Oct 30, 2010 4:49 PM GMT
Danny and I have been living together for three years. This fall, I asked him to marry me and he accepted. 
I put a whole lot of thought in pre planning and preparing to ask him to marry me. It was a wonderful night from start to finish , marked with a lot of sweet sookiness (-- minds oudda da gudder - that's a bluenose expression. "look in my profile at my cat hugging me - we would say he is "being a real sook" (rhymes with "book") there.
OK - so Danny has never even THOUGHT of a marriage before - and my first marriage was a bit traditional (but modest) in that our parents put it together for us.
I don't even know where to begin now?
We want to married next June. And we don't have much money to spend.
OK - let's be blunt - we both live on Disability pensions and we have no savings.
The important thing to us is not making some " great event."
But Danny has never had a wedding (never dreamed he might ever be married at all.
I can skimp on everything really except one thing - I have to fly my kids from Ottawa here and back, and put them up somewhere.
Do I pay for transpotation and accommodation for everyone we invite from out of town?
I have only my two kids and my Mum; I would like to invite my brother and I kinda want him to be my Best Man so I should foot the cost for him to come from Toronto.?
Danny has family that will drive from cape Breton, NS (ther will be about a dozen, including the kids - should we invite nephews? I have met them - they are good kids.
Or do I need to look at just Dan and I going to a registry office in the morning, get hitched, come home.
(Or do I go to City Hall or the Provincial courthouse?)
I am totally at sea here.
I was thinking I'll ask Danny "if you could have any kind of wedding you ever wanted, what would it be?" then see what he imagines.
This is to be HIS day.
I wonder who I even call
I put a whole lot of thought in pre planning and preparing to ask him to marry me. It was a wonderful night from start to finish , marked with a lot of sweet sookiness (-- minds oudda da gudder - that's a bluenose expression. "look in my profile at my cat hugging me - we would say he is "being a real sook" (rhymes with "book") there.
OK - so Danny has never even THOUGHT of a marriage before - and my first marriage was a bit traditional (but modest) in that our parents put it together for us.
I don't even know where to begin now?
We want to married next June. And we don't have much money to spend.
OK - let's be blunt - we both live on Disability pensions and we have no savings.
The important thing to us is not making some " great event."
But Danny has never had a wedding (never dreamed he might ever be married at all.
I can skimp on everything really except one thing - I have to fly my kids from Ottawa here and back, and put them up somewhere.
Do I pay for transpotation and accommodation for everyone we invite from out of town?
I have only my two kids and my Mum; I would like to invite my brother and I kinda want him to be my Best Man so I should foot the cost for him to come from Toronto.?
Danny has family that will drive from cape Breton, NS (ther will be about a dozen, including the kids - should we invite nephews? I have met them - they are good kids.
Or do I need to look at just Dan and I going to a registry office in the morning, get hitched, come home.
(Or do I go to City Hall or the Provincial courthouse?)
I am totally at sea here.
I was thinking I'll ask Danny "if you could have any kind of wedding you ever wanted, what would it be?" then see what he imagines.
This is to be HIS day.
I wonder who I even call
... This is Canada. ... I think it is traditional for each wedding guest to bring a block of ice and help the new couple make their new igloo. ... 
