Question to all the the buff muscle men

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    Nov 08, 2011 6:17 PM GMT
    Well it's not about not being comfortable in my own skin. I think is more the fact of inexperience. I basically just came out of the closet and im still learning the dynamics, for some reason when I go to the gay bar and i see a muscle man I get intimidated and I think that maybe all muscle men want the same? Its just a random question..i wouldnt change my bod for anyone..i still find very attractive some very skinny guys, or chubbys.
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    Nov 08, 2011 6:32 PM GMT
    MsclDrew saidQuestion to all men out there... Would you buy my Toyota Camery with a couple of big dents in it for the same price as an undentated?


    If the dented Camry had considerably less mileage and performed better than the undented Camry, then yes. icon_cool.gif

    Edit: I suppose that's also assuming fixing the dents won't cost as much as fixing the performance problems of the undented Camry
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    Nov 08, 2011 6:40 PM GMT
    Question to all the avg bod guys with maybe a little belly:

    do you really think that people who make an enormous effort to look good are impressed by people who couldn´t give a fuck?
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    Nov 08, 2011 6:52 PM GMT
    Lostboy saidQuestion to all the avg bod guys with maybe a little belly:

    do you really think that people who make an enormous effort to look good are impressed by people who couldn´t give a fuck?


    QFT.

    These threads are almost always started by guys who wanna throw a pity party for themselves based on the fact that they feel neglected for being what they consider average and need to carry on about how unfair it is they are not appreciated for the special one-of-a-kind guy they are on the inside ALL WHILE DEMANDING PHYSICAL PERFECTION AND HUGE AMOUNTS OF WORK AND EFFORT FROM ANYONE THEY WOULD EVER EVEN CONSIDER DROPPING THEIR PANTS FOR.

    To the OP - answer your own question. How likely are you to date your mirror image? You chose to post on RealJock - I don't see you running to yer laptop to log onto RealAveragePotBellyMuffinTopDumpyChestLike-a-BabyDuck.com.

    And ultimately it doesn't matter. But in the time it takes to fret over whether or not a hot dude will ever look in your direction, you could have gone down one waist size lost the potbelly and left "average" in the dust. It ain't that hard and it would elliminate the need to ponder.

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    Nov 08, 2011 7:39 PM GMT
    Lostboy saidQuestion to all the avg bod guys with maybe a little belly:

    do you really think that people who make an enormous effort to look good are impressed by people who couldn´t give a fuck?
    Just want them to keep me if I'm smitten by their handsome face.

    There was a time when I was too busy climbing the corporate ladder to worry about my body. But, I had money and excellent partner benefits then.

    This is where the gay costume fetish can come into play.

    I had fallen for a software engineer, of polish/french descent, with a prominent gut who focused on his upper body, but not cardio. Turned me on to leather kilts, boots, and a leather chest harness. Gotta have upper body development to pull that off.

    I was smitten. And, it was the first breakup I ever had to go through.

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    Nov 08, 2011 7:51 PM GMT
    Muscle is it's own reward.

    I'm in good shape but not a muscle god. And while I would date and even possibly fall for a smaller built guy, there's no mistaking that muscle definitely does it for me. Else, why would I be spending all this energy in the gym?
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    Nov 08, 2011 7:51 PM GMT
    dantheman88 saidWell it's not about not being comfortable in my own skin..


    Listen, buddy... I love ya, man but it is entirely about being comfortable in your own skin.

    The sexiest thing a man can have is confidence. One of the sexiest men I know doesn't have a perfect body,... not at all... but he is insanely comfortable with himself and when you accept yourself and enjoy being yourself, you then accept and enjoy others. His confidence gives him a charisma that is entrancing. He lives far away from me so I only see him a few times a year, but when we go out it is amazing to see the reactions of the men in the bars.

    This took me a long time to learn/understand and once I did my life transformed. I feel truly confident and so I can see past looks for the first time. I am therefore enjoying myself much more. Get there and you will know the difference.
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    Nov 08, 2011 7:54 PM GMT
    JakeGHK said
    eagermuscle said
    dantheman88 saidQuestion to all the buff muscle men. Would you guys date a man with an avg bod with maybe a little belly? Probably one waist size higher than they should be?

    Question to all "average" guys who get upset when they're rejected by buff muscle men. How come it's okay for you to be interested in only muscular guys?


