Dec 09, 2010 5:30 PM GMT
So this might be a bit of a strange question/concern (so humor me for a minute) but lately I've realized that I've been missing what most gay men consider a staple in their "gay social arsenal," the quintessential "fruit fly" / that best girl friend who you can go to with anything, always count on, and be there for each other no matter what.
I have friends, but most of my closest friends are gay. This is all well and good, but I don't feel it fulfills the type of emotional needs that a friendship with a best girl friend can bring. Also I think there can occasionally be an underlying tension between gay men that doesn't exist in a gay male/female relationship.
I look at all my gay friends and each and every one of them have that best girl friendship, most of which have lasted for years and years. To be honest I envy that bond! As a kid growing up all my friends were girls, and I loved it. But over time people move, lose touch and change. I guess my situation of coming out later, being an only child, moving and basically having to start a completely new social circle form scratch left me without any real girl bffs.
So what are your thoughts on the gay male/best girl friend relationship, do you have one? Has it been a long standing friendship? Can you find one out of the blue? Any advice on where to even begin?
I have friends, but most of my closest friends are gay. This is all well and good, but I don't feel it fulfills the type of emotional needs that a friendship with a best girl friend can bring. Also I think there can occasionally be an underlying tension between gay men that doesn't exist in a gay male/female relationship.
I look at all my gay friends and each and every one of them have that best girl friendship, most of which have lasted for years and years. To be honest I envy that bond! As a kid growing up all my friends were girls, and I loved it. But over time people move, lose touch and change. I guess my situation of coming out later, being an only child, moving and basically having to start a completely new social circle form scratch left me without any real girl bffs.
So what are your thoughts on the gay male/best girl friend relationship, do you have one? Has it been a long standing friendship? Can you find one out of the blue? Any advice on where to even begin?