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Feb 28, 2008 1:42 PM GMT

About my teeth...

I go for my six month dentist appointment in about a month and I can't wait. If I had my choice I would go every 3 months. I can never get my teeth clean enough. I love that right after the dentist feeling. I always have this vision of my teeth falling out. When I was about 13 my dentist gave me the speech about good dental hygiene and taking care of my teeth. His voice still echos in my head!

I am so crazy sometimes!

Do you guys have stupid little things that you obsess about?

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Feb 28, 2008 1:52 PM GMT

I love going to the dentist, I find it so relaxing. If I could, I'd go once a month.

I think the only thing I obsess about is my skin. I want to keep it in as best condition as possible. I mentioned this in another thread ages ago, the skincare line I use is rather expensive, thankfully I get it all for free, otherwise I'd be spending about $5000 a year on product.

Other than that I don't obsess about my apperance. What I do obsess about is the condition of my home, I'm always cleaning and making sure everything is just so. Everything in my apartment has to be either 90 degrees to eachother, or 45 if it's on an angle. If anything's off by just a hair, I can't relax until it's perfect.

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Feb 28, 2008 2:00 PM GMT

I always have an obsessive habit of scratching my inner ear with cotton buds i.e. "Q-tips" whenever I get a chance... it just feels soooooooo goooooood!!!!!!!!!
It's bad though

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Feb 28, 2008 2:01 PM GMT

There, I just did it again

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Feb 28, 2008 2:08 PM GMT

ShawnTO saidI love going to the dentist, I find it so relaxing. If I could, I'd go once a month.

I think the only thing I obsess about is my skin. I want to keep it in as best condition as possible. I mentioned this in another thread ages ago, the skincare line I use is rather expensive, thankfully I get it all for free, otherwise I'd be spending about $5000 a year on product.

Other than that I don't obsess about my apperance. What I do obsess about is the condition of my home, I'm always cleaning and making sure everything is just so. Everything in my apartment has to be either 90 degrees to eachother, or 45 if it's on an angle. If anything's off by just a hair, I can't relax until it's perfect.

Your future husband will hopefully not be a slob otherwise you will drive each other nuts!

I gave up on my skin years ago (I inherited my Mom's trait of very dry skin), I would have to be applying lotion every 2 hours to normalize it.

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Feb 28, 2008 2:12 PM GMT

I honestly can't think of anything I obsess about. I go to the dentist every 3 months to get my teeth cleaned. My dentist keeps raving about how good my teeth and gums are (two cavities in my life).

Unlike some gay men I know, I am not a neat freak (my partner is to a certain extent). Matter of fact I like things to be a bit messy, perfection irritates me in a domestic setting. To me a home should look lived in not like a museum. The only exception to that rule is the kitchen. I have trouble going to bed with a dirty kitchen. There is something about waking up to dirty dishes in the sink that bothers me.

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Feb 28, 2008 4:45 PM GMT

My love of order is not dulled one iota by the medication that I take to keep it under control.

While I know that not being so compulsive might somehow be liberating I simply don't care. I like things to be in their place, as clean as they can be, and comprehensible.

My partner does not share this trait (at all) and we get along somehow (at least we have for 10 years and it just keeps getting better).

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Feb 28, 2008 4:50 PM GMT

I think I'm OCD about a lot of things. For instance, when I'm watching tv.. I don't like the volume to be on an odd number, has to be even. When I shower, I always do it in a routine sort of way. I don't take my shoes off until I'm ready for bed. I eat my food in portions, I want start on something else until I have finished one side. My house has to be clean. I hate dust, rings on the table.. that's what coasters are made for people!!! I have to brush my teeth at least 2 times a day. Some other things too, but I'm not going to discuss all my crap lol.

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Feb 28, 2008 4:56 PM GMT

After getting a great job at Star*ucks, for the benefits only, I developed a serious obsession with the order of things and cleanliness. Not that I wasn't a neat person before, but this job gives you OCD's you never knew you could have...

I even started to obsess over precise measurements and constantly keeping all supplies constantly filled. Thankfully, long after leaving, those obsessions went away, but now I'm just stuck with keeping everything in line and spelling everything correctly.

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Feb 28, 2008 6:26 PM GMT

lilmaninsc saidI think I'm OCD about a lot of things. For instance, when I'm watching tv.. I don't like the volume to be on an odd number, has to be even. When I shower, I always do it in a routine sort of way. I don't take my shoes off until I'm ready for bed. I eat my food in portions, I want start on something else until I have finished one side. My house has to be clean. I hate dust, rings on the table.. that's what coasters are made for people!!! I have to brush my teeth at least 2 times a day. Some other things too, but I'm not going to discuss all my crap lol.

