WHY? Are gay guys so caught up in being cool and being chased that a nice decent boy can't say hello to you, get your number and ask you out on a date?

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    May 25, 2008 5:50 PM GMT
    Friendsmaybe saidDon't be bitches........like the majority of you are!!


    Wow, we're the same age... apparently I was a little more mature for my age than I originally thought... some old fashioned words of advice to: You get more bees with honey than you do with vinegar. And the world does Not revolve around you, despite what you see and hear on the t.v.
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    May 25, 2008 5:55 PM GMT
    People use to sell themselves everyday and every hour )) doing it automatically
    + (maybe) your fear of rejection and therefore akwardness make things worth

    But, let's face it - most of the guys might conclude from how you are making and putting it that you ve spent last months near Brit or you are a sex hungry freak etc. So, rejection would be the probable outcome.
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    May 25, 2008 6:27 PM GMT
    Maybe the problem is you are th Beatch and that's why you are not getting it?
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    May 25, 2008 6:51 PM GMT
    Yeah its not everyone else it is that Friendsmaybe has an attitude and is all about himself that no one else has any energy to even care.

    His world revolves around him and no one else. You can see it in the chat room and when you chat with him. Its about how smart he is, how whatever he is.

    Friendsmaybe....you need to start thinking outside of yourself and people will actually like you and want to give you thier number. Its boring to listen to someone talk about themselves.

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    May 25, 2008 7:32 PM GMT
    icon_wink.gif BECAUSE WE ALL HAVE ISSUES!!! BUT,HAVING SAID THAT,LET'S BREAK THE MOLD AND JUST BE NICE TO EVERYONE. BEING INTIMIDATING ISNT ATTRACTIVE. TO Friendsmaybe...HELLO, HOW YOU DOIN?
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    May 25, 2008 9:04 PM GMT
    I been wanting to be ask for my number. But I think guy have been insecure or shy.

    But I would give you my number, I like to take a risk and see where a situation might take me.
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    May 25, 2008 10:46 PM GMT
    can_duathlete saidYeah its not everyone else it is that Friendsmaybe has an attitude and is all about himself that no one else has any energy to even care.

    His world revolves around him and no one else. You can see it in the chat room and when you chat with him. Its about how smart he is, how whatever he is.

    Friendsmaybe....you need to start thinking outside of yourself and people will actually like you and want to give you thier number. Its boring to listen to someone talk about themselves.



    Wow can_duathlete a bit harsh, no?
    I can completly identify with the original post. I don't know what Frindsmaybe situation is but, as someone else said everyone is afraid of rejection. Fear of rejection plays, and is perhaps, one of our biggest barriers when "trying" to meet someone new. No one wants to be rejected and, consequently be perceived as a loser hence, at times we might give off the vibe that we're too good to be approached. Assertiveness, sense of confidence, or what might be perceived as arrogance/cockyness may also play a part on this. I'm still trying to figure this one out. If anyone can shed a clearer light...
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    May 25, 2008 11:07 PM GMT
    Hmmm. Interesting thread. So if someone like me were to say "Hi and how are you?" to you would you be inclined to spark up a convo with me and then give me your number?

    In cases like this I've learned never to ask certain questions I myself can't answer. This would be one since it seems like a double-edged sword.

    Not to get on you or anything like that but I'm sure you are just as reluctant to give out your number to a few people who've probably said hi to you so really it shouldn't come to you as a surprise.

    Personally, I'm not one to give out my number so freely and carelessly because of past incidents and I can openly admit that there are a few people that I just don't want knowing my number. I'm the kind of person where if I give you my number I expect you to use it and I'm also the kind who believes in time limits. If it takes a person more then a week just to say something like "hi" then clearly I've wasted my time. When people give me their numbers I actually call in a few days just to see how they are as a courtesy.

