Lost my virginity... HELP!!

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    Nov 14, 2011 11:46 AM GMT
    76coopers said
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    Jmoney5678 saidI'd get that guy tested for HIV immediately. I'm sure you are fine. If he turns out poz....you can get on anti viral drugs that if you take soon after exposure can knock it out of your system.

    I have no idea what they are, but my sister is a nurse and got stabbed with a hypodermic needle by some shady person and took them. They are brutal and make you sick...but you don't end up with HIV even if that guy is poz.

    Get him tested.

    nPEP? Awesome!! I had no idea something like this existed.

    I have his number; he wanted to "hang out" again, so I guess I can use that as leverage to get him in to get tested across the board as soon as possible.


    You don't need to worry as what is done is done.

    You need to read this... and then get to a doctor as soon as you can get an appointment.

    http://www.getpep.info/so.html

    Research indicates that taking PEP makes infection with HIV a lot less likely. But PEP doesn't work every time - some people who take it still end up with HIV afterwards. It can fail because:

    . some anti-HIV drugs don't work against some strains of HIV
    . the initial viral load (amount of HIV) in the body was too great
    . the virus was replicating too rapidly for the drugs or the body's immune system to control
    . the body's immune system is already damaged.

    However, the sooner PEP treatment is begun after exposure to the virus, the more likely it is to work.

    The longer you wait, the more chance there is that PEP won't work. PEP usually isn't given more than 72 hours (3 days) after exposure as studies show it is unlikely to be effective after this time.


    Oh that is what it is called!

    Yeah dude just go get on this.....I mean we can all say 1 in 1000 1 in 250......better to be safe than sorry. Call your doctor or go an Urgent Care etc...you just need the script.

    If you don't have insurance and it is a few hundred remember it is your life.

    It would just suck if it was your first time and you got HIV...talk about bad luck.

    I know your risk is a lot lower since you topped....but your life isn't worth playing with.
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    Nov 14, 2011 11:57 AM GMT
    Chalk it up as a learned experience. What's done is done and hopefully you won't make the same mistake again. Honestly I'm surprised at such a rookie move considering your age.

    I can't say I feel sorry for you because I've never been caught up in any moment with someone sexually where I didn't think about my safety. That's always a priority and you should make it one. Just be more proactive in your own safety and know who the hell you are dealing with sexually.

    I would suggest you go and get tested as matter of self respect and just take the weight out off yourself. Nothing wrong with being in the know and it's always better to be safe than sorry.
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    Nov 14, 2011 12:35 PM GMT
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    AlexanderB saidGrats on losing the v-card and sounds like you had a inexperienced bottom.

    Get tested then come to CT. I'll show you what a bottom is supposed to be like ;)


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    Maybe I will ;)
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    Nov 14, 2011 12:46 PM GMT
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    Sincityfan saidonly marginally better than jerking off?
    I thought barebacking was supposed to make it feel 100000x better

    Like I said, his ass was loose as hell. I was able to use spit as lube and it slipped right in... and he seemed to love it. I was always under the impression this was next to impossible. icon_eek.gif


    so ya never saw the fuck scene in Brokeback Mtn? two spits and he was in. Actually some men are easier to penetrate from dildo use, lots of bottom experience or just a loose anal sphincter. I wouldn't worry about that. Obviously the emotional connection wasn't there or it would be a LOT better than jerking off.

    Get tested, make up a 'date pack' with a condom, sanitary wipe, breath mint, lube

    Welcome to our lifetime membership community of gay men who have done stupid things!
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    Nov 14, 2011 12:58 PM GMT
    Well, congrats on losing the v card.

    It might not be a bad idea to start PEP especially if the guy was and let a stranger fucked him bareback. You know what I'm saying? Talk to your doc ASAP cuz it needs to be done within 72 hours

    3 months will be definitive the 6 months is just to make sure. If you're negative at 3 months extremely likely 6 month will be neg as well.

    The odds are on your side, scientists estimated the likelihood of contracting the virus for the insertive anal sex without a condom with a known poz bottom, and there's 0.08% ~ 0.2% likelihood. (maximum 2 out of 1000 acts of insertive anal sex without a condom)

    Why did you do it? Because you're not sexually experienced enough. Read up more on this and you'll take the necessary steps to protect yourself in the future. Always have a condom ready to go in your wallet. icon_wink.gif Good luck with testing! The odds are your side.
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    Nov 14, 2011 1:04 PM GMT
    Don't worry because well I mean what is done is done... you can't change what is done so don't worry about it. All you can do is go forward.