"I don't like the volume on an odd number", boy that is a first! I have never heard anyone being bothered by that. I can understand the food thing. I like to eat my vegetables first, then my meat, very methodical. My brother is the same way. Mind you we are both logical, analytical people maybe that has something to do with it.

Cleanliness seems to be a trait that is more common in gay guys than straight guys. I rarely come across straight guys that are obsessed by a clean house, but I have met several gay guys that are like that.

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Feb 28, 2008 6:33 PM GMT

ShawnTO saidI love going to the dentist, I find it so relaxing. If I could, I'd go once a month.

I think the only thing I obsess about is my skin. I want to keep it in as best condition as possible. I mentioned this in another thread ages ago, the skincare line I use is rather expensive, thankfully I get it all for free, otherwise I'd be spending about $5000 a year on product.

Other than that I don't obsess about my apperance. What I do obsess about is the condition of my home, I'm always cleaning and making sure everything is just so. Everything in my apartment has to be either 90 degrees to eachother, or 45 if it's on an angle. If anything's off by just a hair, I can't relax until it's perfect.

Shawn,

I could have written the second part of your post myself. I've had a couple of bfs complain about my Joan Crawford organizational skills and penchant for cleanliness. Where have you been all my life? Shall we meet Friday to pick out the furniture?

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Feb 28, 2008 6:39 PM GMT

I think about dessert.

All the time.

Cakes, especially from http://www.bonbonerie.com/, ice cream, Starbucks green tea frappucinos, matcha cupcakes, cupcakes, cookies from Fresh Market or Whole Foods, pies, chocolate mousse, frozen Cool Whip, Cold Stone Creamery. I judge a restaurant based on its desserts and will not return to places where I've been served a bad dessert.

I also wash my hands a lot, a habit that started while I was working at a public library many many years ago. Working there forced me to realize just how filthy many people are and in response I constantly had to wash my hands. I'm not as bad as I was then, but I still overwash my hands.

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Feb 28, 2008 7:08 PM GMT

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Feb 28, 2008 7:13 PM GMT

I obsess about food...always thinking about it and looking for opportunites to cook/bake. The only place i'm obsessive is in the kitchen, when i cook, i only allow people to enter if they're willing to follow my orders without any interruption or objection. The ingredients must be exactly as i want them as well...which is funny because in general, i'm willing to eat most anything. I'm not finicky about the food i eat, just what i cook.

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Feb 28, 2008 7:23 PM GMT

lilmaninsc saidI think I'm OCD about a lot of things. For instance, when I'm watching tv.. I don't like the volume to be on an odd number, has to be even. When I shower, I always do it in a routine sort of way. I don't take my shoes off until I'm ready for bed. I eat my food in portions, I want start on something else until I have finished one side. My house has to be clean. I hate dust, rings on the table.. that's what coasters are made for people!!! I have to brush my teeth at least 2 times a day. Some other things too, but I'm not going to discuss all my crap lol.

ok - so the tv volume has to be on an ODD number for me. seriously! all my codes, etc are odd numbers, mostly 3, 7 or 37 or...dishes out of the dishwasher go to the bottom of the stack in the cabinet (silverware, too). i switch the pillows i sleep on each night (i have four - two each night), clothes in my closet are arranged by type and color...i could go on, but i don't really have any issues.

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Feb 28, 2008 7:28 PM GMT

[quote][...... What I do obsess about is the condition of my home, I'm always cleaning and making sure everything is just so. Everything in my apartment has to be either 90 degrees to eachother, or 45 if it's on an angle. If anything's off by just a hair, I can't relax until it's perfect.[/quote]

thank god, i thought i was the only one

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Feb 28, 2008 8:19 PM GMT

I don't obsess about my teeth (there again I am British). You dentists must love you.

However, when I leave the house in the morning I make sure that my bedroom looks neat and tidy. But that's it.

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Feb 28, 2008 9:52 PM GMT

I should give you my dentists number...

He's real old school lets see if we can do this without novacaine sort...

God I remember when I was 15 I went to free government dental program where they put in 3 fillings I didn't really need.

He freaked out and insisted on ripping all of them out, replacing and refinishing my teeth

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Feb 28, 2008 10:34 PM GMT

I have turned into somewhat of a slob over the years, but there are a few small things that I am still ocd about: Shirts should, whenever possible, be hung on matching hangers, that is, blue shirts on blue hangers, white shirts on white hangers, ecru shirts...well, you get the idea. And yes, they're divided out by color in the closet, too.

I discovered one of those drawer organizers at the Container Store (an OCD'er's equivalent of a drug dealer). Now my underwear are folded once in half, then rolled and folded once again, then put into the drawer organizer hole. Bath towels, of course have to be folded just right, and then, once folded, the two sides that show must be folded sides--the "loose" ends should never face a guest.

