IDK for me church and life have been intertwined, at least for MOST of my life. I was raised Roman Catholic, but got the hell out of Dodge when I was about 19 (well, was pretty much kicked out).
I got involved with the 9/11 relief efforts at what turned out to be an Episcopal parish with a gay priest whose partner was the choir director, office administrator and cook. There was all kinds of outreach stuff going on there to disadvantaged people who didn't give a crap if they were gay or not, because they were among the few people of privilege who treated them with any respect.
Subsequently met my boyfriend at another Episcopal church which is where now attend and are both very active. Our church's gay/lesbian population is pretty much in line with the population but our orientation is a complete non-issue with the straight people there, just as theirs is with ours. We see each other as people, not labels.
Now I'm working on Believe Out Loud, an ecumenical welcoming program that now includes thousands of congregations in twelve major denominations and numerous others.
I totally get it that people were "burned" by churches, and the church in general deserves any flack it gets from the LGBT community. But there are plenty of congregations that have seen the light on this issue and would welcome anybody who wanted to be there.