Who wouldn't want a boyfriend like this?!

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    Oct 27, 2010 5:51 AM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    swimmermatt101 saidWhy should this guy be getting so much appraisal for attempting to communicate with his boyfriend using the only language he can fully understand? But i said it before, i really dont think his bf is deaf.



    Who cares? It was a cute video with a cute message...and the messenger was adorable. If his heart was in the right place, and the receiver of the message was able to understand it -- BRAVO!


    I have to agree. Regardless of the circumstances, he made an attempt to please his boyfriend, weather he's deaf or ASL fluent, it really doesn't matter...it's the thought that counts! I'm sure whoever it was meant for understood the meaning.
    If that was my boyfriend he would be having the most amazing sex after that. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 27, 2010 5:56 AM GMT
    This made my study break icon_biggrin.gif. Ppl can be sweet.
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    Oct 27, 2010 5:59 AM GMT
    swimmermatt101 said

    The only reason he could understand is because there were subtitles. If the subtitles were not there i would not have understood half of what he was saying...



    If the subtitles were not there, most of us would not have understood it. So, what's your point? icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 27, 2010 6:02 AM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    swimmermatt101 saidWhy should this guy be getting so much appraisal for attempting to communicate with his boyfriend using the only language he can fully understand? But i said it before, i really dont think his bf is deaf.



    Who cares? It was a cute video with a sweet message...and the messenger was adorable. If his heart was in the right place, and the receiver of the message was able to understand it -- BRAVO!


    Who cares? This, supposedly, is a real heartfelt gesture. It has meaning and it is connected to a real person that has emotions. You're treating this like a video of a puppy who's scared to come down the stairs. To use my own analogy... whereas we'd be content to film the whining puppy unable to get down, a dog trainer might condemn us for being ignorant of the affect on the pup. So, I was being the dog trainer.
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    Oct 27, 2010 6:04 AM GMT
    A TRUE romantic would send this to his bf and only his bf. Plus he ruins it with his horny-ness, not cute

    If he has a deaf bf and he can barely do this message how do they communicate normally?

    How do you know it was for his deaf bf? No where does it say that

    It's a joke at the least ppl
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    Oct 27, 2010 6:05 AM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    swimmermatt101 said

    The only reason he could understand is because there were subtitles. If the subtitles were not there i would not have understood half of what he was saying...



    If the subtitles were not there, most of us would not have understood it. So, what's your point? icon_rolleyes.gif


    The point is that we acknowledge the heartfeltness behind the video... otherwise we would not deem it 'cute.' You are taking that, but striping away the fact that another person is receiving the message. You're not making any effort to understand what the receiver might be feeling. If the captions weren't present, the receiver would have a hard time following the message. It would not have the same impact. That's the point.
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    Oct 27, 2010 6:19 AM GMT
    Jmuscle33 saidA TRUE romantic would send this to his bf and only his bf. Plus he ruins it with his horny-ness, not cute

    If he has a deaf bf and he can barely do this message how do they communicate normally?

    How do you know it was for his deaf bf? No where does it say that

    It's a joke at the least ppl


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    Oct 27, 2010 6:23 AM GMT
    womp wompppppppppp.
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    Oct 27, 2010 6:23 AM GMT
    Fantastic! And the guy is very cute too........
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    Oct 27, 2010 6:31 AM GMT
    HisAlterEgo saidYou're not making any effort to understand what the receiver might be feeling. If the captions weren't present, the receiver would have a hard time following the message. It would not have the same impact. That's the point.



    I guess we'll just have to hope that the receiver, like us, appreciated the effort, even if it was delivered in a stumbling manner, and more importantly the message touched his heart the way it touched some of ours.
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    Oct 27, 2010 6:38 AM GMT
    Eee * faints from cuteness*
  • AvadaKedavra

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    Oct 27, 2010 6:39 AM GMT
    That is so damn adorable... makes ya want to melt. I love how he pauses to think.
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    Oct 27, 2010 6:49 AM GMT
    swimmermatt101 said
    CuriousJockAZ said
    swimmermatt101 saidWhy should this guy be getting so much appraisal for attempting to communicate with his boyfriend using the only language he can fully understand? But i said it before, i really dont think his bf is deaf.



    Who cares? It was a cute video with a cute message...and the messenger was adorable. If his heart was in the right place, and the receiver of the message was able to understand it -- BRAVO!


    The only reason he could understand is because there were subtitles. If the subtitles were not there i would not have understood half of what he was saying...