    Most people don't like giving out their numbers because they feel like it will never be used. It almost seems like the common thing to ask for these days. Give someone your number and then you don't hear from them in a month. That's just weird to me.
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    May 25, 2008 11:15 PM GMT
    Its a fact of life tho some people are arrangers some are arrangees some are askers some are waiters. I dont think it has anything to do with hang ups at all, in some cases it may, but as a general rule just look around at your friends. Some make all the plans others wait to be invited.

    We all have different character traits. At the end of the day it could just be the type you go for tend to be more on the passive side of the equation (and I dont mean sexualy).

    Now it can end in stalemate or it can end with a happy result but someone has to make the first move.
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    May 26, 2008 12:14 AM GMT
    I just really haven't had this problem at all. But then again, the guys I usually talk to are pretty out-going anyway. I just haven't found myself attracted to stuck up guys.

    Sure I've talked to guys that came across as arrogant, but I've walked away without even wanting their numbers.
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    May 26, 2008 2:44 AM GMT
    I think I will change this very entry day to day and see if anyone notices
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    May 26, 2008 2:55 AM GMT
    Ah, young grasshopper, Confucius say:

    "He who post without thinking will get burnt and make ash out of himself."

    -FortuneCookieDen
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    May 26, 2008 4:22 AM GMT
    I got the pitchfork, who has the rope and torches? Might need to pick up a few more Incensed Villagers™.
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    May 26, 2008 4:24 AM GMT
    Oh muscle, lighten up, the revised post is obviously a self-deprecating joke.
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    May 26, 2008 4:30 AM GMT
    He's probably changing his post because I'm thinking he got about 1,000 emails from guys saying Hi, asking for his number, then asking him on a date.

    I thought about doing that myself, but I've never been one to conform.

    -RebelDen
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    May 26, 2008 4:31 AM GMT
    AlphaDen saidHe's probably changing his post because I'm thinking he got about 1,000 emails from guys saying Hi, asking for his number, then asking him on a date.

    I thought about doing that myself, but I've never been one to conform.

    -RebelDen


    CONFESS! CONFESS! CONFE- Whoops! ::clears throat:: CONFORM! CONFORM! CONFORM! icon_mad.gif
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    May 26, 2008 4:33 AM GMT
    Buckwheet said[quote][cite]AlphaDen said[/cite]He's probably changing his post because I'm thinking he got about 1,000 emails from guys saying Hi, asking for his number, then asking him on a date.

    I thought about doing that myself, but I've never been one to conform.

    -RebelDen


    CONFESS! CONFESS! CONFE- Whoops! ::clears throat:: CONFORM! CONFORM! CONFORM! icon_mad.gif[/quote]


    Ahhhh, the spanish inquisition...those were fun times! I miss the torcher rack.

    -HereticDen
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    May 26, 2008 4:54 AM GMT
    Did someone post while premenstrual again? It seems to be an increasingly more common affliction on here.icon_lol.gif
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    May 26, 2008 4:58 AM GMT
    RBY71 saidDid someone post while premenstrual again? It seems to be an increasingly more common affliction on here.icon_lol.gif


    Well, you know, sometimes you just feel less than fresh.

    -Den
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    May 26, 2008 5:00 AM GMT
    boys are stupid...
    ive-seen-everything-huge-boulder-stuck-o
    throw rocks at them...

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    May 26, 2008 5:04 AM GMT
    Jrdnstatz saidboys are stupid...
    ive-seen-everything-huge-boulder-stuck-o
    throw rocks at them...

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    May 26, 2008 6:09 AM GMT
    I iz cool. icon_cool.gif Who you be? Go away!
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    May 26, 2008 6:27 AM GMT


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    Wow can_duathlete a bit harsh, no?
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    Well, I am just relating my experience to the topic of chat. I know why I wouldnt want to give him my number.
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    May 26, 2008 6:31 AM GMT
    innerathlete saidOh muscle, lighten up, the revised post is obviously a self-deprecating joke.


    really? I took it as immature, maybe that is what the issue is then. ie being perceived different to what you intend
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    May 26, 2008 6:40 AM GMT
    You can approach me any time you want, Friendsmaybe icon_cool.gif