Will you hold your boyfriend's hand in public?

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    Jun 13, 2008 10:08 PM GMT
    No one bats an eye on this in New Orleans. In fact, you see more gays holding hands than straights.
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    Jun 13, 2008 10:21 PM GMT
    collegestud86 saidI can't believe how far I've come in accepting my homosexuality. Now, I'm at the stage where if I'm on a date with a guy and feel a strong attraction, I will just grab his hand and won't give a damn about where I am. I know this can be dangerous, but I went through some serious mental anguish for not being able to be myself.

    I figure, if straight people can engage in PDA (some of which often crosses the line), what's wrong with me and another guy holding hands?

    Do you hold another guys' hand in public?

    Good for you man, I don't think anyone should be ashamed of their sexuality! I think of myself as more of a masculine gay, others may think differently! I can honestly say I've attempted suicide 3 times! I was ashamed of who I was because of friends/families&societies outlook towards people like us! I finally couldn't take it anymore, I had to be true to myself, I didn't give a shit what people thought anymore! I was tired of feeling like a piece of shit because I like men! My family&friends all accepted that fact, society on the other hand isn't as accepting as them, fuck society, I say, man, you got the balls to say f**k you to the world.Kudos.J
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    Jun 13, 2008 10:31 PM GMT
    I'm all for holding hands in public, and I'm glad the guy I'm dating feels the same way.
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    Jun 13, 2008 10:34 PM GMT
    Nope it makes him uncomfortable, he doesn't often say it but I can feel him looking round and letting go, turning away from facing people. Some times he'll let his hand purposely brush off mine which is nice.

    I don't think he feels unsafe, just doesn't want to be judged.

    Me I'd happily never let go of hisicon_rolleyes.gif


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    Jun 13, 2008 11:07 PM GMT
    I'm paraphrasing Tammy Baldwin here, I believe but:

    If you want to live in a world where you can hold your partner's hand, then DO.
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    Jun 13, 2008 11:15 PM GMT
    Sure would if I had a man.

    One other thing to think about is how happy it makes all us other single gays to see a happy couple marching down the street hand in hand. Always brings a huge smile to my face, unless of course I'm in a bitter and lonely mood, then it sucks. ha
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    Jun 13, 2008 11:30 PM GMT
    It's safer than holding his penis in public.
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    Jun 13, 2008 11:32 PM GMT
    i always hold my guys hand in public. PDAs are a must!!! there however is a time and a place for everything.
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    Jun 13, 2008 11:47 PM GMT
    I would but my ex was really uncomfortable with any PDA whatsoever.

    Maybe next time.
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    Jun 13, 2008 11:53 PM GMT
    when me & my boyfriend are out in the public, it's my boyfriend who always grabs my hand ...

    my boyfriend is aggressive ...

    and intense ...

    specially in bed ... he he ...

    anyway ... i like that my boyfriend grabs my hand ... because i could feel that my boyfriend is affectionate to me ...

    and it's my boyfriend's way of showing that he loves me ... with all his heart ...

    so sweet ... he he ... icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 13, 2008 11:55 PM GMT
    Good question. If I had a man and he reached out his hand towards mine in public you bet I'd take his. Grin, give him a wink and think.. fuck, check this shit out. I love this bastard. icon_smile.gif Probably get off on the fact my boyfriend is hotter than the straight slobs staring LOL
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    Jun 14, 2008 12:00 AM GMT
    If I ever find a decent one I would hold hands with him as often as I can. I actually do care what People think about me, but I learned to just to think "I probably wont see them again, so who gives a shit?"
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    Jun 14, 2008 12:03 AM GMT
    yeah we do...well not everywhere...we ususally do it in the more gay areas in town.

    We were drunk once and made out in a str8 strip club during stock show and I got punched in the back...bad thing for the guy that i turned around...because I beat the living shit out of him lol...but that sort of made us realize that we need to be somewhat careful.
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    Jun 14, 2008 12:39 AM GMT
    I think holding hands is retarded period and you should only do so if you think you are going to lose the person (i.e. in crowds or they are too young and need the hand).

    Besides that I'll do anything straight people do in public, which includes open minded wet sloppy wet kiss in the middle of anywhere public. I am a PDA whore and do it for the purpose of making a scene. ;)
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    Jun 14, 2008 2:35 AM GMT
    We're lucky enough to live in San Francisco where we can hold hands or hug just about anywhere, from my church to my workplace to the streets. My partner is less comfortable with it than I am and prefers to avoid trouble.
    My view is if somebody doesn't like it, that's their problem. icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 14, 2008 2:38 AM GMT
    Without even a second thought, I still have my other had free to flip off someone who might be offended.
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    Jun 14, 2008 2:47 AM GMT
    DCEric saidWe don't, not out of concern for our safety (we don't hold hands even in DuPont... Washington's gay district). I think we just don't have an interest.


    Yay Dupont! I miss clubbing in the city and its pride this weekend.

    I've done PDA with friends in public (gay and straight men) and haven't had a problem yet. When I get a boyfriend I'll hold his hand too....if he's ok with that.
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    Jun 14, 2008 3:02 AM GMT
    I hold my Partner's hand in public and even gave him a big kiss when he left for a buisiness trip at the airport...
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    Jun 14, 2008 3:23 AM GMT
    i wouldn't be comfortable dating a guy who isn't comfortable enough with himself to enjoy it.
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    Jun 14, 2008 3:25 AM GMT
    my hand always gets too sweaty, haha. but yes, id totally do iticon_cool.gif
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    Jun 14, 2008 4:23 AM GMT
    McGay saidIt's safer than holding his penis in public.


    McGay, you ROCK!!! HAHAHAHA!! But in SF we can get away with THAT too!!!
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    Jun 14, 2008 4:44 AM GMT
    Yes, if I could just find him
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    Jun 14, 2008 4:58 AM GMT
    I fear no man...lol. That being said, it depends on the time and place. I have dated guys that had no problem with it and dated guys that were not there yet. I respect both positions.

    There are times when I want to make a statement, but as I get older that is less important. Let the young militant gay guys do that. I did it in my youth also. I never, however, play the str8 game. Ever. If people ask they get the truth. I am satisfied that in my own small way I changed many people's minds about what a gay man is. By being honest, straight-forward, and proud. Family, friends, co-workers, bosses, neighbors, ect. I am proud of that.

    Now, all you newly out gay guys, young and old, give em hell. Do what you feel comfortable doing and in your own way make it easier for the next generation.

    Peace.
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    Jun 14, 2008 5:02 AM GMT
    No I don't because of the Country where I live and I am older and a foreigner so it's difficult.But I do squeeze his hand or arm at times well that's when he is with me and not away at University.A lot of men go arm in arm but they are not Gay just friends or related in some way but that is fading out I have noticed.
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    Jun 14, 2008 5:14 AM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidYes, if I could just find him


    I am RIGHT here!!