    Because its their preference. Or is that wrong?
    First off, I have read some really funny but good statements to the op and on others that have average bodies and self esteem issues. the one about working on your self esteem if you have that issue . second one not get your butt in a gym so you have the body that you like. if you like the body that you have then so be it. third, if a muscular guy is your only preference you must realize that he may not want someone with a average body and that is his preference.
    jake, everyone has a preference but if its base solely on looks than you have to remember that sometimes those that look good are not always good people.
    i personally do not care much about the body. if you are trying to get in better shape than that is fine with me. if you have self esteem or body issues that is ok as long as you keep them in check. if not be prepared to be single until you can learn how
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    Nov 08, 2011 8:00 PM GMT
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    dantheman88 saidWell it's not about not being comfortable in my own skin..


    Listen, buddy... I love ya, man but it is entirely about being comfortable in your own skin.

    The sexiest thing a man can have is confidence. One of the sexiest men I know doesn't have a perfect body,... not at all... but he is insanely comfortable with himself and when you accept yourself and enjoy being yourself, you then accept and enjoy others. His confidence gives him a charisma that is entrancing. He lives far away from me so I only see him a few times a year, but when we go out it is amazing to see the reactions of the men in the bars.

    This took me a long time to learn/understand and once I did my life transformed. I feel truly confident and so I can see past looks for the first time. I am therefore enjoying myself much more. Get there and you will know the difference.


    I have to agree with this. I've talked to a lot of people about this and they all say the same thing. Someone who is comfortable with themselves and has found their passion in life is an amazing find. They can talk to you for hours about amazing, interesting things whether you're 5'8 and a little skinny or a 6'3 adonis with gorgeous hair.
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    Nov 08, 2011 8:00 PM GMT
    I've been dating a guy for a few months who is totally into fitness and a healthy lifestyle. He has a cleaner and more strict diet than me(I'm a vegetarian). He's not huge, but has muscles and is about 7 percent bodyfat.

    The most awesome part is we love the same food, we love to do outdoor activities, hiking, biking, working out, and we are both into sports supplements. We are also there for each other to motivate us to reach our health and fitness goals.

    This would not be happening with a couch potato. We would have a hard time choosing a restaurant, or events, or activities. Believe me, I've dated my share of average(or worse) shaped guys that are into drinking every weekend, partying, and watching tv as their main interests. For me, I like someone to motivate me and inspire me in my fitness goals, That's not going to work with someone that's also not into health/fitness.
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    Nov 08, 2011 8:10 PM GMT
    JakeGHK said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidNO


    Why are you hidden?


    Looks like he's burning out on the forums. icon_cry.gif

    /me gives Adrien a big hug, just because.
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    Nov 08, 2011 8:18 PM GMT
    My two cents: Im in the MMA/boxing field, so Im constantly around REAL athletes, not like the fake fuckers here, that workout just enough to look decent at the club with their shirts off. Day in, day out, Im in some type of physical contact with these magazine-ready physiques, and have even fucked my fair share of them. My opinion; muscle and muscle guys are overrated.

    My favorite sexual partner puts down some back-breaking, muscle-cramping, mattress drenched in sweat fucking, and happens to be a foodie with a 33 inch waist and cute little round hairy tummy. And I cant get enough of him, his perfect bubble ass or his many bedroom talents; I would take him long before any of the musclebound lame fucks Ive had that just lay there thinking his body alone is all it takes.
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    Nov 08, 2011 8:24 PM GMT
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    MsclDrew saidQuestion to all men out there... Would you buy my Toyota Camery with a couple of big dents in it for the same price as an undentated?


    If the dented Camry had considerably less mileage and performed better than the undented Camry, then yes. icon_cool.gif

    Edit: I suppose that's also assuming fixing the dents won't cost as much as fixing the performance problems of the undented Camry


    Damn you beat me to it. What if the one with no dents had a bad transmission? And the dented one was perfectly fine.
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    Nov 08, 2011 8:29 PM GMT
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    Cash said
    Lostboy saidQuestion to all the avg bod guys with maybe a little belly:

    do you really think that people who make an enormous effort to look good are impressed by people who couldn´t give a fuck?


    To the OP - answer your own question. How likely are you to date your mirror image? You chose to post on RealJock - I don't see you running to yer laptop to log onto RealAveragePotBellyMuffinTopDumpyChestLike-a-BabyDuck.com.

