Are muscle guys attracted to thinner men?

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    Feb 23, 2012 1:50 AM GMT
    I like lean men...for me it can be very sexy....
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    Feb 23, 2012 1:51 AM GMT
    czarodziej saidi'm kinda stuck in no-mans-land right now- i used to be really thin and cut, and now i'm trying to gain a lil muscle mass, but am not yet "big," so the guys i'd go for (big and muscly) who tend to either want a twink to throw around, or a fellow muscle beast... aren't biting at all. i'm not sure if i should just do a ton of cardio and get back to where i was, or keep pushing for more gains...?


    Dude just keep working on it, don't give up on the gains you have made.
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    Feb 23, 2012 2:01 AM GMT
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    JayPride42 saidWhy do so many people seem convinced gay men want a mirror image of themselves in a partner?.

    Take a look around you. How often do you see couples that are a nerd and a jock, a pretty boy and a gamer, a scuffy guy and a queeny guy..etc? mostly i ever see guys that are very similar. Several times I've seen some couples that look so similar that at first glance I would say they are brothers


    Actually, most gay couples I know ARE opposites. An ROTC guy and a dancer, a lawyer and a rower, a gamer and a pretty boy to name a few. ;P


    While I agree that opposites attract, I find that the gym is different. People can work out to achieve different builds, and while some like bigger and some go for smaller, I can't imagine the lifestyle of someone going to the gym and someone who doesn't messing very well. For one, what they eat is very different, and how can you relate? Someone doesn't have to look like a Greek god to be with a ripped stud, but come on guys. We spend what, at least 3-4 hours a week at the gym? Do you really think you can not exercise and get with someone who does?


    But that's not the situation being posed here at all. A guy being skinny doesn't mean he doesn't exercise.

    And frankly, that last sentence is just silly. Couples don't have to do EVERYTHING together. One guy can spend his 3-4 hours at the gym while the other spends time painting or whatever.


    People who go to the gym understand that the gym is not an activity, it is a lifestyle dude. Someone who is thin or overweight wouldn't understand that lifestyle or the choices that go with it. On dates, a conversation we have is lifting. I dated a thin guy once, his response was "oh, I just let the men do that.". Yea date over. You don't have to do everything together, but when you work out it is a huge part of your life. Try it sometimes kid.


    Thanks for the condescending attitude! I guess because I don't see the gym and its relationship to relationships the same way you do, I must NEVER work out.

    I go to the gym 3x a week, on top of my 6-7+ hours of dancing/lifting every week.

    For you, a conversation you have on a date is lifting. For me, that's a boring topic of conversation, even though I do lift. Don't generalize the place the gym holds in YOUR life to everyone else's


    Lol cool story brah. For you, lifting is boring. To me, that says you don't like it very much. Some of us really enjoy lifting and techniques. But that's ok, your a dancer, that explains everything.
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    Feb 23, 2012 2:05 AM GMT
    I love lifting, I don't like talking about it.

    And how does me being a dancer "explain everything?" Seriously, I'm curious as to what you're trying to imply by that.
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    Feb 23, 2012 2:06 AM GMT
    Wanna cut the quotes down a little?

    Oh, and I don't believe that you love lifting if you do not like talking about it. That doesn't even make sense...

    Who doesn't like talking about doing something they love?

    I think it's a great topic of conversation on a date. It leads into so many other discussions.
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    Feb 23, 2012 2:08 AM GMT
    i wanna muscleeeee guyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!

    and actually muscle guys who are looking for muscle guys are 90% bottoms icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 23, 2012 2:12 AM GMT
    Whatever, the fact of the matter is, everyone is going to have a different answer to this question.

    I am sure there are some muscular guys out there that are attracted to slim/skinny/scrawny dudes...Happy?
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    Feb 23, 2012 2:13 AM GMT
    7Famark saidWanna cut the quotes down a little?

    Oh, and I don't believe that you love lifting if you do not like talking about it. That doesn't even make sense...

    Who doesn't like talking about doing something they love?

    I think it's a great topic of conversation on a date. It leads into so many other discussions.


    I just prefer things that can be a bit more "opinionated" for discussion, honestly. Music, film, personal life, etc. Lifting is a bit too "concrete" for me. It's something I'd prefer to be talking about IN the gym as opposed to out at dinner or something, when I can't even put what we're talking about into practice.

