Question to all the the buff muscle men

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    Nov 08, 2011 10:18 PM GMT
    dantheman88 saidWould you guys date a man with an avg bod with maybe a little belly? Probably one waist size higher than they should be?


    should be? would I date a guy who spends his waking hours calculating appropriate pant waists and scheduling diagnostics to determine how big a belly this man has and does fall under the appropriate BMI?

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    Nov 08, 2011 10:21 PM GMT
    michael phelps has a swimmers body.
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    Nov 08, 2011 10:26 PM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier said
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    ThePenIsMyTier saidQuestion to all "average" guys with low self-esteem:

    Would you work to create a better body image so that you didn't feel like less of a person than the "Buff" men, and maybe the sane ones will want you? (Notice I didn't say this "work" has to be in a gym. It's in your head, too)


    Comment to this poster. I could date you tonight.
    My body will be ready in 3 years.

    Checkmate.


    Wut?
    I never said I had fitness qualifications, did I? I said almost the opposite. icon_confused.gif


    I think he is trying to say he thinks you are hot and would love to date you ASAP and in 3 years he will be worthy of your hotness (assuming he ever does something other than ramble incoherently on his computer).

    I believe he is trying to flirt with you.

    He is not very good at THAT either.
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    Nov 08, 2011 10:34 PM GMT
    Larkin_PLR saidQuestion to all the average guys with a little belly and a waist size higher than they should be.

    Would you date a man who was obese and had several rolls of belly? Probably 15-20 waist sizes larger than they should be?


    This... icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Nov 08, 2011 10:51 PM GMT
    @OP Not all muscular guys want the same thing, some like other muscular men, some like fat men, some like average men, some like twinks. Not all muscular men are into other muscular men, I'm a twink and I've had more than my fair share of muscular guys, so the notion that non-muscular men are Camrys with big dents is laughable. I wanna know why some muscular men are dead against the idea of non-muscular men dating other muscular men, a muscular guy once told me that I should date other twinks and that I shouldn't steal muscular men from guys like him who worked out and deserved them because I didn't deserve them... WTF icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 08, 2011 10:52 PM GMT
    dantheman88 saidWould you guys date a man with an avg bod with maybe a little belly? Probably one waist size higher than they should be?


    I wouldn't date a guy that didn't have confidence in his life and his body.
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    Nov 08, 2011 11:02 PM GMT
    wolverinecub86 said

    But I have had really muscular guys come after me. Even before I started working out. So yes, even if ur average, like me, u can hookup with a muscle guy.


    THIS! This is why I have no intention of growing muscles,first of all, I love my body the way it is. Second of all, I also have muscular men pursuing me all the time, so I don't need to change anything to get muscular men icon_razz.gificon_lol.gif

    @OP maybe there's another reason why muscular men aren't into you.
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    Nov 08, 2011 11:04 PM GMT
    Hypnotico said
    wolverinecub86 said

    But I have had really muscular guys come after me. Even before I started working out. So yes, even if ur average, like me, u can hookup with a muscle guy.


    THIS! This is why I have no intention of growing muscles,first of all, I love my body the way it is. Second of all, I also have muscular men pursuing me all the time, so I don't need to change anything to get muscular men icon_razz.gificon_lol.gif

    @OP maybe there's another reason why muscular men aren't into you.


    Dude, Hyp... you're out of shape the opposite way though: Skinny and twinkie and boyish...


    There's no "Pudgy average dude" fascination in the gay world.
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    Nov 09, 2011 5:57 AM GMT
    Cash said
    ... ALL WHILE DEMANDING PHYSICAL PERFECTION AND HUGE AMOUNTS OF WORK AND EFFORT FROM ANYONE THEY WOULD EVER EVEN CONSIDER DROPPING THEIR PANTS FOR....

