You're hot and a definitely catch, yet still looking and single? What is wrong with you?

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    Jul 17, 2008 9:53 PM GMT
    Sadly the people from my "straight world" (family, friends and coworkers) ask this sometimes. I guess I need to find a girlfriend for hire or fag-hag but as for the dudes in my life I'd have to blame location and occupation for the lack of lust and love in my life.icon_cry.gif
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    Jul 17, 2008 9:56 PM GMT
    I require a lot of attention. But even though I require a lot of attention, I feel like if I'm important enough to the other person, then they'd give it willingly, without my asking.
    My even bigger issue? I'm .. always fucking right. And I'm really good at reasoning my way into always REALLY being in the right! I'm sure it's a serious pain in the ass.


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    Jul 17, 2008 10:07 PM GMT
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    Well... in point of fact, those apples in the top of the tree look good from the ground, but after you've gone to the trouble of getting a ladder and climbing way up there... it turns out that the birds have eaten out the tops and they're all spoiled.

    That's why everyone has gone to dwarfing rootstocks: they make all of the apples easy to reach. Hmm... there may be such a thing as taking an analogy too far.
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    Jul 17, 2008 10:09 PM GMT
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    Jul 18, 2008 1:02 AM GMT
    You are all fucked up.
    LOL@YOU
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:03 AM GMT
    That story about the apples is a load of old bollocks, if you ask me.
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:18 AM GMT
    you get back what you give out in life!
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:55 AM GMT
    There is something to be said for being single...and I get bored easily. (A.D.D. can wreak havoc in a relationship)
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:56 AM GMT
    I'm gonna slap you zimmy!
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    Jul 18, 2008 7:44 PM GMT
    czarodziej saidthough in response to the TITLE of this thread lol- speaking for myself i can say its a perfect-storm combination of geographical isolation in crappy cities, introversion that keeps me away from the clubs and bars, along with high standards that i refuse to sacrifice for the sake of being off the market.


    You, sir, summed up my existence. Bravo.

    Oh, and stop laughing at me OP.
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    Jul 18, 2008 8:02 PM GMT
    Worm song in Spanish . . . awesome.

    Sedative saidfuzzy? icon_eek.gif


    And wuzzy.

    That's for those who never settle and instead get desperate enough to resort to other species.

    I haven't settled yet . . . partly from being too busy to always jump on social opportunities, partly from introversion, partly from high standards, mostly from getting attached to one guy at a time and passing up other chances because they don't compare. Sadly it's yet to be an openly gay guy.
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    Jul 18, 2008 8:12 PM GMT
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    Doh!

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    Jul 18, 2008 8:47 PM GMT
    metroPAULitan saidmaybe i'm too gassy...

    RunintheCity saidI blame all my problems on flatulence. icon_eek.gif

    MetroPAULitan, meet RunintheCity...
    RunintheCity, meet MetroPAULitan...
    I'm outta here!!! icon_eek.gif
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    Jul 19, 2008 5:05 PM GMT
    icon_smile.gif I think I ask myself this question all the time. Not those exact words but just wondering what's wrong?

    I might be a therapists dream come true in this department. I think for me it's just personal stuff. When I lost my partner tragically I think from that day forward I thought I had been blessed to have loved so greatly already once why think I'd be worthy to have a second dose of that? Not to mention I sometimes compare. A huge mistake on my part.

    Both situations have created a long running problem. 1st, I know I have the right to love again greatly. Allowing myself that right is the key issue. 2nd, for as perfect as I make him out to be after his death the reality is no one is that perfect. I've pictured him telling me this many times.

    So I think my main problem might be the fear of love. loving that much only to have it suddenly taken away again. The pain is unbearable. So I think those probably are the real reasons even though like many I say I'm picky or I say the right guy is either taken or lives too far away. Just excuses to avoid the obvious real problem. It's ok to love again. Damn there's a moment of self awareness and it didn't cost me a cent LOL.
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    Jul 19, 2008 5:44 PM GMT
    jsttennis77 - I should've told you this before I took off because of you.
    Think that many people may have their whole lifetime pass them by without ever experiencing even for one sweet minute what you and your late boyfriend had.
    I'd still die a grateful and a happy man if I were in your shoes...but I'd verify myself first before I meet The Maker. LOLLLLLLLLL x


    Bitch.
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    Jul 19, 2008 5:46 PM GMT
    Nothing wrong with hanging out with yourself till the right one comes along.
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    Jul 20, 2008 9:25 AM GMT
    Nothing wrong with me. I don't want a boyfriend ;).
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    Jul 20, 2008 10:07 AM GMT
    Life is making YOURSELF as happy as you possibly can and enjoy it for what it's worth BY YOURSELF
    ... and if a man comes along to enjoy it with you?
    All the better
    But it should never be where you are waiting to enjoy until he comes along