    Maybe I just haven't talked with the right guys about it, at this point. It just seems like more a dick-wagging contest than an actual discussion whenever I try to talk to guys/see guys talking about it. But hey, I'll give it another try sometime.
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    Feb 23, 2012 2:13 AM GMT
    7Famark saidWhatever, the fact of the matter is, everyone is going to have a different answer to this question.

    I am sure there are some muscular guys out there that are attracted to slim/skinny/scrawny dudes...Happy?



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    Feb 23, 2012 2:14 AM GMT
    People should NOT have conversations in the gym....

    If you have time to shoot the shit while you are at the gym, you are doing something wrong.
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    Feb 23, 2012 2:14 AM GMT
    Ruskach saidi wanna muscleeeee guyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!

    and actually muscle guys who are looking for muscle guys are 90% bottoms icon_smile.gif


    i am a muscle guyyyyy!!! looking for a muscle guy!!!!!
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    Feb 23, 2012 2:15 AM GMT
    yeah, thats what i said
    muscle guys looking for muscle guys are btms icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 23, 2012 2:16 AM GMT
    Ruskach saidyeah, thats what i said
    muscle guys looking for muscle guys are btms icon_smile.gif



    what about a skinny guy looking for a skinny guy, what are theyicon_neutral.gif
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    Feb 23, 2012 2:18 AM GMT
    7Famark saidPeople should NOT have conversations in the gym....

    If you have time to shoot the shit while you are at the gym, you are doing something wrong.


    Sorry, misphrase on my part. I mean at a time closer/more related to the gym. On our walk over, something like that. Something where I can immediate put what we talked about into practice.

    I just don't particularly enjoy "shooting the shit" about lifting. It's something more "professional" than that to me. There's a form, there's an instruction. I don't talk to anyone unless I'm there with one specific person and we're working out together, in which case we'll talk about technique/what we're doing between sets. When I work out, I just get in my zone and just focus on whatever music I'm listening to, and repetitions.

    Maybe I just have latent insecurity from talking to guys who went to the gym a lot before I really started hitting the gym, but I dunno, I just really don't see it as that worthy of intense discussion. I'm not saying it's bad to want to discuss it, or I wouldn't discuss it if someone brought it up, I just personally wouldn't bring it up.

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    Feb 23, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    Muscle boys would go for guys that turns them on, whether its another muscle boy or thin, fem or masculine

    just a matter of chemistry
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    Feb 23, 2012 4:22 AM GMT
    I fuck the body, I date the brain, I marry the heart.

    Crude, but what it means is that initial attraction is to conditioning. It's a preference. I like a fit guy. That has 'typed' from competitive builder to musclebear to rower to joe average jock. Couch sloths - been one, don't want to date one. Horrible human being that I am.

    Then there has to be intelligence, ability to think beyond the salad and converse beyond the second filling of the water glass, and about something other than pop culture and trends. Something challenging and personal and unique.

    Finally, character and integrity, tempered by sincerity, kindness, grace and humanity. Heart.

    Nothing in the first category can ever survive past a lack of the other two. But I have to confess that presence of the other two without the first does not complete a picture that interests me for a relationship. (Slipping on kevlar response suit....)

    I have 'ideals' but I crave a guy who is simply a guy, takes care of his body in whatever way excites him (running to powerlifting....don't give a damn) and houses within that vessel something of real lasting worth that only makes the former icing.

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    Feb 23, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    I FRIGGIN WISH!
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    Feb 23, 2012 4:30 AM GMT
    czarodziej saidi'm kinda stuck in no-mans-land right now- i used to be really thin and cut, and now i'm trying to gain a lil muscle mass, but am not yet "big," so the guys i'd go for (big and muscly) who tend to either want a twink to throw around, or a fellow muscle beast... aren't biting at all. i'm not sure if i should just do a ton of cardio and get back to where i was, or keep pushing for more gains...?


    Are you kidding! You're hot..I'll have you!!!
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    Feb 23, 2012 4:33 AM GMT
    I'm tired of this question, I've only slept with muscular men and my number is not low LOL. In fact, I just came from a hook up with a guy who's arms were like 5x the size of mine and he couldn't keep his hands off me. As long as you have a hot face, you can be thin.
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    Feb 23, 2012 4:40 AM GMT
    Hypnotico saidI'm tired of this question, I've only slept with muscular men and my number is not low LOL. In fact, I just came from a hook up with a guy who's arms were like 5x the size of mine and he couldn't keep his hands off me. As long as you have a hot face, you can be thin.


    Fragile egos come in all shapes and sizes. That's what's important here.

