Dating a boxer ...

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    Jul 28, 2010 7:19 PM GMT
    SoDakGuy saidAll right, ever since I started boxing four years ago, whenever I mention a guy here in Minneapolis I'm an amateur boxer, most of them cringe and become disinterested.

    I train to fight in a ring. I know the difference between getting into a fight in a ring and also using it when I got assaulted - twice. I know not to use my skills in the relationship and I won't.

    So, would you date a guy who is a boxer? Why or why not?


    Oh come on...you should know by now that these MN passive aggressive guys would be put off by a boxer, someone who would be considered active aggressive. Doesn't fit with the whole PA lifestyle. They probably think you'll be confrontational and argumentative.

    Full disclosure: my bf is a MN-native...I'm so close to removing his passive aggressive ways...SO CLOSE!
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    Jul 28, 2010 7:22 PM GMT
    Sure I would date a boxer, however I don't know if I could watch any matches for constant fear of him getting hit in the head.
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    Jul 28, 2010 7:25 PM GMT
    id be watching him and supporting him
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    Jul 28, 2010 7:27 PM GMT
    I would...icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 28, 2010 7:50 PM GMT
    If I were single, I would no question. I would look at is as a chance to date a man that knows how to take care of himself, is healthy and obviously self disciplined. What is sexier than that?
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    Jul 28, 2010 8:18 PM GMT
    Oh hell yea, why not? I'm careful, thoughtful...almost boring, I never do anything without thinking about it for awhile (you should see me pick out what kind of cereal I want to eat in the morning).

    I associate combat sports with guys who are a little more comfortable jumping in and enjoying the moment. But thats a terrible terrible generalization and to be honest is more of a wishful thinking thing though...Its the passion for what they do.

    Thats like my perfect foil. Which is funny...because I train in Muay Thai and light MMA (I don't fight though)
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    Jul 28, 2010 8:43 PM GMT
    I'd do it without a problem. If he gave me some pointers on fighting so much the better. Right now I only know a little bit of martial arts.
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    Aug 06, 2010 5:50 AM GMT
    Sure wouldicon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 06, 2010 6:46 AM GMT
    Not a fucking chance. Nor would I date an obese person (spare me the "shallow" bit, please). In both cases you are disrespecting your body, and in my opinion, it is easier and more detrimental to disrespect your brain.

    Through work, personal, and volunteer experience, I have come into contact with alot of Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) patients. Abuse to the human brain is an undeniably terrible thing. Just weeks ago I was caring for a man with a concussion. It was 40 minutes before the ambulance arrived to take him away...in that time I WATCHED as his memory deteriorated...first he could not remember the day...then his mother's name...then his own birthdate.

    A kid in high school suffered a TBI that completely disabled his senses of taste and smell forever. Imagine never tasting your favorite food again. Imagine not being able to smell a dangerous gas leak.

    My best friend suffered a sub-arachnoid hemorrhage more than a year ago. For almost two months he was quiet and secluded and although he could identify a joke as "funny" he was unable to smile, or laugh, or feel excited.

    I can't imagine how anybody could take part in activity that almost guarantees similar results. The injuries above were acute, one time blows. Imagine a lifetime of blows. Google up on nerve tissue - it isn't like skin or other epithelial tissues - it does not and can not regenerate. Knocking your brain against your skull is bad enough - the NCAA has strict guidelines on allowing multiple-concussion athletes to return. But the threat of meningeal tears and hemorrhages is ridiculous.

    Call my compassion for the human brain "girly" if you want. There is calculated risk in every sport. I'm a gymnast and yes I've fallen and suffered concussions. But I'm not TRYING to...in fact I'm very careful NOT to. Boxers are trying to knock someone out, trying to bash a brain against a skull. And they do. And when they get that TKO, it means the brain they've been beating on has had way too much. And then they hit the floor, limp, and the brain takes another blow. The reason we react to falls with the parachuting reflex (a response to catch ourselves with extended arms) is to PRESERVE our brains. And make NO mistake, boxing fans, these athletes DO suffer brain injury and the effects ARE cumulative and durable.

    In my opinion, the two least sexy things a man could do are 1-intentionally harm another person's brain and 2-offer up his brain for intentional harm. In the case of number 2, I generally assume that these brains must not be good for much else anyways.

    Note - I have nothing but respect for fighter TRAINING. Hitting bags is great for your body and mind.
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    Aug 06, 2010 6:48 AM GMT
    Fuck yeah I would date a boxer... And I would want him to train me too ;)
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    Aug 06, 2010 6:59 AM GMT
    SoDakGuy saidAll right, ever since I started boxing four years ago, whenever I mention a guy here in Minneapolis I'm an amateur boxer, most of them cringe and become disinterested.

