SOMEONE ASKED ME A QUESTION DO YOU AGREE WITH MY ANWSER?

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    Oct 30, 2010 3:34 AM GMT
    conscienti1984 said*Oh no, I wouldn't want my kids to be gay--growing up gay is hard! I NEVER want my child to go through anything difficult in life!*

    Note sarcasm.

    I am who I am today because of all the shit I have been through. All my morals, values, beliefs, passions, and knowledge base have been greatly influenced by adversities I have suffered through.

    How boring would life be if everything went as planned and without challenges? How many Martin Luther King Jrs, Einsteins, Tubmans, Schindlers, and Kennedeys would be erased from history if everyone always took the road less traveled--the easier walk in life?

    No, I will not shelter my future adopted child(ern) from all dangers in his/her childhood/adolescents—I want them to create character and grow up to be all that they are capable of. Most of all, I want them to be happy. And along the way, My future partner and I will guide my child(ern) down the road of independence, coping skills, critical thought, and problem solving so that they may survive whatever Life throws at them.

    At least that Is what I will strive for as a parent.


    Well said. I think the question posed to the OP is a little obnoxious. Granted it might have come from very nice people, it's a very loaded question. The best you could ever want for your children is that they are authentic. They the grow into who they are naturally and without harm.

    I'm sure you'd be a loving parent, but the disappointment in the tone of your note at having a gay child is a learned behavior, and you'll pass it on to others if you're not careful.

    You know, there were cultures who believed that gay people were higher beings sent to earth for a specific purpose. I prefer to subscribe to that theory...

    Dax
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    Oct 30, 2010 3:53 AM GMT
    daxmillion said
    conscienti1984 said*Oh no, I wouldn't want my kids to be gay--growing up gay is hard! I NEVER want my child to go through anything difficult in life!*

    Note sarcasm.

    I am who I am today because of all the shit I have been through. All my morals, values, beliefs, passions, and knowledge base have been greatly influenced by adversities I have suffered through.

    How boring would life be if everything went as planned and without challenges? How many Martin Luther King Jrs, Einsteins, Tubmans, Schindlers, and Kennedeys would be erased from history if everyone always took the road less traveled--the easier walk in life?

    No, I will not shelter my future adopted child(ern) from all dangers in his/her childhood/adolescents—I want them to create character and grow up to be all that they are capable of. Most of all, I want them to be happy. And along the way, My future partner and I will guide my child(ern) down the road of independence, coping skills, critical thought, and problem solving so that they may survive whatever Life throws at them.

    At least that Is what I will strive for as a parent.


    Well said. I think the question posed to the OP is a little obnoxious. Granted it might have come from very nice people, it's a very loaded question. The best you could ever want for your children is that they are authentic. They the grow into who they are naturally and without harm.

    I'm sure you'd be a loving parent, but the disappointment in the tone of your note at having a gay child is a learned behavior, and you'll pass it on to others if you're not careful.

    You know, there were cultures who believed that gay people were higher beings sent to earth for a specific purpose. I prefer to subscribe to that theory...

    Dax


    I am confused by your response--I would never suggest that homosexuality is a learned "behavior."

    I suppose my post was more about all types of adversities that people must face in life solely because of how the world works... whether you're gay, black, asian, female, atheist, Muslim, Jewish, Christian, Pastafarian, short, disabled, visually impaired, mentally ill, handicapped, obese, terminally ill, diseased, "ugly", or born with the last name Beiber.
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    Oct 30, 2010 4:09 AM GMT
    It is confusing. On one side we hear that being gay is almost a non-issue, while around us kids and young men and women are committing suicide over it.
    Again, that TONY said what he did is "the canary in the mineshaft" (which was how early miners detected poisonous air down there); something's amiss, though progress has been made in being treated like ordinary people (hey I'm from the early 1970s), some kind of support or general reaching out among gay people (no organizations, just us) is missing, I think.

    Yikes, we're not agreeing with him, we'd be happy to have gay kids just as much as straight ones, lol, actually more like we'd love the straight ones as much as the gay ones, how's that? . But his statement to those people is a red flag that all isn't well.

    -Doug


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    Oct 30, 2010 7:25 AM GMT
    PRINCETONY said a long time ago, I realized nothing, with the current scientific technology, can change one's sexual orientation. So I gave up wanting and trying to be straight, and just accepted myself. But the sad part is, my family is keep insisting on me to act masculine, make a girlfriend, play sports, etc. when I'm just being myself (being feminine, not interested in girls at all but only boys, being indifferent of sports,...) I come out, ,and I'm well aware of the consequences that come with it. I was especially scared of people who think gays are "gross" and "disgusting" and treat them accordingly. How should you live this world if you're a gay? Life is hard, but I think it is even harder for gays like me. How unfortunate that I was born like this by some unlucky chance. Wow, I'm feeling really sad.
    I just wish I was born like most people (heterosexuals), so that I could live naturally, be myself and express myself freely without any fear.this is how I thought long ago befor I came out and I don't know I guess im just scared if I had a kid and he came up to me and told me''daddy im gay''I just know what I would do,of course I wouldn't kick him out or anything and I do want kids like adopt some day far away from now because trust me I love kids and they love me.I guess im just SCARED and sorry if I offended anyone.

    bkiersted(changes)





    Stop caring about what other people think of you, seriously.

    I didn't care about what anyone had to say or what people thought of me ever since I was done with middle school.