Do big muscular guys ever go for the slim/small guy?

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    Feb 03, 2012 2:43 PM GMT
    Here's a good motto I like to throw in time to time....Its even in my profile...


    Working out , just makes you look good naked in bed ! icon_biggrin.gif

    For me its about a guy who keeps himself fit but has great personality to match.

    So their body type can range from being defined to hot damn.
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    Feb 05, 2012 6:12 AM GMT
    From my experience, being a slim guy(working on getting bigger, schedule constraints make it difficult howevericon_confused.gif), many guys online(have yet to meet "hot" open gay guys in person) have hit on me some especially were attracted to my small stature as they could play around with me easier. So they are out there.
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    Feb 05, 2012 6:16 AM GMT
    archon said
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    jmusmc85 saidI can see both ya'lls point of view. But lets face it no matter how much I work out I won't be THAT big or as big as you Drew. I maybe able to bulk up but I won't grow taller....icon_neutral.gif


    puff you dont need to get taller, short guys are sexy as fuck and all the sexy boys go after themicon_biggrin.gif


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    Is that a man or woman? I'm confused icon_redface.gif


    its a claystation



    NO i dont think its claystation not in the same league
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    Feb 05, 2012 6:21 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    archon said
    jmusmc85 saidI can see both ya'lls point of view. But lets face it no matter how much I work out I won't be THAT big or as big as you Drew. I maybe able to bulk up but I won't grow taller....icon_neutral.gif


    puff you dont need to get taller, short guys are sexy as fuck and all the sexy boys go after themicon_biggrin.gif


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    I just lost my appetite icon_confused.gif
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    Feb 05, 2012 6:59 AM GMT
    I love a man who can put me over his shoulder and then pin me down in bed for some hot TLC.

    I used to ask myself that question a lot, until I realized that I shouldn't dwell on it so much. As one of the posters mentioned, all it really takes is confidence. It's not a simple task to achieve mentally, but pretending you're confident (not to be confused with arrogant) is a start. Exude what you want others to see.

    Not that you asked, but it also wouldn't hurt to increase your workouts and your calorie/protein intake for some added muscle mass.

    They're out there.
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    Feb 05, 2012 7:01 AM GMT
    du2015 saidMy type is a bigger muscular guy but from my experiences, those guys prefer other big guys, not a smaller, slimmer guy like myself...what are your thoughts on that? Is this true or have I just been lookin in all the wrong places?


    Yeah sure but keep in mind that the number of muscular gay guys is really really really small. This site just overepresents them and makes it look differently than reality icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 06, 2012 6:21 AM GMT
    I like big, muscular guys.
    But I also like tall skinny guys.
    And short muscular guys
    And short skinny guys.
    I also really like guys who are the same height as me (matching set)
    I am into guys who are ripped and defined, and there are guys who aren't, but I find them attractive anyway.

    It's all how you look at it, really. Why would you insist on only eating strawberries when there are grapes, blueberries, bananas, pineapple, mango, melon, and kiwi in the bowl of fruit?
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    Feb 06, 2012 6:25 AM GMT
    They are out there.
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    Feb 06, 2012 6:32 AM GMT
    Guy101 saidBig, muscular guys are attracted to confidence. If you show that and can hold your own (how ever you wanna take that) then you shouldn't have a problem in finding one. For that matter, most men in general are attracted to confidence. When you got it and show it in a way that they can see it they come knocking.

    Yes, most gay men are attracted to muscle or rather fitness I should say. That's a fact. However, if you don't have the confidence to match the muscle/fitness, have too much confidence and come off as a prick or don't have any confidence at all then you're as invisible as everyone else. Be you and be happy with you and make the most out of it. Improve yourself for yourself. Someone to your liking will notice it and will be all over you like stank on shit. icon_biggrin.gif

    Best of luck.


    Guys go for confident guys. If you are confident you'll find a guy that gets you off.

    You also have to understand that what you find may not be what you are looking for. Some confidence comes in having the courage to explore things you are unsure of.
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    Feb 06, 2012 6:37 AM GMT
    Yes, they are out there! I've met several muscle guys who told me that other muscular men "did nothing for them," and that they were physically attracted to slimmer, or average builds. Luckily for me..... icon_confused.gif
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    Feb 06, 2012 6:39 AM GMT
    yes they like me!
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    Feb 06, 2012 6:55 AM GMT
    du2015 saidMy type is a bigger muscular guy but from my experiences, those guys prefer other big guys, not a smaller, slimmer guy like myself...what are your thoughts on that? Is this true or have I just been lookin in all the wrong places?


    You need to move to New York. In my experience the muscular guys go after the smaller guys. They're not going after guys who are as big as them.
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    Feb 06, 2012 4:36 PM GMT
    I'd go for you, but I think you already know that icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 06, 2012 4:36 PM GMT
    Thanks for all the feedback guys! I really appreciate it
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    Feb 06, 2012 4:44 PM GMT
    du2015 saidMy type is a bigger muscular guy but from my experiences, those guys prefer other big guys, not a smaller, slimmer guy like myself...what are your thoughts on that? Is this true or have I just been lookin in all the wrong places?


