nice, good luck to him.
    Yeah, it's a hard life on many levels and the pay isn't there in MMA.
    More power to him though. Is it travel for camps or just competition?


    His training camp is in North Jersey, so that really isn't an issue... when he is is 'competition mode' he is usually in vegas or canada.
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:01 PM GMT
    The majority of "trained" boxers/fighters do not come home beatup with bruises and marks all the time unless they suck and/or stupid. We wear protective gear during training to prevent just such damage. It's only after a competitive fight or pro bout that this would occur.

    As for my weight class, I walk around as a cruiserweight and can fight at the weight, but tend to come down to light heavy because I retain my power but increase my speed.

    Keep your guard up and come out punching
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:02 PM GMT
    I would definately date a boxer. Of anything thats just hot n sexy icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:05 PM GMT
    I certainly would date you.

    you could teach me how to box... would like to learn some moves from you in the ring and...
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:09 PM GMT
    I would date a boxer who does that for a hobby (like twice a week instead of the gym),I dont know about a professional boxer,I dont think I would have much things in common + they have to trave all the time...
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:11 PM GMT
    In a heartbeat - many people who have 'any' kind of knowledge about the sport would be concerned about you getting punch-drunk, or getting a cauliflower ear or 2, but as a lot of gays don't know their heads from their asses when it comes to MMA in general (and yes, there's a good chunk of gays who DO know, just also a lot that don't and cringe at the mention of any kind of sport) it's likely because they think you're going to beat them up after you brute-fuck their ass. You know, to prove you're the man and all that, lol.

    Personally, I'm of the opinion that a good donkey-punch never 'really' hurt anyone icon_twisted.gif


    So yeah, uh, boxing's hot, and if we were on a date and you told me that I'd probably get really excited and ask if we could go a few rounds.

    You'd probably knock the snot outta me but hey...there's more than one way to prime a bottom

    *smirks*

    **edit** I realize boxing's not the same as MMA, buttt...I did some MMA (back when I could afford the training) hence why I tend to refer to boxing/sparring sports in general as MMA
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:19 PM GMT
    Also..I get the Zen feeling. The warrior burn. You can feel it, in your bones, and when you're in it...feels like you're the eye in the oncoming storm.


    Some guys get that, but a lot of guys repress the violence because society tells them to. Most people forget that sports arose from man's primal need to kill shit. Yes, we've removed the killing, but the feeling when you're sparring...it's an incredible high.

    Yoga does that too
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:42 PM GMT
    SoDakGuy:

    I have read several of your post on other boxer threads and dating men, but I hope to add a few words here, too.

    Hmm...I think you open the conversation to several topics of discussions, but personally, feel compelled to address a primary topic of discussion:

    You, the person.

    Let me answer your first question: I don't know whether I would date you, but I would date a boxer. Bottom line: it depends on the character of the person.

    Most men won't date a boxer because of the stigmas attached to it: aggression, anger, bi polar personalities.

    I don't know the types of gay men in the midwest, but depending on the area/region, some men regionally prefer softer guys. I reside in Washington, DC and kickbox regularly. My bf respects my workaholic A-type personality, as much as my softer "let me cook for you" sides. Bottom line: find a male who supports you, the person. If he supports and treasures you, then he will also support you the boxer.

    I hope these words of encouragement help you.

    Best,

    Michael



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    Jul 25, 2010 7:58 PM GMT
    I've been asked quite often if I've ever punched or beat up a boyfriend, just because I work out and am a little big. I get a little offended by the question but I answer that I never have. They seem relived but then again they look a little disappointed in me, lol. Maybe they were expecting "Once, but he deserved it", lol.....who knows.
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    Jul 25, 2010 8:00 PM GMT
    Totally but they have to teach me! I really wanna learn Krav Maga
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    Jul 25, 2010 8:36 PM GMT
    if i dated a boxer i wouldnt be able to keep my hands off himicon_wink.gif
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    Jul 25, 2010 8:38 PM GMT
    Maybe they don't want their BF to get hurt or something, I know I wouldn't like that, have you seen Million Dollar Baby? icon_eek.gificon_confused.gif
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    Jul 26, 2010 3:23 AM GMT
    to me if i had a boyfriend and he were a boxer i would support him 100% and if he gets hurt well its all in the sport
  • marbataurus

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    Jul 28, 2010 7:10 PM GMT
    I can only dream of having a boxer or boxing enthusiast as my intimate partner. Just imagine how happy this couple can be.icon_redface.gif Sparring drills, strength & conditioning training, sharing thoughts... wow!

    My friends do not understand why I am so addicted to do boxing practices. I tried to explain to them that I am not into piss fight on the street but they assumed people who do boxing must be violent in nature or blood thirsty... It's an art form to me actually. But well... Could not bother to waste more time to convey the idea anymore. I am happy to stay true to myself. icon_biggrin.gif