Which do you like better Fem guys or Masculine guys?

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    Jun 25, 2008 3:54 PM GMT
    I like masculine guys and that entails the entire package..from looks to vocal inclinications to hobbies etc...

    I'll never forget when I went on a blind date with a guy who worked at a local gym. He looked pretty masculine, but wore really short cut-offs and a glaring muscle-T that practically blared out to anyone "look at me..I'm gay". He kind of sashayed when he walked too...really uncomfortable feeling I had with him. I was mortified to be seen with him. Then he kept calling me "girl" and "darling". I said "don't call me 'girl' or'darling" please...I'm a guy". Geesh...He even said to me at one point "everyone at the gym thinks Todd (another guy he worked with at the gym)looks gay and nobody there knows I'm gay...(believe me, Todd acted and looked as masculine as they can be). I told him i seriously doubted that anyone could think that about either of them. He screamed it with his actions.

    That was the last time I went out with a feminine guy. It gives me the shudders even thinking about it. Nope, I like guys..and guys who don't drown themselves in the gay world. I'm much more comfortable being with guys who live in the real world and don't think all things revolve around being gay.
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    Jun 25, 2008 11:39 PM GMT
    To the hidden/deleted member who made a negative comment about my preference for masculine, athletic gay men. Who the hell do you think you are you spineless little bastard. Who do you think you are calling old and washed up? You don't even know me so you had no right making such a negative statement. I am not old and I am definately not washed up by any means. You are a little coward because you do not want to show your profile name and face. You are definately a person of extremely low quality. Go fuck yourself.icon_mad.gif
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    Jun 25, 2008 11:43 PM GMT
    roadbikeRob saidTo the hidden/deleted member who made a negative comment about my preference for masculine, athletic gay men. Who the hell do you think you are you spineless little bastard. Who do you think you are calling old and washed up? You don't even know me so you had no right making such a negative statement. I am not old and I am definately not washed up by any means. You are a little coward because you do not want to show your profile name and face. You are definately a person of extremely low quality. Go fuck yourself.icon_mad.gif


    YES so that he too can get a private message from you showing him how butch and manly you are, that you, of all people, don't take shit, from no one, you, big manly thing you!
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    Jun 25, 2008 11:47 PM GMT
    I love masculine guys and hate feminine guys and there is no middle ground on this.

    (sounds stupid doesn't it?)
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    Jun 25, 2008 11:50 PM GMT
    XRuggerATX saidI love masculine guys and hate feminine guys and there is no middle ground on this.

    (sounds stupid doesn't it?)


    OMG you've never been in the middle have you hehehe

    Its hot there, between.. umm..


    OOO I just got a hot flush!
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    Jun 25, 2008 11:53 PM GMT
    Soonawarrior saidMasculine guys. If I want to date a "girl" I'll date a girl not a guy.


    You ain't gettin' anyone until you clear up that infected tattoo.
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    Jun 25, 2008 11:57 PM GMT
    bocaguyfl saidI was mortified to be seen with him.


    Why? what would people you don't know have thought?
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    Jun 26, 2008 12:01 AM GMT
    Samer08 saidI prefer masculine men. I can't stand fem guys at all.



    And who are you --- RAMBO? icon_lol.gif


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    Jun 26, 2008 12:21 AM GMT
    To me theres a difference between someone who is a little gay and someone who is feminine. I can handle a little gayness, but femininity isn't something i can deal with. Its annoying as shit. Friends, sure, but otherwise, no - doesnt matter how hot physically. Total turn off.

    Its a matter of being able to relate to someone, and i just cant relate to most fem guys. I dont have straight guy fantasies or anything like that, and im not sure how you define feminine exactly, that prob varies from person to person. But when i came out at 21, i didnt feel it was necessary for me to abandon everything about who i was and adopt the "gay scene" which, other than wanting to fuck guys, has very little overlap with who i am otherwise.

    That being said, guys who try too hard to be masc are equally as bad, u can always tell when its an insecure ploy. Thats annoying with str8 and gay guys alike.