    -Is there a risk for HIV on my end and, if so, how big is it?
    There is a risk period anytime you engage in oral or anal sex without barriers and even then there is still a risk. My first advice to you is when giving head It's been said to me like this "Spit or Swallow but NEVER wallow". Our gums have direct linkage to the blood stream so if he had HIV it could get in through there. As for the anal sex, if you bottomed there would be an even higher risk for you. If you bottomed and he came inside you, again higher risks. It's debatable wether or not being cut or uncut causes you to be at a higher risk for HIV as well.

    -Should I get myself tested for HIV and/or any STIs?
    Start counting from the day after you had sex and wait at least 3 months before you go get tested for HIV. I would say don't just have them do the oralrapid test but have them test your blood as well. HIV can manifest itself within 3 to 6 months. As for anything else, Im not a doctor but I've sat through many HIV awreness classes for the NPO that I am doing my internship with and I have very close friends of mine that are positive. I have a friend that was in a magnetic relationship and know the concerns he had when he exprssed them to me.

    -How soon should I do that?
    Again, check with a doctor but as for the HIV its usually 3-6 months. As for anything bacterial, you will notice in a few days if not weeks.

    -Why am I such a horny idiot?
    I did the same thing my first time around. I had my regrets too but thank God nothing happened. Just learn from it. Don't do it again. Keep condoms around or next time, check with the club/bar you're at. Sometimes organizations will give them out at the bars or leave them there for people to freely grab. Might be durex but it better than nothing and works just as well.I'll keep you in my prayers. Good Luck!

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    Nov 14, 2011 1:04 PM GMT
    Zettabyte saidIt finally happened... the v card is GONE! icon_biggrin.gif

    After my life imploded and hit rock bottom (that's a whole different thread), I finally manned the fuck up and went to my first gay club by myself yesterday. Met a guy, one thing lead to another, and... yeah. To be honest, I thought it was only marginally better than jerking off... probably because he bit my dick a couple times, I gagged on his a few more times, and his ass was loose as hell. A friend told me everyone's first time is mediocre, though. icon_redface.gif

    That's not the point.
    The point is, I really fucked up.

    We decided we were going to switch from head to anal, but neither of us had condoms. In the heat of the moment, we just said fuck it and got on with it.

    I topped and I know that I am 100% disease free, which is a good start. However, I do know that there are still some risks involved with unprotected anal sex, even as the top, like bacterial infections, STIs, and all that fun stuff. He assured me he was clean, but that doesn't really mean jack shit.

    -How worried should I be?
    -Is there a risk for HIV on my end and, if so, how big is it?
    -Should I get myself tested for HIV and/or any STIs?
    -How soon should I do that?
    -Why am I such a horny idiot?

    Please, don't criticize. I'm already feeling stupid enough.

    Thanks, guys.


    Go to a gay-friendly doctor, explain, and say (1) you want an AIDS test and (2) you want to be put on AZT for the next month as a precaution.
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    Nov 14, 2011 1:09 PM GMT
    He might have just been rather experince and I don't mean as in having a frequent flyer program but maybe he knew how to take it so it would go in easier. You learn things as time goes on and then again... I have some really ho bottom friends that have told/taught me a thing or two and wow... you'd be amazed.
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    Nov 15, 2011 2:54 AM GMT
    Welcome to the club of "the dumb things guys do!".....I am dealing with my own version.....GUYS LIE to get sex! ....tell your doc what happened...honestly.....and he should give you a prescription for an anti-biotic as a just-in-case for Gonorrhea and chlamydia. ...go back in about 3 to 6 months for a blood test for HIV. Now that the V-card has been punched....get a "party pack" ready to go in your car, gym bag, at home...be ready!
    I got "Strep Throat" from a guy and I am now down for a few days and have a sore arm from a wicked anti biotic shot! He told me he was healthy.....but he lied, so I got a lot of questions about what else he lied about....so I got tested and lots of antibiotics.......
    Being safe and ready is a lot better and less painful than trying to cure the symptoms......just my experience.
    Good luck....be well!icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 15, 2011 3:00 AM GMT
    OP how long did were you inside of him?
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    Nov 15, 2011 5:25 AM GMT
    Zettabyte saidIt finally happened... the v card is GONE! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Don't worry, honey, you've still got your virginity...it's just been pushed way up there.

    All kidding aside. Go get tested for STD's. Don't worry, just go get tested.
    Carry rubbers with you everywhere.