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    Feb 23, 2012 3:40 PM GMT
    czarodziej saidi'm kinda stuck in no-mans-land right now- i used to be really thin and cut, and now i'm trying to gain a lil muscle mass, but am not yet "big," so the guys i'd go for (big and muscly) who tend to either want a twink to throw around, or a fellow muscle beast... aren't biting at all. i'm not sure if i should just do a ton of cardio and get back to where i was, or keep pushing for more gains...?

    Just keep at it. I takes a long time and consistent dedication to make progress. Just remember, when you get old, you'll be a 'hot pop' and most of your peers will be jealous of you icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 23, 2012 3:43 PM GMT
    7Famark saidPeople should NOT have conversations in the gym....

    If you have time to shoot the shit while you are at the gym, you are doing something wrong.

    yessss!!! Agree! it is gym not a a f*ing bar/club. A little chit/chat is fine but no endless balabbering.
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    Feb 23, 2012 4:13 PM GMT
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    I go to the gym 3x a week, on top of my 6-7+ hours of dancing/lifting every week.

    For you, a conversation you have on a date is lifting. For me, that's a boring topic of conversation, even though I do lift. Don't generalize the place the gym holds in YOUR life to everyone else's

    I think we are talking of 2 types of gym goers.

    One that goes to the gym to 'keep fit and/or try and get bigger/ripped' and the other who are the more serious gym goers who go there with a more definitive purpose and drive. I and some of the others are talking about the latter.

    The hard part of changing your body composition (muscle to fat ratio) isn't the training. It is your daily diet which involves food prep and planning for every meal, every day. Thats when things get to be a whole different animal. Which is what I and some others are referring to. Diet is the bigger part of changing your body in the context of time and effort.

    The vast majority of gym goers and non-gym goers don't do this which is why they grossly underestimate as to how much total effort (training + daily diet) is involved even if one doesn't look like Arnold.

    JayPride42 saidHoly shit, I'm literally in exactly the same boat.

    Let me ask you this? do you keep track of your progress in terms of sets and weights that you do for every workout? and more importantly do you follow a diet plan for every meal every day? my guess is your answer to either or both those questions is likely 'no' icon_smile.gif

    Keep this in mind, if the weights aren't going up on the bar then you aren't getting bigger. And you cant get bigger if you don't feed you body to grow.

    Eating healthy and watching what you eat will only get you so far. If you need to get further you need to get even more serious especially with your diet followed by your training. And, believe me, if you do start a diet plan you will find that your 6-7+ hours of dancing will start to suffer unless you don't have a job and have all the time in the day to workout and dance.

    Don't get all frustrated and defensive at this conversation. Thats all it is, a conversation. I'm not poking fun at you or bashing you. Just giving you some honest info & feedback. I hear the non progression complaint all the time and at one point I used to be one who complained. I then decided to get more serious and saw the results I wanted.

    If you do follow a fixed daily diet plan and things aren't progressing for you, send me the info and I'll take a look and give you some feedback, if you want icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 23, 2012 6:10 PM GMT
    Ha, all of that's been a major part of my soul-searching and prioritization this semester, interestingly enough.

    I haven't started a more structured diet plan at all, but the weights on the bars are getting consistently higher, so I'm pretty happy with where I am. I'm actually making a lot more progress than I thought I was, going back and looking at older pictures of myself and how much I used to lift even back last summer. It's tough balancing everything, but it's going fine.

    I think what it comes down to is that I don't really WANT to become that much bulkier. Sure, it would be nice for the attention factor, but other than that, it's not something that appeals to me much. I'd rather, as you said, just go to the gym to stay in shape and keep active. It's working reasonably well for me so far, so there you go. icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 23, 2012 6:18 PM GMT
    JayPride42 said the weights on the bars are getting consistently higher, so I'm pretty happy with where I am.

    Thats great. And when the weights do stall, and they will, if you have the physique that you are happy with, then you've achieved your goal. icon_wink.gif

    JayPride42 said
    I think what it comes down to is that I don't really WANT to become that much bulkier.
    Then you have absolutely nothing to worry about! Getting bulky takes a lot more effort which is what some of us are referring to in the whole 'underestimating the effort...'. Even then, getting to competition level is yet another higher level of effort which we haven't begun to discuss yet! icon_cool.gif

    If you want to just look reasonably good (and perhaps better than your peers) then what you are doing should be fine. In the average Joe's eyes you will look great. icon_smile.gif