This is an interesting topic, and one that I ponder a lot. I'm a great guy - and my close friends would tell you a really good catch. And yet...no one has thrown out a piece of bait that I'm haven't escaped from. I suppose there are many reasons, one, my life is horridly complex, and I take care of an elderly family member that monopolizes my time and energy. Secondly, I'm just not getting to the point in my life where I'm financially stable, and on track...and I'd like to keep that going. Thirdly - and this is probably the biggest one, I haven't met a guy who's just totally swept me off of my feet in the manner I'm looking for...
though I should digress at this point and admit that I have an amazing relationship with one of my best friends, who's younger than me. All of the elements of what I'm looking for in a partner exist - smart, funny, goofy, taller, good looking, driven, independent, nice, caring, thoughtful, great communicator. Given my friendship with this fellow that's blossomed over the past 18 months, I have been reminded of what I really seek in a partner - the whole package.
I'm not sure if this guy is the whole package, just because I'm not sure if he's into guys...but that's a whole nother story and issue.
Online, especially, and in person, a lot of times after a couple dates (at which point I'm really not interested in anything beyond online friendship), I get asked why I am single. And my usual response is that I like being single.
And that's true. I'm perfectly content being single 98% of the time. I miss cuddling with someone, and I miss some of the aspects of the relationship.
One day, I'm sure I'll meet the man of my dream, and he'll be a welcome integration into my life, as crazy, unpredictable, and as much fun as it is.