    When I originally viewed this ( on my iPad) the subtitles weren't there and I understood the intent of the message. Unless you are completely clueless I don't think it's too hard to understand the message behind the video.
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    Oct 27, 2010 6:53 AM GMT
    im in love!!! how sweet!! what an amazing bf!!
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    Oct 27, 2010 7:30 AM GMT
    HisAlterEgo said He was signing nearly word-for-word (which is not how deaf people sign) and he wasn't using the correct syntax and facial expressions. Sorry to interrupt the swooning... The guy is cute, the music is peppy, but the act isn't cute. The reality is that deaf homosexuals are severely limited in dating partners. I think it's a little bit patronizing to praise the guy who made an effort to communicate with his deaf boyfriend... something that he should have been doing all along. If he was really serioius he'd have learned how to sign properly. I probably seem like a killjoy, but I'm just not in the habit of praising people for things they should already be doing.


    Attitude problem. You don´t know how long they have been dating, how they normally communicate, or in fact anything... Get off your high horse and just appreciate the good things.
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    Oct 27, 2010 7:56 AM GMT
    HisAlterEgo said...He was signing nearly word-for-word (which is not how deaf people sign) and he wasn't using the correct syntax and facial expressions. Sorry to interrupt the swooning... The guy is cute, the music is peppy, but the act isn't cute. The reality is that deaf homosexuals are severely limited in dating partners. I think it's a little bit patronizing to praise the guy who made an effort to communicate with his deaf boyfriend... something that he should have been doing all along. If he was really serioius he'd have learned how to sign properly. I probably seem like a killjoy, but I'm just not in the habit of praising people for things they should already be doing.

    I always seem unable to "praise" anybody, even when they truly deserve it. However, I am able to make up possible scenarios where this is (as others put it) "sweet."

    It does look to me that he is fairly new to signing. He is slow, and appears unsure of himself. To my thinking he found somebody he has fallen for and is in the process of learning how to communicate fluently. If everything has been a struggle until now, and he is showing his man that he is making an effort I say good for him.

    As you rightly point out, deaf homosexuals are severely limited in their dating partners (if they expect fluent and easy communication.) However, I am guessing that at least one did not allow the difficulty of communicating with somebody who could not sign limit his dating partners. Perhaps he chose wisely; he found somebody willing to put effort into not only the relationship, but the time into learning a new way of communicating.

    Good for them both. I would imagine that most of the guys who thought it was "sweet" were touched as much by the content of the message as the method of delivery.
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    Oct 27, 2010 8:19 AM GMT
    his smile is cute, im in love. haha.
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    Oct 27, 2010 8:21 AM GMT
    That was the cutest thing ever! Where do I get one?
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    Oct 27, 2010 9:02 AM GMT
    yohoo saidso cute,i wish i had one.but wait....,is this real?


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    Oct 27, 2010 9:09 AM GMT
    How sensitive am I......
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    Oct 27, 2010 9:28 AM GMT
    That is great he is so sweet guy icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 27, 2010 10:04 AM GMT
    aww, reminds me of my ex, he was deaf too. =)
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    Oct 27, 2010 10:10 AM GMT
    Awww, sometimes I love the Internet.
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    Oct 27, 2010 11:09 AM GMT
    Lostboy said
    HisAlterEgo said He was signing nearly word-for-word (which is not how deaf people sign) and he wasn't using the correct syntax and facial expressions. Sorry to interrupt the swooning... The guy is cute, the music is peppy, but the act isn't cute. The reality is that deaf homosexuals are severely limited in dating partners. I think it's a little bit patronizing to praise the guy who made an effort to communicate with his deaf boyfriend... something that he should have been doing all along. If he was really serioius he'd have learned how to sign properly. I probably seem like a killjoy, but I'm just not in the habit of praising people for things they should already be doing.


    Attitude problem. You don´t know how long they have been dating, how they normally communicate, or in fact anything... Get off your high horse and just appreciate the good things.


    I respect everyone's opinions. Even though CuriousJock and I disagreed, we were still civil and reacted to each other's comments in a non-personal way. However, you chose to personally attack me. Additionally, you fell into the same trap that CuriousJock did... enjoying the part of something that you want without fully trying to understand its implications. You claim I don't know anything. Well, to be equal, you don't know any more than I do. So your supposition that this is a "good thing" is no more valid than my supposition that this is just ordinary.

    Everyone more or less says how happy they would be to be on the receiving end of that message. But no one here is deaf. How can anyone put themselves in a deaf person's shoes? The hope is that the receiver feels the same way a hearing person would feel. Well, that's quite a privilege to suggest. Frankly, I feel it's an imposition and a gloss over a real situation. I don't think people understand that deaf and hard-of-hearing individuals have a culture all their own. It seems only two people in this thread understand that, namely, myself and Swimmermatt10. We both understood the possible reaction of the receiver if, in-fact, he is deaf.

    We all see things differently. My point was that I don't find his action cute, just ordinary. Calling signing cute is patronizing to me. Sorry for knowing something and not jumping on the bandwagon... Ahh, correction: Sorry for asserting something incongruent with the masses.
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    Oct 27, 2010 11:11 AM GMT
    way too cute