carabin saidOh people, you and your rules are killing me. Half of you are probably lamenting that you are single and can't meet your masc dude bro, so my opinion, you gotta go with the flow. You can always switch gyms if something is going to get that drastic. I go to a fairly straightish YMCA, lots of working class italans and Portuguese and brazilians et al. Pretty macho. I see members stopping for a chat w each other aplenty, I say hi to some people also. I do notice that the "gays" tend to have this haunted look on their faces. Maybe what I'm reading here explains it....
I agree with some of what carabin and others have said. I think the rule some guys have quoted is better applied to places like work or your apartment building since the cost of switching, in case things did not work out, is too high.
Furthermore, I think it would have to be a pretty terrible situation that requires you to switch gyms if things don't work out......and even then you could have a mature conversation with your ex on how to handle things so you can both enjoy the gym.
Realistically speaking people do work out at gyms where they have dated other guys or hooked up with other guys and everything works out fine.
If there was a true rule where every gay dude in San Francisco could only work out at a gym where he did not work out with an ex-bf, or a guy he briefly dated or a guy he hooked up with, San Francisco would need an extra 50,000 gyms or a complicated reservation system so you could work out at a smaller number of gyms without ever running into your ex-bf, or a guy you dated or hooked up with.
Since neither of those things is going to happen, guys in SF figure out a way to make it work.
I would also like to comment on something else that carabin said. I have worked out at a few gyms in the Bay area as a regular member and in some of them I found that the straight guys were way more friendly than the gay guys.
In particular I recall that at Sports Club LA and the Bay Club in San Francisco, the gay guys were pretty reserved... bordering on aloof or as carabin said the haunted look. I don't think the gay guys were necessarily closeted but there was something else going on with their attitude towards people they did not know.
The straight guys were way more likely to be friendly, say hello and strike up a light friendship.
Other gyms in San Francisco were more relaxed and the gay guys were friendlier.
So like carabin said, with so many guys lamenting the fact they can't meet anyone it is strange they pass up an opportunity like the gym. Even if the guy is not someone you might date, he might introduce you to new group of people that could contain a guy you might want to date so why not be more open to meeting people at the gym.