    It is what you make it men...
    Someone else isn't going to do it for you
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    Jul 22, 2008 8:33 AM GMT
    This is an interesting topic, and one that I ponder a lot. I'm a great guy - and my close friends would tell you a really good catch. And yet...no one has thrown out a piece of bait that I'm haven't escaped from. I suppose there are many reasons, one, my life is horridly complex, and I take care of an elderly family member that monopolizes my time and energy. Secondly, I'm just not getting to the point in my life where I'm financially stable, and on track...and I'd like to keep that going. Thirdly - and this is probably the biggest one, I haven't met a guy who's just totally swept me off of my feet in the manner I'm looking for...

    though I should digress at this point and admit that I have an amazing relationship with one of my best friends, who's younger than me. All of the elements of what I'm looking for in a partner exist - smart, funny, goofy, taller, good looking, driven, independent, nice, caring, thoughtful, great communicator. Given my friendship with this fellow that's blossomed over the past 18 months, I have been reminded of what I really seek in a partner - the whole package.

    I'm not sure if this guy is the whole package, just because I'm not sure if he's into guys...but that's a whole nother story and issue.

    Online, especially, and in person, a lot of times after a couple dates (at which point I'm really not interested in anything beyond online friendship), I get asked why I am single. And my usual response is that I like being single.

    And that's true. I'm perfectly content being single 98% of the time. I miss cuddling with someone, and I miss some of the aspects of the relationship.

    One day, I'm sure I'll meet the man of my dream, and he'll be a welcome integration into my life, as crazy, unpredictable, and as much fun as it is.

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    Jul 22, 2008 9:31 AM GMT
    I am single and loving it. Yes I have been scorned, and just so happens every guy I have seriously dated, their personalities did not match and in time their true character of being non-commitment as well as need to be financially supported came to surface. Relationships really are learning lessons for the relationship you are going to be in. And casual dating is so you can get all your lusting fun out of the way for the real fun in the relationship. :-)
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    Jul 23, 2008 2:22 AM GMT
    I've never been in a relationship with a guy. In fact, I've never even been on a date with one, either. I've been single for 4 years now after breaking up with my ex girlfriend.

    I miss certain aspects of a relationship. I miss having someone there for certain times. It feels good to have a person there for you sometimes.

    Other times I wonder how I'll ever get into another relationship. I'm so independent and focused on myself and my friends, I don't know how I'll integrate someone else. I guess you figure it out, right?

    I'm not actively looking for a relationship. Nor do I look for hookups. I don't feel the need to get into a relationship just for the sake of it. I need to have a serious connection with someone--both physically and mentally--for me to pursue something. This has yet to happen.

    I hope it will someday. Sometimes I wonder if I'm just meant to be single my whole life. I just need to live my life and whatever happens, happens.
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    Jul 23, 2008 2:44 AM GMT
    Hm. Good Question.

    If someone has a perfect answer for this please call me at 212-555-5432.

    In all seriousness...

    This question is like "what is the meaning of life?" There is no answer and you'll get 20 million different responses.

    I wish I knew why I have been single for so long though. Maybe then, I could correct it.
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    Jul 23, 2008 2:46 AM GMT
    Sometimes the pain of staying together is greater than the fear of being alone.
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    Jul 23, 2008 2:47 AM GMT
    So long as I have an internet connection, a bottle of lotion and some paper towels I don't need no stinkin' boyfriend!
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    Jul 23, 2008 2:49 AM GMT
    I'm single for several reasons that I don't feel need to be discussed. I could be like some guys here and say that the problem isn't me but that would be a full blowbn lie and I'm not in the habit of doing that so I accept the fact that I"m a my own worse enemy when it comes to being single witht he added help of others I suppose.

    It's really 50/50 with me. I see guys who I find attractive but then later find out that things probably wouldn't work out and I'll assume they might feel the same way about me. I see guys who I have no interest in but they seem to find me attractive and again I'll assume the same thing happens when I see guys who I find attractive and they aren't interested in me at all. I have my rules and standards and I'm not willing to alter or downsize them just to be in a relationship so that might be a problem depending on you talk to. Its funny that this thread has popped up because my friends asked me nearly the same question three days ago and I wanted to ask it on here.

    I wouldn't lable myself as hot but I will say I think I'm attractive (my mom say so LOL) so I guess it all boils down to what a person wants and what they feel like dealing with or rather who they feel like dealing with.