Who wouldn't want a boyfriend like this?!

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    Oct 27, 2010 11:14 AM GMT
    AMAZING.

    One time I saw this cute deaf Asian guy and I wanted to hit on him so bad but we were at a Prop 8 rally so it felt tacky.
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    Oct 27, 2010 11:32 AM GMT
    OMFG, that was so cute and adorable icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 27, 2010 11:58 AM GMT
    HisAlterEgo said
    Lostboy said
    HisAlterEgo said He was signing nearly word-for-word (which is not how deaf people sign) and he wasn't using the correct syntax and facial expressions. Sorry to interrupt the swooning... The guy is cute, the music is peppy, but the act isn't cute. The reality is that deaf homosexuals are severely limited in dating partners. I think it's a little bit patronizing to praise the guy who made an effort to communicate with his deaf boyfriend... something that he should have been doing all along. If he was really serioius he'd have learned how to sign properly. I probably seem like a killjoy, but I'm just not in the habit of praising people for things they should already be doing.


    Attitude problem. You don´t know how long they have been dating, how they normally communicate, or in fact anything... Get off your high horse and just appreciate the good things.


    I respect everyone's opinions. Even though CuriousJock and I disagreed, we were still civil and reacted to each other's comments in a non-personal way. However, you chose to personally attack me. Additionally, you fell into the same trap that CuriousJock did... enjoying the part of something that you want without fully trying to understand its implications. You claim I don't know anything. Well, to be equal, you don't know any more than I do. So your supposition that this is a "good thing" is no more valid than my supposition that this is just ordinary.

    Everyone more or less says how happy they would be to be on the receiving end of that message. But no one here is deaf. How can anyone put themselves in a deaf person's shoes? The hope is that the receiver feels the same way a hearing person would feel. Well, that's quite a privilege to suggest. Frankly, I feel it's an imposition and a gloss over a real situation. I don't think people understand that deaf and hard-of-hearing individuals have a culture all their own. It seems only two people in this thread understand that, namely, myself and Swimmermatt10. We both understood the possible reaction of the receiver if, in-fact, he is deaf.

    We all see things differently. My point was that I don't find his action cute, just ordinary. Calling signing cute is patronizing to me. Sorry for knowing something and not jumping on the bandwagon... Ahh, correction: Sorry for asserting something incongruent with the masses.



    Indeed, the thoughts behind the gesture may have been cute, but if the delivery is not up to par, who can tell if there will be any guarantee for a favorable echo at the reception? Furthermore, if SigningCutie only meant the video for his boyfriend, I wonder if posting - and making it public - on YouTube was such a wise idea. As we see, it does stir controversy: some are touched by the cuteness of the character and his alleged intentions, others may critic the flaws in his prowess, and others could really feel offended - an non-English-speaking deaf person versed in ASL may even wonder if the guy isn't mocking them. Who knows?!...

    Simply, my impressions is that HisAlterEgo's intentions were not as much to diss the video as to remind people to be a bit more critical in their appreciation of it... icon_smile.gif And that is something at which RJ members are perfectly adept!!..icon_wink.gif

    This being said, he's one lil'hot number... Happy be the one who calls him 'boyfriend'..icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 27, 2010 12:20 PM GMT
    sign me up icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 27, 2010 12:22 PM GMT
    The most beautiful things always come from a place of love.

    Thanks for sharing this.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 27, 2010 12:23 PM GMT
    Very cute, nice that he's so dedicated to his boyfriend.
    Thanks for sharing that video.
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    Oct 27, 2010 12:26 PM GMT
    I can't stand how adorable and cute he was!
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    Oct 27, 2010 12:36 PM GMT
    I wish I knew sign language
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    Oct 27, 2010 1:26 PM GMT
    That was actually very sweet... the little pauses while he tried to remember the signs are endearing. His boyfriend is lucky lucky lucky.
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    Oct 27, 2010 1:32 PM GMT
    HisAlterEgo said
    Lostboy said
    HisAlterEgo said He was signing nearly word-for-word (which is not how deaf people sign) and he wasn't using the correct syntax and facial expressions. Sorry to interrupt the swooning... The guy is cute, the music is peppy, but the act isn't cute. The reality is that deaf homosexuals are severely limited in dating partners. I think it's a little bit patronizing to praise the guy who made an effort to communicate with his deaf boyfriend... something that he should have been doing all along. If he was really serioius he'd have learned how to sign properly. I probably seem like a killjoy, but I'm just not in the habit of praising people for things they should already be doing.


    Attitude problem. You don´t know how long they have been dating, how they normally communicate, or in fact anything... Get off your high horse and just appreciate the good things.


    I respect everyone's opinions. Even though CuriousJock and I disagreed, we were still civil and reacted to each other's comments in a non-personal way. However, you chose to personally attack me. Additionally, you fell into the same trap that CuriousJock did... enjoying the part of something that you want without fully trying to understand its implications. You claim I don't know anything. Well, to be equal, you don't know any more than I do. So your supposition that this is a "good thing" is no more valid than my supposition that this is just ordinary.

    Everyone more or less says how happy they would be to be on the receiving end of that message. But no one here is deaf. How can anyone put themselves in a deaf person's shoes? The hope is that the receiver feels the same way a hearing person would feel. Well, that's quite a privilege to suggest. Frankly, I feel it's an imposition and a gloss over a real situation. I don't think people understand that deaf and hard-of-hearing individuals have a culture all their own. It seems only two people in this thread understand that, namely, myself and Swimmermatt10. We both understood the possible reaction of the receiver if, in-fact, he is deaf.

