Are muscle guys attracted to thinner men?

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    Feb 22, 2012 4:05 PM GMT
    Yeah they put all of that time and effort into working out so they can date a guy that...doesn't.

    Makes sense.

    Everybody has a type, but I would say generally...not so much.
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    Feb 22, 2012 4:19 PM GMT
    7Famark saidYeah they put all of that time and effort into working out so they can date a guy that...doesn't.

    Makes sense.

    Everybody has a type, but I would say generally...not so much.

    This ^^^

    I always icon_rolleyes.gif when someone claims they do not have a type.

    Most people grossly underestimate the amount of effort that goes into the gym lifestyle.

    Personally for a relationship I'd go for someone who is of the same mindset to be on the same wavelength. But for in the case of a fwb I'd go for a skinny or even a slightly chubbby guy. I'm not that picky. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 22, 2012 4:20 PM GMT
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    7Famark saidYeah they put all of that time and effort into working out so they can date a guy that...doesn't.

    Makes sense.

    Everybody has a type, but I would say generally...not so much.

    Most people grossly underestimate the amount of effort that goes into that lifestyle.

    Personally for a relationship I'd go for someone who is of the same mindset to be on the same wavelength. But for in the case of a fwb I'd go for a skinny or even a slightly chubbby guy. I'm not that picky. icon_wink.gif


    That's what I am saying...

    I spend a good amount of time planning and cooking healthy meals for the week, and going to the gym, and doing other outdoor activities - and to actually be with someone, they sort of have to be a part of that, otherwise it just isn't going to work.
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    Feb 22, 2012 4:24 PM GMT
    7Famark said
    TellMe said
    7Famark saidYeah they put all of that time and effort into working out so they can date a guy that...doesn't.

    Makes sense.

    Everybody has a type, but I would say generally...not so much.

    Most people grossly underestimate the amount of effort that goes into that lifestyle.

    Personally for a relationship I'd go for someone who is of the same mindset to be on the same wavelength. But for in the case of a fwb I'd go for a skinny or even a slightly chubbby guy. I'm not that picky. icon_wink.gif


    That's what I am saying...

    I spend a good amount of time planning and cooking healthy meals for the week, and going to the gym, and doing other outdoor activities - and to actually be with someone, they sort of have to be a part of that, otherwise it just isn't going to work.

    lol.. same here! doing the food prep every week and measuring out every meal is soooo much weekly effort. Someone who dosent get it is more likely to be like 'why do you have to do that all the time' , 'you are always in the gym we never have much time for much else'...blah blah.. You dont get a great body on love and fresh air. You gotta work for it and it takes years!! icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 22, 2012 4:26 PM GMT
    I'm sure this comment will draw some flames, but....

    If you were the skinny/scrawny guy, wouldn't you feel a little insecure going out with your man?
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    Feb 22, 2012 4:35 PM GMT
    Skinny boy are crazy sexy
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    Feb 22, 2012 4:37 PM GMT
    I actually felt very secure when I was dating a 6'3 muscular guy. It was nice to know I had someone who could protect my ass. He enjoyed playing that role.

    At the end of the day if your not a confident person and you constantly compare yourself to other people/feel inferior then your not going to achieve much.

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    Feb 22, 2012 4:39 PM GMT
    I think so? icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 22, 2012 4:41 PM GMT
    whateveryo saidI actually felt very secure when I was dating a 6'3 muscular guy. It was nice to know I had someone who could protect my ass. He enjoyed playing that role.

    At the end of the day if your not a confident person and you constantly compare yourself to other people/feel inferior then your not going to achieve much.



    right on man!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 22, 2012 4:41 PM GMT
    Why do so many people seem convinced gay men want a mirror image of themselves in a partner?

    I understand the thought process, but hasn't it been shown that gay men are more likely to want someone DIFFERENT from them, so they don't feel as if they're constantly in "competition" with their partner?

    I dunno, I'm definitely attracted to the bigger/more muscular type, and I'm going to continue to hold out hope. It's not that I like the passion/motivation to become jacked, it's just not what I'm interested in investing that much of my time in. I want to be the small spoon/smaller guy, for whatever reason.

    Maybe it's because I'm kind of an introvert in some ways, but I'd love a relationship where my partner went out to the gym for an hour or two and left me home to work on my music. I think it's much more important that a guy be passionate/motivated about SOMETHING than the same thing as you.
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    Feb 22, 2012 4:44 PM GMT
    ^I did not say that they are seeking their mirror image in a partner.

    But the fact of the matter is, when someone is into health and fitness...that is generally reflected in other areas of their life, so if their partner can't at the very least be a part of that in some way...

    Not to mention, whether people are willing to accept it or not - vanity is part of the reason people work out. It may not be the main reason, but it is definitely part of it.

    I guess I can only speak for myself (And I am no muscle-god by any means), but I am attracted to guys with muscular/worked-out bodies.
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    Feb 22, 2012 4:48 PM GMT
    7Famark said^I did not say that they are seeking their mirror image in a partner.

    But the fact of the matter is, when someone is into health and fitness...that is generally reflected in other areas of their life, so if their partner can't at the very least be a part of that in some way...

    Not to mention, whether people are willing to accept it or not - vanity is part of the reason people work out. It may not be the main reason, but it is definitely part of it.

    I guess I can only speak for myself (And I am no muscle-god by any means), but I am attracted to guys with muscular/worked-out bodies.