    Either way, you like what you like, and anyone of these self-righteous "It shouldn't matter, like the person for who they are, im so open minded, blah blah, blah" motherfuckers are full of shit. Everyone has their turn ons and turn offs, and theres nothing wrong with that. Its natural and normal, regardless of what your preference is
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    Jun 26, 2008 12:32 AM GMT
    chitown_mofo saidTo me theres a difference between someone who is a little gay and someone who is feminine. I can handle a little gayness, but femininity isn't something i can deal with. Its annoying as shit. Friends, sure, but otherwise, no - doesnt matter how hot physically. Total turn off.

    Its a matter of being able to relate to someone, and i just cant relate to most fem guys. I dont have straight guy fantasies or anything like that, and im not sure how you define feminine exactly, that prob varies from person to person. But when i came out at 21, i didnt feel it was necessary for me to abandon everything about who i was and adopt the "gay scene" which, other than wanting to fuck guys, has very little overlap with who i am otherwise.

    That being said, guys who try too hard to be masc are equally as bad, u can always tell when its an insecure ploy. Thats annoying with str8 and gay guys alike.

    Either way, you like what you like, and anyone of these self-righteous "It shouldn't matter, like the person for who they are, im so open minded, blah blah, blah" motherfuckers are full of shit. Everyone has their turn ons and turn offs, and theres nothing wrong with that. Its natural and normal, regardless of what your preference is


    So, tell me, why if someone is effeminate they had adopted this to be gay? why can they not be effeminate in the first place and just happen to be gay?
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    Jun 26, 2008 12:39 AM GMT
    Another picture of my honey Wilson Cruz. Whatever he was then and whatever he is now. It's all good to me. I'd let him keep half the money.icon_cool.gif

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    Jun 26, 2008 1:31 AM GMT
    Something to consider...We all have our personal preferences, but it is all relative. Most guys on here probably claim that they are masculine, and I would probably agree with that assessment. However, most str8 guys and gals will consider you feminie cause you all happen to like cock ;-)
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    Jun 26, 2008 1:50 AM GMT
    Well, labels aside, there are just a few traits I have found to be deal breakers when it comes to getting to know a guy.

    I don't know why but my biggest quirk with another guy has got to be if he has "that" voice. I'm not entirely sure if you it squeeky or high pitched but I do know that I can't stand it. That's a preference I'e found doesn't change despite looks.

    So when I say I prefer "masculine" men I don't mean Rambos so much as a guy who doesn't have my number one pet peeve.

    I PREFER MASCULINE GUYS DAMNIT!!! I'M NOT GONNA SIT HERE( well lay here) AND FEEL ASHAMED! (lol)

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    Jun 26, 2008 2:36 AM GMT
    RyanReBoRn saidWell, labels aside, there are just a few traits I have found to be deal breakers when it comes to getting to know a guy.

    I don't know why but my biggest quirk with another guy has got to be if he has "that" voice. I'm not entirely sure if you it squeeky or high pitched but I do know that I can't stand it. That's a preference I'e found doesn't change despite looks.

    So when I say I prefer "masculine" men I don't mean Rambos so much as a guy who doesn't have my number one pet peeve.

    I PREFER MASCULINE GUYS DAMNIT!!! I'M NOT GONNA SIT HERE( well lay here) AND FEEL ASHAMED! (lol)

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    THE BIGGEST DEAL BREAKER IS THE VOICE. TOTALLY AGREE.
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    Jun 26, 2008 2:45 AM GMT
    If I liked guys who acted liked girls then I would just date girls.
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    Jun 26, 2008 2:45 AM GMT

    That being said, guys who try too hard to be masc are equally as bad, u can always tell when its an insecure ploy. Thats annoying with str8 and gay guys alike.
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    Thank you my friend for saying that. It is annoying as shit to be around guys (gay or straight) who are trying so freakin hard to be guys. For me, the term butch conjures up images of those hyper masculine gay guys that have forgotten how to relax and have fun.

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    Jun 26, 2008 3:15 AM GMT
    Are Hats feminine or masculine? Because I like guys in hats. Well, I like guys in hats and guys out of hats, but I definitely like guys in hats.

    If hats are feminine, then I guess I'm into feminine guys.

    I also wear hats sometimes, so if you're into masculine guys, then maybe I'm not your type.