    You should know from the start that you aren't going to have much luck here in meeting men (for that purpose).

    A lot of guys who are muscular are that way because that is their image of beauty. Their image of beauty for themselves and for guys they want to get with.

    There's nothing wrong with that, I'm just telling you that RealJock draws guys that are attracted to muscle, it's not a random selection of gay men.

    Personally, if I was watching porn, I'd like to see a scene with a muscle guy + a guy like yourself. 2 muscles is as boring as 2 twinks to me. It's not a common ideal though.
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    Feb 06, 2012 5:04 PM GMT
    Bigger, muscular guys DO go for smaller guys (thank heavens). Which is a good thing 'cause every guy is bigger than me... Well, taller anyway.
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    Feb 06, 2012 5:06 PM GMT
    I seem to be quite attracted to skinny/smaller guys esp if they are cute. for some reason though they always seem to think that I would be chasing after muscle hunks cuz i workout.
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    Feb 06, 2012 5:13 PM GMT
    "Yes"...
    The key is to go after what you want and don't take it personal if it doesn't workout.
    I am with Guy101 on this, confidence is the bait, not muscle.
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    Feb 06, 2012 5:25 PM GMT
    confidence is a big thing

    but there are muscle guys who will go after smaller guys and not other muscle guys because they do not want to have the competition and would prefer to be the alpha in the relationship getting all the attention
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    Feb 06, 2012 5:32 PM GMT
    Oh bullshit about this confidence crap.

    Confident Comic Book Guy could strut in front of you all and get no takers.

    An unconfident Chris Evans wins over confidant Chris Walken.

    People say they want "confidence" (knowing that it comes with beauty) so that they don't sound shallow. "Confidence is a personality trait, so if I say that, it sounds like I value inner beauty!"

    Looks are important. Not the most important thing for everyone, but let's not go telling the guy that it all hinges on confidence.

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    Feb 06, 2012 5:42 PM GMT
    Regarding physical attraction, I'm facially-fixated first and foremost. A handsome / very cute face catches my eye more than a muscular body. Body-wise I've gone for guys who are skinny, athletic, or muscular or stocky/muscular.

    Some skinny guys with great faces have told me in the past they assumed I wouldn't be attracted to them because I'm muscular and they're skinny -- I told them that's not true for me, that not all muscular guys have that outlook. You cannot help what you're attracted to and you cannot always predict who will be attracted to what guy icon_cool.gif Different strokes for different folks icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 06, 2012 5:50 PM GMT
    SkinnyBitch saidOh bullshit about this confidence crap.

    Confident Comic Book Guy could strut in front of you all and get no takers.

    An unconfident Chris Evans wins over confidant Chris Walken.

    People say they want "confidence" (knowing that it comes with beauty) so that they don't sound shallow. "Confidence is a personality trait, so if I say that, it sounds like I value inner beauty!"

    Looks are important. Not the most important thing for everyone, but let's not go telling the guy that it all hinges on confidence.



    For you and me, yes; I'll take Chris Evans at any level of confidence. There are plenty of guys who would rather have Christopher Walken or Comic Book Guy, though; and there are plenty of guys that would rather have a confident man somewhere between Evans and Walken.

    I can distill my thoughts on this topic, and all the other "Do X go for Y?" topics, into the following:

    Some X go for Y; some X don't like Y and instead prefer Z, or Q, or other X. There's no apparent logic behind that, and if you look for the logic then you'll just be wasting your time. If you focus on being the best Y you can be, then you'll find your X.
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    Feb 06, 2012 5:51 PM GMT
    If you like bigger muscular guys, you should ask them out when you see them. I'm not the most muscular guy in the world but guys have told me they don't talk to me because they think I'd only like muscular guys or guys with very low body fat. While I do like both those things, that isn't the only stuff that attracts me to a guy.

    While I understand why guy's fear/hate rejection, I don't think that should stop you. The guy might only like one armed, hunchbacks for all you know. It's just not that big a deal to get turned down and I'd hope he'd be nice about it. If he doesn't take your advance as a compliment even though he doesn't feel the same way, he's a jerk and you're better off without him. I never understood a guy who when asked out, says yes, gives you his number and then avoids setting a time/place to go out.

    Also, I agree with SkinnyBitch. People say they like confident guys but then they call them arrogant if their advance isn't reciprocated.
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    Feb 06, 2012 6:03 PM GMT
    i like muscle guys too but im afraid they are mostly into guys with same build icon_sad.gif
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    Feb 06, 2012 6:13 PM GMT
    ythings saidi like muscle guys too but im afraid they are mostly into guys with same build icon_sad.gif


    Some are, some are not. There's no way to predict. Keep trying. Etc.

    I am so tempted to compile a list of cliché RJ forum topics; this is #2 behind "does Pride help or hurt gay rights".