    We all see things differently. My point was that I don't find his action cute, just ordinary. Calling signing cute is patronizing to me. Sorry for knowing something and not jumping on the bandwagon... Ahh, correction: Sorry for asserting something incongruent with the masses.


    Precisely. Sign Language is not a gesture, it is a language, as it says in it's name.
  • MrPapo317

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    Oct 27, 2010 1:35 PM GMT
    That's so sweet.
  • Iakona

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    Oct 27, 2010 1:35 PM GMT
    I thought this was absolutely sweet.... we don't know when he started to learn sign language, we don't know any of the back story. All we know is that he made an effort to put together a video for his bf. Deaf or not, that's more then most guys would do. Let's look at the intention behind the video, it's sweet, cute and adorable. We should all try to do stuff like this for our significant others!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 27, 2010 1:37 PM GMT
    Rugged13 saidi want a deaf boyfriend now


    hahaahha...

    this is indeed cute
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    Oct 27, 2010 2:02 PM GMT
    W.O.W. *takes notes*
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    Oct 27, 2010 2:07 PM GMT
    lol swimmermatt and hisalterego, try to consider this; Imagine you are in Holland , fall in love with a Dutch guy, you don't know the language, so you learn some phrases as fast as you can and make a love-letter vid. Your pronunciation is off and sentence structure poor, though understandable.

    Imagine a Dutch guy comes here and doesn't know English. He falls for you, you are completely smitten, and to top it off he makes up a vid in his broken English to tell you he's head over heels. You gonna slap him for that? Sniff disdainfully that he didn't learn English well enough, so how dare he do what he did?

    Something to think about.

    -Doug
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    Oct 27, 2010 2:08 PM GMT
    on deaf note, i met a deaf guy online few years ago, nice and cute but never met again after that... couple years after, got reconnected and learned he had contracted HIV since the time we met icon_sad.gif
    sad sad sad
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    Oct 27, 2010 2:12 PM GMT
    HisAlterEgo said blablabla whine, whine, blablabla winge.


    . What the guy is doing is analogous to someone sending me a video like that in bad spanish... I speak Spanish, how can someone speak such bad Spanish and still date me? It´s cute that they tried, but he really needs to speak Spanish before dating me. If you are serious you lean my language fluently.

    You need a holiday or a drink
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    Oct 27, 2010 2:18 PM GMT
    Sincere. Heartfelt. Clumsily authentic in spite of all the flaws pointed out by those more sensitive to the nuances of the language.

    If a non-French speaking guy had attempted a video in butchered French to his non or near-non English speaking boyfriend, with as much sincerity - pausing to find the proper phrase, stumbling over conjugations and syntax - I very much doubt we'd be taking him to task for making the effort. And if the object of his affection had been so easily offended as to ignore the effort and grouse over his pathetic novice efforts with his precious language, then he wouldn't deserve him, frankly.

    Mastery of skill comes with effort, and with or without a complete and fully evolved understanding of sign, this cat made an effort whose sincerity is evident. Perfection comes with love - and this was pretty damned perfect, I'd say.

    Parse away at the politics of precious personal dilemmas all you want, the beginnings of a communication between two guys in love is all this boils down to, and pissing on it now seems a tad bit more than anal.
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    Oct 27, 2010 2:32 PM GMT
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    HisAlterEgo said blablabla whine, whine, blablabla winge.

    . What the guy is doing is analogous to someone sending me a video like that in bad spanish... I speak Spanish, how can someone speak such bad Spanish and still date me? It´s cute that they tried, but he really needs to speak Spanish before dating me. If you are serious you lean my language fluently.
    You need a holiday or a drink


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    Oct 27, 2010 2:42 PM GMT
    Disasterpiece saidIntroducing an invitation to "make love and masturbate in your car" into your dance moves...


    You mean that's not already a dance move?? No wonder deaf guys always come on to me. That's just how I dance.
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    Oct 27, 2010 3:07 PM GMT
    BuddyinNYC said
    Lostboy said
    HisAlterEgo said blablabla whine, whine, blablabla winge.

    . What the guy is doing is analogous to someone sending me a video like that in bad spanish... I speak Spanish, how can someone speak such bad Spanish and still date me? It´s cute that they tried, but he really needs to speak Spanish before dating me. If you are serious you lean my language fluently.
    You need a holiday or a drink


    +18


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    Oct 27, 2010 3:12 PM GMT

    Whoever he is saying that to must be the luckiest man alive!!!
    He's totally adorable...and his sweet words make me weak in the knees!!!
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    Oct 27, 2010 3:15 PM GMT
    my point is we are assuming that we know how they communicate. We know nothing about the relationship. Why invent bad and see slights at every turn? Life is hard enough without making it appear worse.
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    Oct 27, 2010 5:04 PM GMT
    I can't believe the negative reaction of some comments on here! all and I say ALL of my straight friends and straight co-workers who have seen this video have nothing but positive reactions and nice things to say about the young gay man on the video! NOT A SINGLE ONE had criticized or questioned the young man's lack knowledge or his delivery of sign language!


    Leandro ♥
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    Oct 27, 2010 5:06 PM GMT
    ALEZANDAR saidI can't believe the negative reaction of some comments on here! all and I say ALL of my straight friends and straight co-workers who have seen this video have nothing but positive reactions and nice things to say about the young gay man on the video! NOT A SINGLE ONE had criticized or questioned the young man's lack knowledge or his delivery of sign language!


    Leandro ♥


    That´s because they are not bitter and negative.