    Actually, on this one point I disagree. In some cases (my experience particularly) guys who like muscles come to resent the time such discipline and effort takes away from time with them. This is a big reason muscular men might have sex with or date a couch potato but won't commit to a longer term relationship. But that's a new spin and a whole other thread on this very well worn forum topic.
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    Nov 09, 2011 6:05 AM GMT
    u love who u love so who cares really in the end. if u like buff guys then go for it, if u like normal and average guys then hey.
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    Nov 09, 2011 6:06 AM GMT
    Celticmusl saidI've been dating a guy for a few months who is totally into fitness and a healthy lifestyle. He has a cleaner and more strict diet than me(I'm a vegetarian). He's not huge, but has muscles and is about 7 percent bodyfat.

    The most awesome part is we love the same food, we love to do outdoor activities, hiking, biking, working out, and we are both into sports supplements. We are also there for each other to motivate us to reach our health and fitness goals.

    This would not be happening with a couch potato. We would have a hard time choosing a restaurant, or events, or activities. Believe me, I've dated my share of average(or worse) shaped guys that are into drinking every weekend, partying, and watching tv as their main interests. For me, I like someone to motivate me and inspire me in my fitness goals, That's not going to work with someone that's also not into health/fitness.


    This is a very good post. There is a couple across the street from me who are good friends of mine - one guy is rather large and pretty much out of shape and the other one does a pretty good job staying in shape despite his partner's eating habits. They invite me over for dinner a lot, but I have to decline much of the time because I don't want to blow my food intake for the day because they don't eat right. Unfortunately it makes me spend less time with 2 terrific guys than I normally would.
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    Nov 09, 2011 6:15 AM GMT
    ricky1987 said
    eagermuscle said
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    dantheman88 saidQuestion to all the buff muscle men. Would you guys date a man with an avg bod with maybe a little belly? Probably one waist size higher than they should be?

    Question to all "average" guys who get upset when they're rejected by buff muscle men. How come it's okay for you to be interested in only muscular guys?


    Because its their preference. Or is that wrong?

    I'm responding to the subtext of the OP's question. The point is that it's hypocritical of "average" guys interested in muscular guys for their bodies to complain about "muscular" ones having the same preference. It's not the preference but the hypocrisy that's wrong.


    I can see your point but i think you are being too harsh on the thread creator. He did not say that muscled men should not date other muscled beefs. He was merely asking would you date a guy who isn't as muscular you are.

    Not to split hairs, but I know that the OP didn't outright say it; again, I was addressing the subtext of that question. I know some of you may think I'm reading too much into the OPs question but I'll bet that nine out of ten times my assumption would be correct.
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    Nov 09, 2011 6:17 AM GMT
    eagermuscle said
    ricky1987 said
    eagermuscle said
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    eagermuscle said
    dantheman88 saidQuestion to all the buff muscle men. Would you guys date a man with an avg bod with maybe a little belly? Probably one waist size higher than they should be?

    Question to all "average" guys who get upset when they're rejected by buff muscle men. How come it's okay for you to be interested in only muscular guys?


    Because its their preference. Or is that wrong?

    I'm responding to the subtext of the OP's question. The point is that it's hypocritical of "average" guys interested in muscular guys for their bodies to complain about "muscular" ones having the same preference. It's not the preference but the hypocrisy that's wrong.


    I can see your point but i think you are being too harsh on the thread creator. He did not say that muscled men should not date other muscled beefs. He was merely asking would you date a guy who isn't as muscular you are.

    Not to split hairs, but I know that the OP didn't outright say it; again, I was addressing the subtext of that question. I know some of you may think I'm reading too much into the OPs question but I'll bet that nine out of ten times my assumption would be correct.


    I agree with EagerMuscle on this one. I mean, he poses the question as if looks are the only thing that is important. When looks are important to someone and they think of it as the only thing that matters, there are issues at hand.

    Also, remember different people like different things. I can be pretty shy when new around others, and some guys get turned on by the shyness while others run the other direction.

