Excuses are never legitimate.

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    Mar 16, 2008 7:07 PM GMT
    I'm young and have never been athletic my whole entire life. My parents put me in sports when I was younger but I never stuck through them when it counted in high school or college. I've been in and out of gyms the past 3 years with little to no progress except a slight progress when I had a work out partner about 2.5 years ago. I started to get some muscular arms. In college, I even took a weight training class (which was a flop because the only professor which that class had was lazy himself, explain that) and still haven't learned a whole lot. I find it so hard to push myself the extra mile at the gym sometimes. I usually do try though. I'm one of the people that have "tried anything". I'd probably eat dirt if I knew it'd help me out. Since then my work out partner moved. Most of my friends except one live in the city and I live in the suburbs and even with that said I'm the only of my friends who goes to the gym. I'm really slammed with school work and a job all week. I attend college full time and work at a pharmacy. I eat crap. Sometimes, I really try to buckle down eat healthy (or what I think is healthy) sometimes. Sadly, I lack all motivation to get into shape. I live at home while I'm finishing school due to its the only way I could afford to go to college right now. My mother is the cook here and sadly my whole family is overweight. I try cooking for myself when I can. When I'm not overly stressed from taking on such a huge load of school and work. So, I need a solution. A mentor. Something! I feel like "the wandered" type at the gym sometimes because I don't know what I'm doing. I'm not there to ever hook up with someone. Sadly, I'm a good looking guy until I take my shirt off. Guys approach me and when they see the pudge they move the other direction. Drinking and going to college comes hand and hand. I restrict myself a lot though which is funny cause they frat guys drinking beers daily are ripped and I'm all flab. I wish I could get a personal trainer but they're out of my college student budget right now and trust me, I've really tried to make a friend at the gym and have even been like bro, if you wanna work out sometime together just let me know. It's hard. I wonder what pushed all of you guys to your fitness level you're at out now because between stress, school, jobs, poor diet choices, socializing, and lack of knowledge I feel like I really am out for the count. I feel like I'm just going to end up letting go one day and having to get some drastic surgery. Any insight on how to get through it helps. I know everyones heard this story before, but save a person. I'd be forever grateful.
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    Mar 16, 2008 8:02 PM GMT
    well, I think you have come to the right place.

    Look at the work out plans this site has for free. You can check out the exercises on here too to see how they are done.

    If you dont have facilities to do all of the exercises they show here, pick out the ones you can or even just do the ones that dont require any equipment. I think you will be amazed at how the body responds to even the least amount of effort.

    Dont worry about doing everything at once, either.

    Which is your greatest concern right now. If it is the gut, then look at the eating advice here and eat according. That wont even take time....ya gotta eat now anyway. When you see the pudge coming off, the inspiration will have great motivational impact to do exercises.

    If it's the muscles that you would like to work on first, then do the exercises and when you get motivated by them, then take on the dieting.

    Take people that you are doing whatever you choose to do. The fear of embarrassing yourself by stopping will help keep you going when you might quit.

    Start a thread on RealJock. Make it your own personal blog to tell about what your doing, your progress, how you feel, etc. Guys on here will be a great support team for you. I did that during my cancer therapy and I cant tell you how much their kind words and encouragement meant to me. I am sure you will come to see them as your workout buddies, there to keep you motivated and talk to.

    But probably the greatest task for you will be motivation.

    I would suggest that you picture what you want to be like at the end. Get that in your mind. Write it down as an inspirational message to yourself when you feel down.

    But also, take that picture of the final you and now start writing out what you have to do to achieve that goal. Write it out step by step working backwards to where you are now.

    For example:

    Slim, pudgeless physique: Lose weight

    1) change diet: list changes you need to make
    2) increase activity to burn calories: list possible ways to increase activities that you can do now

    Defined physique: defined pecs, ripply abs, V-back, biceps, triceps, core muscles, proportional legs: quads, calves, hams

    1) Research exercises for each listed body part described on RJ
    2) Select exercises doable for your time and resources at this time
    3) Write down a routine
    4) Execute routine

    Keep Record: keep a record so you can see your progress...great motivator

    1) Notebook for eating...record every bite
    2) Notebook for exercising
    3) Blog on RJ...for support, advice, and BRAGGING!

    Ok, I am no personal trainer, but that's my two cents.

    Good luck and I look forward to reading your blog.

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    Mar 18, 2008 4:56 AM GMT
    Thanks Caslon.

    You're advice is greatly appreciated.