JayPride42 saidWhy do so many people seem convinced gay men want a mirror image of themselves in a partner?.
Take a look around you. How often do you see couples that are a nerd and a jock, a pretty boy and a gamer, a scuffy guy and a queeny guy..etc? mostly i ever see guys that are very similar. Several times I've seen some couples that look so similar that at first glance I would say they are brothers
Actually, most gay couples I know ARE opposites. An ROTC guy and a dancer, a lawyer and a rower, a gamer and a pretty boy to name a few. ;P
While I agree that opposites attract, I find that the gym is different. People can work out to achieve different builds, and while some like bigger and some go for smaller, I can't imagine the lifestyle of someone going to the gym and someone who doesn't messing very well. For one, what they eat is very different, and how can you relate? Someone doesn't have to look like a Greek god to be with a ripped stud, but come on guys. We spend what, at least 3-4 hours a week at the gym? Do you really think you can not exercise and get with someone who does?
But that's not the situation being posed here at all. A guy being skinny doesn't mean he doesn't exercise.
And frankly, that last sentence is just silly. Couples don't have to do EVERYTHING together. One guy can spend his 3-4 hours at the gym while the other spends time painting or whatever.
People who go to the gym understand that the gym is not an activity, it is a lifestyle dude. Someone who is thin or overweight wouldn't understand that lifestyle or the choices that go with it. On dates, a conversation we have is lifting. I dated a thin guy once, his response was "oh, I just let the men do that.". Yea date over. You don't have to do everything together, but when you work out it is a huge part of your life. Try it sometimes kid.
Thanks for the condescending attitude! I guess because I don't see the gym and its relationship to relationships the same way you do, I must NEVER work out.
I go to the gym 3x a week, on top of my 6-7+ hours of dancing/lifting every week.
For you, a conversation you have on a date is lifting. For me, that's a boring topic of conversation, even though I do lift. Don't generalize the place the gym holds in YOUR life to everyone else's