Which do you like better Fem guys or Masculine guys?

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    Jun 23, 2008 1:32 PM GMT
    Macho, hairy, sweaty!
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    Jun 23, 2008 2:54 PM GMT
    TigerTim saidI like people, not stereotypes.


    Well said. I doubt we all act one way or the other all the time. I like a balance between the two. Being genuine is one of the sexiest things in the world. I do appreciate a man who is comfortable being a man and a gay man.
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    Jun 23, 2008 3:11 PM GMT
    I've met overly femme guys that were just too over-the-top for my taste, and super butch guys that seemed like it wasn't real and all a big macho act, so I'd say that I like something sort of in the middle --- A masculine guy that's in touch with his feminine side works for me. That said, I don't think I've ever actually dated a guy who when he opened his mouth a CHANEL purse fell out.
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    Jun 23, 2008 3:28 PM GMT
    BabiGayPimp said
    As they "grow up," some boys might need to butch up. Like Wilson Cruz, who has gradually progressed from one end of the spectrum to the other.

    Check out this "then and now" photo

    In all fairness to Wilson Cruz, the younger photo was a promo shot "in character" when he was on My So Called Life. I doubt he was really that femme in real life. Although he's definitely embraced the masculinity now.
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    Jun 23, 2008 3:32 PM GMT
    My "crew" contains the entire spectrum of gay men (and women). However, if I'm dating or in a relationship with a guy, I like em' more rough trade/masculine kind of guy.
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    Jun 23, 2008 3:36 PM GMT
    HotCrisis17 saidMe I like masculine guys. Some fem guys are ok to be around but after awhile they just tend to get on my nerves icon_rolleyes.gif. What are your thoughts?


    It ALL depends on the voice. A squeaky girlish voice grates on my nerves like fingernails on a blackboard.....and I can't get too excited when a guy with a lisp is trying to be sexy.
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    Jun 23, 2008 3:45 PM GMT
    I like both, for different reasons.

    And keep in mind that fem is not the same as "gay acting". People use these two phrases interchangeably, but they can mean different things. Some guys are naturally more fem - their body type and general manner. The campy "gay acting" thing seems, in contrast, to be an acquired behavior. How many women do you know that lisp?
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    Jun 23, 2008 3:55 PM GMT
    stupid issue that causes division in the gay community.. how many more times do we really need to touch on this?
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    Jun 23, 2008 5:09 PM GMT
    I'm not sure how "fem" or "masc" are being defined. Is it a look? Who's on top? It is mannerisms? I don't know. This is only my opinion but the biggest bitches (what you'd call "masculine") were the ones who thought they looked/acted/were lumberjacks/jocks/cops: so long as they don't open their mouths and there's no altercation, it's all good. However it's the "fem" guys who are actually much tougher, stronger, and who'll kick some ass (after all, you have to be tough to be gender deviant) if it comes to that. For every guy who's hung up on this "masculine" stuff or who says that's what he is, I roll my eyes and pray he doesn't open his trap: nothing spoils a "macho" image like a woman's voice, after all.

    Perhaps I sound bitter about this but I really think gay men (unlike gay women) would do well to analyze and play with their ideas on gender presentation and sexuality.
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    Jun 23, 2008 5:56 PM GMT
    I tend to gravitate towards the more masculine male. Its not that I have a problem with effeminite men. I am just not that comfortable around them. I grew up and i knew I was gay. My voice didnt change to a higher pitch, my walk stayed the same and I dont call guys girlfriend..So I surround myself with people like myself. Now if I meet a guy and we are cool and he is a fem....thats also cool. I wouldnt discriminate soley on that fact.
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    Jun 23, 2008 6:19 PM GMT
    Pattison once told me he writes like and says some of the things he does just to piss people off. ...that he isnt like that in person.
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    Jun 23, 2008 6:23 PM GMT
    Caslon4000 saidPattison once told me he writes like and says some of the things he does just to piss people off. ...that he isnt like that in person.



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    Jun 23, 2008 9:45 PM GMT
    Caslon4000 saidPattison once told me he writes like and says some of the things he does just to piss people off. ...that he isnt like that in person.


    Paterson is much like my older brother.

    He says a lot of shit to stir the pot, likes to ruffle feathers and it gives him a laugh, but under all that shit, hes a good guy, so..

    Actually a lot of aussies are like that, tend to take a piss more often then not... Although Pattison is first to do it so heavily on an american forum since americans are usually a little slow on the up take with aussie humor icon_razz.gif

    BTw, I like all guys and I am both... like the other day, I minced into myers, brought a really fab new jumper, was delicous and on the way home I stopped in at auto one, joked with the fella behind the counter about the clueless women before me, got ma self a new spanner set, then popped into bunnies to pick up a random orbital sander (my old old old old dewalt shit its self) and flirted with the guy in the garden section by being all coy and submissive which he takes a great liking too.

    I like being well rounded enough to be comfortable with who I am totally and getting the flirt with the garden guy.. WOOF, he could fertilise me any day of the week!
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    Jun 23, 2008 10:34 PM GMT
    I am only interested in masculine, athletic guys. I don't like effeminate guys. I detest drag queens. I especially dislike guys who smoke and do drugs.
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    Jun 23, 2008 10:59 PM GMT
    Caslon4000 saidPattison once told me he writes like and says some of the things he does just to piss people off. ...that he isnt like that in person.


    Indeed. The way One presents Oneself in person, and in writing are two very diffrent presentation, persons.

    If I have an issue with a boss. I put it in writing. That way I do get to the point, and say what I need to say. It does normally piss em off.