    Have I got it clear? Help me out guys, I'm struggling with this one.
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    Jun 26, 2008 3:40 AM GMT
    OHhiker saidAre Hats feminine or masculine? Because I like guys in hats. Well, I like guys in hats and guys out of hats, but I definitely like guys in hats.

    If hats are feminine, then I guess I'm into feminine guys.

    I also wear hats sometimes, so if you're into masculine guys, then maybe I'm not your type.

    Have I got it clear? Help me out guys, I'm struggling with this one.


    thar's a tough one....depends.....If you wear the hat when you have sex, is that the only thing you are wearing?
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    Jun 26, 2008 3:42 AM GMT
    zdrew saidExactly. Didn't both Shakespeare and Alanis Morissette say something about protesting too much??

    jprichva said
    Yes, right between songs about how depressed she is and how she'd just like to kill herself.

    Oy.


    Actually, it was between songs about not holding herself back and how much she loves her husband (well, ex-husband now, the bastard).
    Hmmm... is knowing Alanis Morissette's track listing feminine? icon_smile.gif

    As to the dead horse, I mean issue, at hand, I agree that the most attractive people are those that are confident in themselves. Putting on a more masculine persona or a more feminine persona than one would naturally exhibit is generally pretty obvious and is a turn-off.
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    Jun 26, 2008 2:24 PM GMT
    So a Tranni with a 10 inch Dong who loves to give only!
    Is that Masc' or Fem'?

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    Jun 26, 2008 2:27 PM GMT
    This is not really an issue for me. I consider the individual. While I like masculinity as an attribute and find it a factor of attraction, it is easily canceled out by a bad attitude (egotistical, narcissistic, constantly seeking validation, etc.)
    I think if someone were hot to me visually, and ostensibly comfortable with themselves and not affected, then that's a good start.
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    Jun 29, 2008 5:25 PM GMT
    well as far as "attracted" i'm only into masculine guys so im gunna go with the Machismoicon_smile.gif
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    Jun 29, 2008 5:56 PM GMT
    jnmodesto saidThis topic is much ado about nothing. Most gay men are completely self-deluded about their masculinity. I can pretty much guarantee you that the world does not perceive you nearly as masculine as you perceive yourself...regardless of what female coworkers may say about "not being able to tell." These are the same women who tell eachother that they don't look fat in those jeans. icon_smile.gif

    Amen, although I think the delusion has increased with a loss of appreciation for the ambiguity of gender. I remember when I came out in the Dark Ages and I'd go to a club and it would be full of "clones" dressed in hyper-masculine drag. They'd get on the dance floor and they'd suddenly have tambourines in their hands.

    Although I imagine a few such men didn't see their discontinuity, I think most consciously enjoyed playing with gender stereotypes and had a sense of humor about it.

    Now, the very posing of a question like "Do you like fem or masculine guys better?" imagines some kind of actual line of demarcation that really doesn't exist. It's kinda like asking a mixed-race person if he prefers black or white men.

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    Jul 03, 2008 1:26 AM GMT
    jnmodesto saidThis topic is much ado about nothing. Most gay men are completely self-deluded about their masculinity. I can pretty much guarantee you that the world does not perceive you nearly as masculine as you perceive yourself...regardless of what female coworkers may say about "not being able to tell." These are the same women who tell eachother that they don't look fat in those jeans. icon_smile.gif



    Funny but true lol
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    Jul 08, 2008 6:19 PM GMT
    obscenewish saidI pose the same question here I posed on the 200 earlier threads about race and attraction: Isn't life more interesting, more pleasurable, when you're not dismissing entire categories of people?

    In any case, stereotypes about gender and sexuality are usually almost hilariously subjective, as CADickyboy observed in the allegedly uber-butch str8hardbody's wardrobe.

    Don't we all know by now that the more vociferous someone is in his condemnation of effeminacy, the more likely he is to be struggling with his own masculinity?




    I couldn't agree more--and isn't it all the more entertaining (when not overtly hostile) to observe the reactions of others when they just can't abide by someone who is different from them. Whether due to skin color, affectations, pattern of speech, politics, gender, et al. So much can be learned about another through their reactions. Finding this out about your own reactions is key as well. icon_smile.gif