malefeet saidI think it has to do with your level of confidence when you're on a date with the guys.
Maybe. I definitely don't have any confidence or self-esteem. Never really have, but it's gotten a lot worse since I came out.
I feel you on this-- after a year of being single and being too busy to even meet much of anyone, even one rejection hits pretty hard.
Since coming out you've been taking big risks and actually going for what you want more, and it hasn't worked out so far. So loss of confidence is an unfortunate side effect of you acting more confident.
It's just a matter of time and learning from mistakes. If you place the guys you date way above yourself, they'll see that. And if you don't value yourself, why should they?
As much as it feels like a relationship would be a step towards a better life, being single is the best time to build confidence. You've got to know yourself and be comfortable with yourself before you can fully be with someone else. If you can, find a way to think of yourself as okay with being single, so that you can move through the day thinking of a relationship as a luxury, not a necessity. This will be endlessly easier after you have been in your first relationship, but it is no less true now than it will be then.