    And ultimately it doesn't matter. But in the time it takes to fret over whether or not a hot dude will ever look in your direction, you could have gone down one waist size lost the potbelly and left "average" in the dust. It ain't that hard and it would elliminate the need to ponder.

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    "RealAveragePotBellyMuffinTopDumpyChestLike-a-BabyDuck.com."
    No such website exists.
    Nor a similar minded website.
    Thats your first fail.

    "But in the time it takes to fret over whether or not a hot dude will ever look in your direction, you could have gone down one waist size lost the potbelly and left "average" in the dust. It ain't that hard and it would elliminate the need to ponder."
    Natural weight loss and muscle gain?
    Thats your second.




    WTF are you talking about Jake?

    You are rambling in this thread and not making any relevant points.

    If this is hitting SOOOOO very close to home for you perhaps you should follow some of the advice being offered.
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    Nov 08, 2011 8:36 PM GMT
    I don't consider myself a muscle man.... Yet.

    But I have had really muscular guys come after me. Even before I started working out. So yes, even if ur average, like me, u can hookup with a muscle guy. But I'll echo what everyone else says in terms of dating, having like minded goals on fitness and nutrition seems important.
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    Nov 08, 2011 8:37 PM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier saidQuestion to all "average" guys with low self-esteem:

    Would you work to create a better body image so that you didn't feel like less of a person than the "Buff" men, and maybe the sane ones will want you? (Notice I didn't say this "work" has to be in a gym. It's in your head, too)


    well said, very eloquent.
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    Nov 08, 2011 8:38 PM GMT
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    dantheman88 saidWell it's not about not being comfortable in my own skin..


    Listen, buddy... I love ya, man but it is entirely about being comfortable in your own skin.

    The sexiest thing a man can have is confidence. One of the sexiest men I know doesn't have a perfect body,... not at all... but he is insanely comfortable with himself and when you accept yourself and enjoy being yourself, you then accept and enjoy others. His confidence gives him a charisma that is entrancing. He lives far away from me so I only see him a few times a year, but when we go out it is amazing to see the reactions of the men in the bars.

    This took me a long time to learn/understand and once I did my life transformed. I feel truly confident and so I can see past looks for the first time. I am therefore enjoying myself much more. Get there and you will know the difference.


    Couldn't have said it better.
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    Nov 08, 2011 9:42 PM GMT
    JakeGHK said
    Cash said
    JakeGHK said
    Cash said
    Lostboy saidQuestion to all the avg bod guys with maybe a little belly:

    do you really think that people who make an enormous effort to look good are impressed by people who couldn´t give a fuck?


    To the OP - answer your own question. How likely are you to date your mirror image? You chose to post on RealJock - I don't see you running to yer laptop to log onto RealAveragePotBellyMuffinTopDumpyChestLike-a-BabyDuck.com.

    And ultimately it doesn't matter. But in the time it takes to fret over whether or not a hot dude will ever look in your direction, you could have gone down one waist size lost the potbelly and left "average" in the dust. It ain't that hard and it would elliminate the need to ponder.

    icon_wink.gif


    "RealAveragePotBellyMuffinTopDumpyChestLike-a-BabyDuck.com."
    No such website exists.
    Nor a similar minded website.
    Thats your first fail.

    "But in the time it takes to fret over whether or not a hot dude will ever look in your direction, you could have gone down one waist size lost the potbelly and left "average" in the dust. It ain't that hard and it would elliminate the need to ponder."
    Natural weight loss and muscle gain?
    Thats your second.




    WTF are you talking about Jake?

    You are rambling in this thread and not making any relevant points.

    If this is hitting SOOOOO very close to home for you perhaps you should follow some of the advice being offered.


    Potato Ramblings Pohtahtoe Opinions
    My points are revelant, just different I dont see how thats a problem.

    "If this is hitting SOOOOO very close to home for you perhaps you should follow some of the advice being offered."
    Its not, I just have different views. Is that wrong?
    Still....2 fails.


    No problems.

    But you are NOT making points or stating views. You are just writing words.

    I lost count of your fails.

    EDIT:

    Just read yer profile.

    NOW I get it.

    'Nuff said.