    I also find it easier to challenge a persons thought in writing than One does in person, as I'm just to polite, and caring. In writing, one is able to bypass this.
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    Jun 23, 2008 11:03 PM GMT
    roadbikeRob saidI am only interested in masculine, athletic guys. I don't like effeminate guys. I detest drag queens. I especially dislike guys who smoke and do drugs.


    Feeling a little self hate there deary?
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    Jun 23, 2008 11:04 PM GMT
    'Like'? In what capacity? I like a lot of different people.
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    Jun 23, 2008 11:07 PM GMT
    lilTanker said Paterson is much like my older brother.


    There are more at home like you?!?!?!? .... icon_eek.gif

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    Jun 23, 2008 11:09 PM GMT
    I like campy effeminate guys. I love that sense of humor. I have no problem with guys expressing themselves as drag queens. I am not sexually attracted to a guy in such a get-up tho.
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    Jun 23, 2008 11:24 PM GMT
    we don't need anymore guys like Liltanker. They hate Americans, because they're so jealous of our uber awesomeness.

    Long live Bush.
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    Jun 23, 2008 11:37 PM GMT
    Pattison said[quote][cite]Caslon4000 said[/cite]Pattison once told me he writes like and says some of the things he does just to piss people off. ...that he isnt like that in person.


    Indeed. The way One presents Oneself in person, and in writing are two very diffrent presentation, persons.

    If I have an issue with a boss. I put it in writing. That way I do get to the point, and say what I need to say. It does normally piss em off.

    I also find it easier to challenge a persons thought in writing than One does in person, as I'm just to polite, and caring. In writing, one is able to bypass this.[/quote]



    Careful there Pat, you are back peddling icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 23, 2008 11:46 PM GMT
    lilTanker said[quote][cite]Caslon4000 said[/cite]Pattison once told me he writes like and says some of the things he does just to piss people off. ...that he isnt like that in person.


    Paterson is much like my older brother.

    He says a lot of shit to stir the pot, likes to ruffle feathers and it gives him a laugh, but under all that shit, hes a good guy, so..

    Actually a lot of aussies are like that, tend to take a piss more often then not... Although Pattison is first to do it so heavily on an american forum since americans are usually a little slow on the up take with aussie humor icon_razz.gif

    BTw, I like all guys and I am both... like the other day, I minced into myers, brought a really fab new jumper, was delicous and on the way home I stopped in at auto one, joked with the fella behind the counter about the clueless women before me, got ma self a new spanner set, then popped into bunnies to pick up a random orbital sander (my old old old old dewalt shit its self) and flirted with the guy in the garden section by being all coy and submissive which he takes a great liking too.

    I like being well rounded enough to be comfortable with who I am totally and getting the flirt with the garden guy.. WOOF, he could fertilise me any day of the week![/quote]

    Matey in so many ways you have just hit the nail right on the head!

    We Aussies too, are very good at self'deprecation. I've found way to many Americans have trouble laughing at themselves.

    To be with me in person, you would see a total diffrent person, if I was not stirring the pot, challenging people belief system. if they are strong within themselves there just is no challenge.

    Some gay guys have trouble with me, and others just love me. many a time I've had a fem come stand next to me, when they have felt frightened.
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    Jun 23, 2008 11:48 PM GMT
    roadbikeRob saidI am only interested in masculine, athletic guys. I don't like effeminate guys. I detest drag queens. I especially dislike guys who smoke and do drugs.


    What about the drag queens at Stonewall?
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    Jun 23, 2008 11:50 PM GMT
    Pattison said[quote][cite]lilTanker said[/cite][quote][cite]Caslon4000 said[/cite]Pattison once told me he writes like and says some of the things he does just to piss people off. ...that he isnt like that in person.


    Paterson is much like my older brother.

    He says a lot of shit to stir the pot, likes to ruffle feathers and it gives him a laugh, but under all that shit, hes a good guy, so..

    Actually a lot of aussies are like that, tend to take a piss more often then not... Although Pattison is first to do it so heavily on an american forum since americans are usually a little slow on the up take with aussie humor icon_razz.gif

    BTw, I like all guys and I am both... like the other day, I minced into myers, brought a really fab new jumper, was delicous and on the way home I stopped in at auto one, joked with the fella behind the counter about the clueless women before me, got ma self a new spanner set, then popped into bunnies to pick up a random orbital sander (my old old old old dewalt shit its self) and flirted with the guy in the garden section by being all coy and submissive which he takes a great liking too.

    I like being well rounded enough to be comfortable with who I am totally and getting the flirt with the garden guy.. WOOF, he could fertilise me any day of the week![/quote]

    Matey in so many ways you have just hit the nail right on the head!

    We Aussies too, are very good at self'deprecation. I've found way to many Americans have trouble laughing at themselves.

    To be with me in person, you would see a total diffrent person, if I was not stirring the pot, challenging people belief system. if they are strong within themselves there just is no challenge.

    Some gay guys have trouble with me, and others just love me. many a time I've had a fem come stand next to me, when they have felt frightened.[/quote]



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    Jun 23, 2008 11:50 PM GMT
    MikePhil said[quote][cite]Pattison said[/cite][quote][cite]Caslon4000 said[/cite]Pattison once told me he writes like and says some of the things he does just to piss people off. ...that he isnt like that in person.


    Indeed. The way One presents Oneself in person, and in writing are two very diffrent presentation, persons.

    If I have an issue with a boss. I put it in writing. That way I do get to the point, and say what I need to say. It does normally piss em off.

    I also find it easier to challenge a persons thought in writing than One does in person, as I'm just to polite, and caring. In writing, one is able to bypass this.[/quote]



    Careful there Pat, you are back peddling icon_razz.gif[/quote]

    Oh please. Just because One has just pulled you up for back peddling, you just have say I am doing it.



    lol. One does not back peddle.

    Oh mate until you become verified, legitimised. One really does not care what you think.