Dec 06, 2010 2:25 AM GMT
If I still lived in Atlanta, you'd totally have a place to stay. Let me know if you make it to Miami Beach.
MuscleComeBack saidDO NOT -repeat - DO NOT move in with anyone who wants anything from you other than rent. Period.In theory that's good advice; but in my experience of shitty roomies, they tend to be nice and respectful till your first week there...then once you're in and settled, they pull the "put out or get out" bullshit.
A_1991 said I cant believe that parents would do this to their own child, this is beyond disgusting.
radtech10 said Basically I am a 19 year old gay male in atlanta ga. Just came out to parents who decided to kick me out. I now have no place to live, no job, no car, etc. Anyone in atl know somebody who needs a roomate?
Caesarea4 saidAlso keep in mind that it likely took you years to accept being gay. Your parents just found out (probably with some shock involved) and had a bad reaction. Give them a little bit of time, hopefully that won't be their final answer.>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Thumbs up to you for sharing this experience and good advice.
Not sure how they'll take it, but if possible suggest to your parents that this is a family matter and maybe the three of you should go, together, to get some counseling. And no, not from the Church (etc). See if you can get a recommendation of someone to see in the Cumming area from the organizations listed above.
When I first came out to my parents, mom (a social worker) was theoretically ok with it (would be fine with anyone else, other than her little baby, being gay) and dad... well, the absent-minded hard science professor might have never heard about it before and naturally figured that I could be "fixed". We all had a session with a therapist and by the end of the hour he turned to my parents and said something like: "he seems to be dealing pretty will with being gay, how about you?" (i.e. Dad, there's nothing to "fix").
Best of luck, and remember that you always have your gay and RJ family with you!
radtech10 saidHey Everyone
Just wanted to update you all on my current situation.
I am still living at home. Trying to work things out. I have been going to school since October to become a Radiologist, so I am doing all I can to stay at home until I can truly support myself. I have also gotten a job interview this saturday so I am hoping that will work out. So as of right now things are going ok...
But if it so happens that I do have to leave my house, I have found a program here in ATL for a backup plan. It is called the RAINBOW PROGRAM. You can read about it on chriskids.org. Basically it is an organization dedicated to helping homeless youth in ATL. The RAINBOW PROGRAM is for GLBT youth who are/or at risk for becoming homeless. It is for 17-21 year olds. It is funded by donations. I would live in my own apartment in a complex owned by the foundation. There are counselors that would work with me to help me become more independent. You are required to have a job/and or go to school for at least 20 hours a week. They basically help you to learn life skills to become independent so that you can thrive and succeed in life.
So, I do have options.
I just want to say I love you guys. Ya'll have gotten me through this. I appreciate all the emails and replies I have gotten from everybody. I feel like I have a whole family here who truly loves and cares for me. So thank you everybody!
I will update ya'll again soon. Keep me in your thought please!
triguybi saidRadtech, sorry to hear of your struggles. Though good to hear some opportunities have come up for you if you must move out. Glad to see your parents are giving you some time. As a 19 year old though, it may be close to time to move out of your parents home anyway so I would pursue your options regardless of your parents changing their mind or not. If you have some say so in it, don't move out out of anger, but out of the fact that you are becoming an adult. And you have shown that your are by taking the steps to get an education, a job and a place to live. All the best to you.
To all those who have ripped on Radtech's parents. It never helps in situations like this to bash someone's loved one. The reality is that most likely Radtech loves his parents and wants to continue a relationship with them. Telling someone their parents are trash or ignorant does not help that person as they deal with rejection from someone they love. Hopefully they will come around in time and the relationship healed. You don't help that possibility by fanning the flames. Also, its not like he is a 14 year old kid. He is 19 and its not all that unusual for parents to expect their 19 year old to begin moving on.