CD's should be sorted alphabetically by artist, or, if a compilation disk, by title.

Does anyone else have "Aspirin" in the top left of their medicine cabinet and "Zoloft" in the bottom left? Yes, my medicine cabinet is as alphabetical as I can get it.

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Feb 28, 2008 10:43 PM GMT

RunintheCity saidI think about dessert.

All the time.

Cakes, especially from http://www.bonbonerie.com/, ice cream, Starbucks green tea frappucinos, matcha cupcakes, cupcakes, cookies from Fresh Market or Whole Foods, pies, chocolate mousse, frozen Cool Whip, Cold Stone Creamery. I judge a restaurant based on its desserts and will not return to places where I've been served a bad dessert.

I also wash my hands a lot, a habit that started while I was working at a public library many many years ago. Working there forced me to realize just how filthy many people are and in response I constantly had to wash my hands. I'm not as bad as I was then, but I still overwash my hands.

I'm exactly the same on both counts!
There are some amazing places in Sydney to go eat cakes, any type you could possibly imagen, I've been to almost all of them! still got a few left

I have a hand washing problem, I have no idea when it started but I over wash my hands, I've had to slow down because it was effecting my skin but its bloody difficult!

I also eat food in an order.
I'm the same as lilmaninsc with the volume.

OOH Baking, I love to bake, but its gotta be perfect, absolutely spot on in taste/texture and I will keep making it over and over again until I think its right in every regard (I've made alot of friends very very happy and very fat hahaha)

Thats about it though, everything else is just sorta however it is

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Feb 28, 2008 11:32 PM GMT

Jockbod48 said

Shawn,

I could have written the second part of your post myself. I've had a couple of bfs complain about my Joan Crawford organizational skills and penchant for cleanliness. Where have you been all my life? Shall we meet Friday to pick out the furniture?

Hehe, sure. With your credit card and my tastes, I'm sure we could put together a home worthy of the best home mags.

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Feb 28, 2008 11:37 PM GMT

lilmaninsc saidI think I'm OCD about a lot of things. For instance, when I'm watching tv.. I don't like the volume to be on an odd number, has to be even.

For me the volume either has to be on a 0 or 5, eg. 50 or 55.

I decided to treat myself to choclate chip cookies tonight, and I'm looking at the bag sitting on the table, and I put it at a 45 degree angle to the corner. There's a file folder on the other end of the table, again at a 45 degree angle to the corner. I don't even realize I'm doing it. I'm such a freak.

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Feb 29, 2008 2:26 AM GMT

Where the hell is ObsceneWish? In a thread like this, I was looking forward to his comments. lol

I can be OCD about my apt being neat, clean, and "just so," as well as my desk at work. (I like the minimalist approach to furniture -- easy to clean.) I get royally irritated by drivers who can't keep their car in their own lane on the highway.

One of the reasons I don't have a photo of myself up yet is that I have very pics of myself, and the ones I have are quite lame.

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Feb 29, 2008 2:33 AM GMT

Lol, I know the volume thing is weird, but oh well lol. Kudos for coming out and admitting your OCD stuff.. it's very informative ;)

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Feb 29, 2008 10:36 AM GMT

danielryan saidAbout my teeth...I am so crazy sometimes! Do you guys have stupid little things that you obsess about?

lol .. Dan, you just go ahead and groom those teeth so we can keep looking at your cute smile! Why do I get the feeling that you may marry a dentist?

As for me, I am the kind of anti-OCD. I do like patterns and order, but can be very watery and relaxed about things as long as they don't involve my senses. I can't stand stinky stuff, dirty stuff, or stuff that is too loud. When I am in crowds of people, sometimes I zone out because I feel like I am hearing everyone at once like flies buzzing.

I like to be in order but if I don't have the right kind of storage, cabinets and stuff like that, I become very disordered. That is why I like being around orderly people, they help give me structure.

lilmaninsc saidI think I'm OCD about a lot of things ... Some other things too, but I'm not going to discuss all my crap lol.

AWWWWWW, you were going real good there for a minute too. I would have never guessed that stuff about you.

jbedwards saidMy brother is the same way. Mind you we are both logical, analytical people maybe that has something to do with it.

Yeah, well you could just be crazy too. Good-looking, but crazy.

jbedwards saidCleanliness seems to be a trait that is more common in gay guys than straight guys. I rarely come across straight guys that are obsessed by a clean house, but I have met several gay guys that are like that.

I like stuff clean too, but I tend to match whoever I am living with. If the other person is a slob, I just give up trying to keep things up.

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