    Be yourself and live your life. If you are only going to sleep/date a guy based on body, you will have a tough life. Look for the whole package mate.
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    Nov 09, 2011 6:21 AM GMT
    http://www.mtv.com/videos/true-life-im-happy-to-be-fat/1579759/playlist.jhtml

    rare, but they exist. in ^ episode of MTV's true life, they have a 500+ lb glutton who's hooking up with a ripped bodybuilder.
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    Nov 09, 2011 6:22 AM GMT
    austex85 saidhttp://www.mtv.com/videos/true-life-im-happy-to-be-fat/1579759/playlist.jhtml

    rare, but they exist. in ^ episode of MTV's true life, they have a 500+ lb glutton who's hooking up with a ripped bodybuilder.


    icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif @OP said "maybe a little belly" icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Nov 09, 2011 9:13 AM GMT


    I think the answer is that yes some muscle guys would be attracted to an average guy, but the majority seem to prefer other muscle guys. And in a long term relationship that just makes sense because one of the biggest things that makes people compatible is shared values, activities and interests. Maintaining a muscle-stud body requires specific values, activities and interests. You have to take the time and effort to work out, watch what you eat, learn about body building...ect If you're not interested in doing that why would you want to be with somebody who is?


    Though you may be happy to know on a personal note there are some of us screwed up hot bodied guys out there who do prefer more average guys. I used to be anorexic as a teenager and I got passed it, but it's something you never completely leave behind. I have a healthy diet and workout routine now, and really could only see myself dating somebody who does as well....but at the same time I could NEVER see myself dating somebody leaner than I am.
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    Nov 09, 2011 9:17 AM GMT
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    austex85 saidhttp://www.mtv.com/videos/true-life-im-happy-to-be-fat/1579759/playlist.jhtml

    rare, but they exist. in ^ episode of MTV's true life, they have a 500+ lb glutton who's hooking up with a ripped bodybuilder.


    icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif @OP said "maybe a little belly" icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif


    I saw that episode of "True Life" (it was a good one) and I am not sure that it was the point of the OP's original post. That was a fetish show. The bodybuilder boyfriend was hot, tho...... i remember that.
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    Nov 09, 2011 9:33 AM GMT
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    MsclDrew saidQuestion to all men out there... Would you buy my Toyota Camery with a couple of big dents in it for the same price as an undentated?


    If the dented Camry had considerably less mileage and performed better than the undented Camry, then yes. icon_cool.gif

    Edit: I suppose that's also assuming fixing the dents won't cost as much as fixing the performance problems of the undented Camry


    Good answer...

    So the OP should opt to try pursue the classic 1978 muscular man as opposed to the 1989?

    Or maybe a muscular guy that's a constant under achiever in life?
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    Nov 09, 2011 9:49 AM GMT
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    dantheman88 saidQuestion to all the buff muscle men. Would you guys date a man with an avg bod with maybe a little belly? Probably one waist size higher than they should be?

    Question to all "average" guys who get upset when they're rejected by buff muscle men. How come it's okay for you to be interested in only muscular guys?


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    Nov 09, 2011 10:42 AM GMT
    I agree that confidence is a factor. I've heard "I'm not as buff as you" or some variation so many times from guys.
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    Nov 09, 2011 11:48 AM GMT
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    Alpha_Muscle saidI feel truly confident and so I can see past looks for the first time.
    When the hell did this happen?


    In the past month... it finally clicked for me. And in that time I have gone out in Charlotte, and in Atlanta and in Asheville (the most progressive accepting town in the South.... it is like a little San Fransisco in the mountains)

    And I enjoyed myself so much more than when I was worried about body issues and looks. I met people, made friends and now I have a date next weekend with a gorgeous guy who is fun to be with.... we wont enter into a relationship, but it is nice to not worry about it anymore.

    I finally understand.
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    Nov 09, 2011 7:17 PM GMT
    dantheman88 saidWould you guys date a man with an avg bod with maybe a little belly? Probably one waist size higher than they should be?
    Nope. I only date Adonises or better.