Dec 13, 2010 7:26 PM GMT
hey guys,
This has been sitting on me for a while so I thought i'd ask you all for some advice and get some perspective.
Pretty much I'm fucking one of my best friends. We met on a4a - started as just hook up buddies, but somehow in the last year, it slowly developed into us becoming really good friends and him telling me that i'm one of the people that he opens up to most. Problem is, we're still having sex. So we're pretty much best friends that have sex which begs the question....why aren't we dating?
I just moved back down to southern california from san francisco, and we still talk - in fact, he just came down for my birthday a few weeks ago and im going back up this weekend to see him. He tells me about some dates that he goes on knowing that it irks me because I'm pretty sure he knows that I like him.
How should I approach this situation? I don't want to lose a best friend, but I also fell for him. We kinda crossed the boundaries of a friends with benefits NSA relationship by him making us best friends and telling me about his feelings. It's tough cuz I care about him now.
He has a history of his friend with benefits before that fell for him too and he just rejected him......maybe im just not his type - and I dont want to bring it up to him if there really is no chance.
Definitely confused....
This has been sitting on me for a while so I thought i'd ask you all for some advice and get some perspective.
Pretty much I'm fucking one of my best friends. We met on a4a - started as just hook up buddies, but somehow in the last year, it slowly developed into us becoming really good friends and him telling me that i'm one of the people that he opens up to most. Problem is, we're still having sex. So we're pretty much best friends that have sex which begs the question....why aren't we dating?
I just moved back down to southern california from san francisco, and we still talk - in fact, he just came down for my birthday a few weeks ago and im going back up this weekend to see him. He tells me about some dates that he goes on knowing that it irks me because I'm pretty sure he knows that I like him.
How should I approach this situation? I don't want to lose a best friend, but I also fell for him. We kinda crossed the boundaries of a friends with benefits NSA relationship by him making us best friends and telling me about his feelings. It's tough cuz I care about him now.
He has a history of his friend with benefits before that fell for him too and he just rejected him......maybe im just not his type - and I dont want to bring it up to him if there really is no chance.
