Jun 30, 2008 4:39 AM GMT
I'm currently dating this guy who was also a friend for some time. We've been dating for about a month or so. Well the probem is I find that he seems to say negative things about me pretty consistantly, he says it in a joking manner I guess but it eventually kind of wears on me a bit. He will say that I'm fat or refer to that or something. It doesn't really bother me when he says I'm fat cause I know I'm not. I don't have washboard abs which I can get but right now I'm trying to bulk up. The thing is when he starts sayign things like you need to get your abs in shape and you need to start doing more cardio, thats when I feel hes digging into me and I don't like it. I explained to him that the way he wants me to be (very lean) isn't really how I want to be right now since I'm trying to gain some muscle. Its just kind of making me irritated and I tried explaining it to him but he doesn't really let up. I feel attacked sometimes when he says things like that since its my body and its not like I'm out of shape by any stretch of the imagination. I mentioned to him about all the negative comments he says and says well I'm just trying to help you. Which made me feel worse since I don't feel like there is nothing to be helped, yes my abs aren't showing through right now but that comes with bulking.. My question is what should I do? Is there another way of bringing it up?