Attn older gay guys: shed light on youth from your knowledge and experience

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    Jul 11, 2008 12:41 AM GMT
    I hear this too many times:

    "If I knew then what I know now I would have done things differently."

    I would like to cheat maturity through personal experiences and gain knowledge from your experiences now so that I can hopefully do things differently now and not risk regretting about what could have been far into the future?

    Here's what I'd like to know:

    What would you have done differently as a youth? You can specify (teens, 20s, 30s, 40s, etc.) Note: obviously this makes the word "older" pretty relative

    Knowing what you know now, what risks would you have taken when you were younger but were too afraid to take?

    What would have done differently as a GAY youth now that you are more confident about your sexuality (assuming your behavioral and attitude changes naturally follow the gradual acceptance of homosexuality over recent times)?

    What would you like to see GAY youth do today that you can vicariously live through? In other words, what have you not done that you would like to see a youthful homosexual do that will inspire you or give you more confidence in homosexuals overall?

    What do you think gay youth today doesn't understand that older gays do understand from experience?

    What pisses you off most about gay youth today?

    What pisses you off most about YOUR generation?

    Feel free to answer some or all of these.

    I'm coming towards the edge of my youth and I don't feel I've lived it to it's fullest. I feel like this kind of discussion can hopefully motivate me to think about life in innovative ways so that I can pull myself out of my sexually driven convoluted routine mid-20s crises. Hopefully this discussion can help others out as well.
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    Jul 11, 2008 12:54 AM GMT
    (1). Should have started off majoring in History in University, not Computer Science. Probably would have explored and accepted my sexual orientation earlier then I did (I was 25); Should have gone to a university away from my hometown;

    (2). I think I would have taken that hot guy who came on to me in the washroom at University in the Fall of 1980. I was so shocked I said no to his proposition;

    (3). Would have done more volunteer work as a younger gay person. Did not start until I was 31. I also should have joined a sports league earlier. I was almost 29 when I joined. I had already been out 3 years and had spent too much time in gay bars.

    (4). I am not sure there is anything for this question. I think many gay youth today are remarkably well adjusted. They are coming out much earlier then my generation did. There is one guy on RJ that I read about tonight who said he came out in Grade 7! icon_eek.gif

    (5). Some gay youth today have a hard time understanding the psychological scars caused by the AIDS epidemic. I get kind of upset at times how lackidaisical some young gays can be about their health.

    (6). Some gay youth seem to be caught up in the hook-up on the internet environment, and are not doing enough to develop other parts of their personality. Sex is fun but ther is a lot more to a gay man then what he does in bed.

    (7). Many in my generation are still ashamed of being gay, and are still quite closeted. Also some have never gotten over the trauma of the AIDS epidemic. There is a certain amount of bitterness I find.

    JakeBenson, I don't think it is possible to live life to the fullest (whatever that means). You undoubtedly have many competing interests and responsibilities. I personally have found some people who say they live life to the fullest, to be very self-centred and selfish.