    I don't see how someone being smaller/skinnier disqualifies them from being into health and fitness though, or unable to find some compromise with someone with different primary interests.

    That's one of my problems with the gay scene, "health" and "masculinity" both seem to be exclusive to one body type.
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    Feb 22, 2012 4:49 PM GMT
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    7Famark said^I did not say that they are seeking their mirror image in a partner.

    But the fact of the matter is, when someone is into health and fitness...that is generally reflected in other areas of their life, so if their partner can't at the very least be a part of that in some way...

    Not to mention, whether people are willing to accept it or not - vanity is part of the reason people work out. It may not be the main reason, but it is definitely part of it.

    I guess I can only speak for myself (And I am no muscle-god by any means), but I am attracted to guys with muscular/worked-out bodies.


    I don't see how someone being smaller/skinnier disqualifies them from being more into health and fitness though.

    That's one of my problems with the gay scene, "health" and "masculinity" both seem to be exclusive to one body type.


    I didn't say that it does. I just said that I think it is important that they fit in that regard.

    Having a more slender build doesn't mean someone isn't active or fit, I never said that.
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    Feb 22, 2012 5:01 PM GMT
    From what I've mostly observed, it's of course different for every musclebound stud.

    Some athletic guys like to go for their own body type others like skinny twink types or at least fairly lean and moderately muscled.

    I'm attracted to muscle guys but not to the point of bodybuilding big (like meaty HULK SMASHHHHH BIG). I'd say something athletic, agile, and someone who can actually run with me icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 22, 2012 6:37 PM GMT
    JayPride42 saidWhy do so many people seem convinced gay men want a mirror image of themselves in a partner?.

    Take a look around you. How often do you see couples that are a nerd and a jock, a pretty boy and a gamer, a scuffy guy and a queeny guy..etc? mostly i ever see guys that are very similar. Several times I've seen some couples that look so similar that at first glance I would say they are bothers!

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    But the fact of the matter is, when someone is into health and fitness...that is generally reflected in other areas of their life, so if their partner can't at the very least be a part of that in some way...

    Agree.

    To me it is about being on the same wavelength as much as possible.

    I understand the whole 'opposites attract' but for me that works only sexually (I'm brown and prefer white guys esp the pasty white type icon_razz.gif ) In all other aspects the more in common the better.
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    Feb 22, 2012 7:01 PM GMT
    The social research on this is interesting. If you ask people what they want, they will say they want someone dissimilar. However, if you look objectively at who they chose, more often than not it is someone very similar to themselves.

    There is social pressure for similarity too. Gay people do it as the "cute together" statement. That it fits you're with that person who is similar to you.

    I think I would say people want to be with someone who understands them. If you don't really understand why I obsessively track macro nutrients, research exercise, workout 4x a week and have gym equipment in my house... its a big part of my life they don't understand.
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    Feb 22, 2012 7:06 PM GMT
    Oh, if only...
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    Feb 22, 2012 7:09 PM GMT
    saintkev saidFrom what I've mostly observed, it's of course different for every musclebound stud.

    Some athletic guys like to go for their own body type others like skinny twink types or at least fairly lean and moderately muscled.

    I'm attracted to muscle guys but not to the point of bodybuilding big (like meaty HULK SMASHHHHH BIG). I'd say something athletic, agile, and someone who can actually run with me icon_biggrin.gif


    91% of the guys i attract are muscular builticon_neutral.gif
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    Feb 22, 2012 7:10 PM GMT
    Here's a pic of me and a BF.

    Note he is the masculine, scruffy, hairy rocker and I am , as someone described before, the 'queeny' gay pouting away like a little bitch. Didn't stop us from being attracted to each other.

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    Feb 22, 2012 7:12 PM GMT
    whateveryo saidHere's a pic of me and a BF.

    Note he is the masculine, scruffy, hairy rocker and I am , as someone described before, the 'queeny' gay pouting away like a little bitch. Didn't stop us from being attracted to each other.

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    are you guys high lol
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    Feb 22, 2012 7:13 PM GMT
    Drunk at a nine inch nails concert LOL
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    Feb 22, 2012 7:14 PM GMT
    whateveryo saidDrunk at a nine inch nails concert LOL


    oh lol, niceicon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 22, 2012 7:18 PM GMT
    Seriously. How many times do you see mister ripped holding hands with mister scrawny?

    Maybe it's different in other places, but here...never
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    Feb 22, 2012 7:45 PM GMT
    I've seen truly ripped big guys (as in heavyweight bodybuilder Dorian Yates types) with ripped middle-weight fitness-model (Scott Herman or Peter Le type).

    A noticeable size disparity in absolute terms, but both men are as fit as fuck, and well more muscled than the average guy.

    But never have seen the Dorian Yates guy with someone built like ... oh, let's see... Daniel Radcliffe.
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    Feb 22, 2012 7:49 PM GMT
    I think the U.S media has a lot to answer for in that regard.

    An American friend of mine who is staying over here said to me once that the TV over here in the U.K is really refreshing.

    When I asked why, she said ' well in America everyone on TV is generally very good looking no matter what role they play, whereas here you guys actually have normal looking people in TV Shows'.

    It's a fair point. She's not the first to make the observation about American culture being highly superficial.

    I'm not saying we are exempt from it here in the U.K with our stiff upper lips but in the U.S there seems to be a real distortion about what qualifies as attractive/beautiful.

    There's a lot of pressure on younger people especially to confirm to a certain aesthetic otherwise, they think they won't get laid.