    I train to fight in a ring. I know the difference between getting into a fight in a ring and also using it when I got assaulted - twice. I know not to use my skills in the relationship and I won't.

    So, would you date a guy who is a boxer? Why or why not?



    I'd date you, but we live on different continents.
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    Aug 06, 2010 7:56 AM GMT
    I'd have no problem dating a boxer, if he has a good personality and turns me on it's all good icon_lol.gif

    I'd have a bigger problem dating someone who's ideologies and morals were too far from my own.
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    Aug 07, 2010 1:26 PM GMT
    I would date a boxer. You have to find the right man.
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    Aug 10, 2010 6:42 PM GMT
    I answered this before then thought about it. All men, and especially gay men, should know how to box. That doesn't mean they have to actively pursue the sport, but a man should know how to defend himself and those he loves. Boxing gives a man confidence and helps a man develop physically.

    A real turn on for me would be a boyfriend with whom I could spar on a regular basis. You should teach your boyfriends how to box and get into it with them. It can be very erotic. I wouldn't want a boyfriend who's a wuss, either.

    I hope you're still training. It's come in handy for you twice already.
    Bob
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    Nov 05, 2010 11:02 PM GMT
    Been running into a few more gay boxers... All seemed to be involved with non-participants. At this point it would be cool to connect with another athlete to compare training notes.

    Keep your guard up and come out punching
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    Nov 05, 2010 11:07 PM GMT
    Personally, I wouldn't be comfortable dating a boxer.

    Doesn't mean I wouldn't do it, but it would definitely be points against him. I tend to be non-combative, and think thats the way to go.

    It doesn't necessarily make you a man to beat the shit out of someone.
  • SoDakGuy

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    Nov 16, 2010 6:49 PM GMT
    Here's the thing ... boxing is a sport. We live, eat and breathe the sport. Boxing is in the gym and in the ring. Outside, it's Allen or whomever. We're not going to throw punches at someone we date.

    Granted, if I am being attacked physically, I will throw punches back and I will break someone's bones.

    So, Chainers, if you meet your version of a perfect man and he happens to box, you're not going to give him a chance? You would be missing out on a great guy.

    Chainers saidPersonally, I wouldn't be comfortable dating a boxer.

    Doesn't mean I wouldn't do it, but it would definitely be points against him. I tend to be non-combative, and think thats the way to go.

    It doesn't necessarily make you a man to beat the shit out of someone.
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    Nov 16, 2010 6:54 PM GMT
    I would, and have, dated a boxer. It's not my thing but I would be supportive, as long, like you say, he wouldn't use those skills in a disagreement relationship-wise.
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    Nov 16, 2010 7:07 PM GMT
    I hear you, most guys cringe when they know of my martial art status and see my medals and weapons.

    boxing is a sport, you dont bring it home. like the "zen" of it, what happens on the tatami stays there (thats the karate mat) i have had guys who would not date me because they were thrown off that i could be a fag basher. false.

    i have never use my art form other than in the dojo/TV choreography. simple

    boxers=fun. your choppy and predictable in matches icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 16, 2010 7:26 PM GMT
    i can relate once guys find out i martial arts they get all somehow. had guys deny me cause they thinkg i'll beat the shit out them so wrong.
    but yeah i agree with black belt guy they are fun to spar with icon_lol.gif.
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    Nov 16, 2010 7:36 PM GMT
    Not an issue here.
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    Nov 16, 2010 8:11 PM GMT
    Funny thing ... looking how I did Halloween weekend after sparring w/ my coach, I looked pretty rough.

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    Right after sparring on Sat.

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    Icing my eye on Sat night.

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    When I woke up on Sunday morning.

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    Me on Halloween night.

    AWESOME thing ... I'm gonna go out w/ the guy next to me this week or so since my black eye was a turn on for him. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 16, 2010 8:30 PM GMT
    it shows on the face of a boxers the years of their training and competing....

    idk about boxing, but i do like guys in boxers
  • SoDakGuy

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    Nov 16, 2010 8:33 PM GMT
    Yeah, my face looks TOTALLY messed up, doesn't it? icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 16, 2010 8:40 PM GMT
    Hell yeah I'd date a boxer! Knowing my man is this raw masculine specimen that challenges himself and tests his strength against other Alpha males is hot!

    Not all boxers are violent outside the ring... they know the difference like you do.

    I think he could be strong and Alpha in the ring and come home to me where I would give him an awesome massage and cuddle in his big strong arms.