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    Nov 08, 2011 9:48 PM GMT
    Nope
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    Nov 08, 2011 9:56 PM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier saidQuestion to all "average" guys with low self-esteem:

    Would you work to create a better body image so that you didn't feel like less of a person than the "Buff" men, and maybe the sane ones will want you? (Notice I didn't say this "work" has to be in a gym. It's in your head, too)

    I'm doing that now, but it's really not that easy to put on muscle mass. I think it's going to take me about 2 years to get to where I want to be.
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    Nov 08, 2011 9:59 PM GMT
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    ThePenIsMyTier saidQuestion to all "average" guys with low self-esteem:

    Would you work to create a better body image so that you didn't feel like less of a person than the "Buff" men, and maybe the sane ones will want you? (Notice I didn't say this "work" has to be in a gym. It's in your head, too)

    I'm doing that now, but it's really not that easy to put on muscle mass. I think it's going to take me about 2 years to get to where I want to be.


    I can tell you that, in regards to relationships with very fit men, the path is more important than the end goal. Ive been with guys who have been working out for 10+ years and look amazing, they date me not because I have the body of a god, but because I can actually talk to them about fitness, goals, working out, and so forth.

    They like me because I am health oriented not because I am in shape. Make sense?
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    Nov 08, 2011 10:03 PM GMT
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    ThePenIsMyTier saidQuestion to all "average" guys with low self-esteem:

    Would you work to create a better body image so that you didn't feel like less of a person than the "Buff" men, and maybe the sane ones will want you? (Notice I didn't say this "work" has to be in a gym. It's in your head, too)

    I'm doing that now, but it's really not that easy to put on muscle mass. I think it's going to take me about 2 years to get to where I want to be.


    I can tell you that, in regards to relationships with very fit men, the path is more important than the end goal. Ive been with guys who have been working out for 10+ years and look amazing, they date me not because I have the body of a god, but because I can actually talk to them about fitness, goals, working out, and so forth.

    They like me because I am health oriented not because I am in shape. Make sense?

    Yeah but if you had the body of a marathon runner do you think they'd still be interested in you? Marathon runners are dedicated to fitness and I don't find them attractive at all.
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    Nov 08, 2011 10:04 PM GMT
    joe122 said
    Chainers said
    joe122 said
    ThePenIsMyTier saidQuestion to all "average" guys with low self-esteem:

    Would you work to create a better body image so that you didn't feel like less of a person than the "Buff" men, and maybe the sane ones will want you? (Notice I didn't say this "work" has to be in a gym. It's in your head, too)

    I'm doing that now, but it's really not that easy to put on muscle mass. I think it's going to take me about 2 years to get to where I want to be.


    I can tell you that, in regards to relationships with very fit men, the path is more important than the end goal. Ive been with guys who have been working out for 10+ years and look amazing, they date me not because I have the body of a god, but because I can actually talk to them about fitness, goals, working out, and so forth.

    They like me because I am health oriented not because I am in shape. Make sense?

    Yeah but if you had the body of a marathon runner do you think they'd still be interested in you? Marathon runners are dedicated to fitness and I don't find them attractive at all.


    Well I have the body of a swimmer, which some guys do not find attractive at all (like me, for the most part).

    Different strokes for different folks, I mean some guys may like a marathon runner, others may not.
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    Nov 08, 2011 10:06 PM GMT
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    ThePenIsMyTier saidQuestion to all "average" guys with low self-esteem:

    Would you work to create a better body image so that you didn't feel like less of a person than the "Buff" men, and maybe the sane ones will want you? (Notice I didn't say this "work" has to be in a gym. It's in your head, too)


    Comment to this poster. I could date you tonight.
    My body will be ready in 3 years.

    Checkmate.


    Wut?
    I never said I had fitness qualifications, did I? I said almost the opposite. icon_confused.gif
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    Nov 08, 2011 10:06 PM GMT
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    JakeGHK said
    ThePenIsMyTier saidQuestion to all "average" guys with low self-esteem:

    Would you work to create a better body image so that you didn't feel like less of a person than the "Buff" men, and maybe the sane ones will want you? (Notice I didn't say this "work" has to be in a gym. It's in your head, too)


    Comment to this poster. I could date you tonight.
    My body will be ready in 3 years.

    Checkmate.


    Wut?
    I never said I had fitness qualifications, did I? I said almost the opposite. icon_confused.gif


    Yea Jake is kind of stupid man, ignore him.