You're hot and a definitely catch, yet still looking and single? What is wrong with you?

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    Jul 23, 2008 2:54 AM GMT
    True.

    "Different strokes for different folks" but in these changing times there seems to be a trend of what is considered hot and what is not. Most judge others soley by what they see and you honestly can't blame them for that since attractivess is nearly 75% visual and the rest is filled in with whatever else the individual considers attractive and important and ironically enough, looks are important to alot of people.
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    Jul 23, 2008 3:12 AM GMT
    true. Don't forget the alcohol. That's a big key too. LOL.
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    Jul 23, 2008 3:17 AM GMT
    So here's one...

    Even if you're partnered, at the end of the day you're the one that YOU have to answer to. You're the one that YOU must be happy with. You're the one that must be happy with your life, where you're at, who is around you and what not. So being with someone does not guarantee SHIT! So again, why is the assumption that something is "wrong" with you because you're single, for WHAT EVER reason you have?!?!?!?!?
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    Jul 23, 2008 3:21 AM GMT
    Truthfully, 1972, a person could be the problem and not know it. It's really easy to say that others might have a prolem and that they can't see the greatness within you.

    I don't think there is anything wrong with being single since I myself have been that way for 28 years but I have asked myself why that is from time to time and it's a draw between myself and between others.

    I've known people who were a problem to themself and toothers and never once realized it and were so quick to point the finger at others til they finally realized that they were the problem. Alot of people just never think they themselves could be a problem which is a problem I guess. then youhave those who know what they problewm is and don't ever try to fix it which is even worse.
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    Jul 23, 2008 3:26 AM GMT
    I was talking with a female friend of mine who has just started a relationship for the first time in 8 years, and is quite stunned to be in one. I'm been mentioning that you really need to know the answers to two questions before a relationship is possible:

    1. Who do you want to be in a relationship with? (what kind of guy, etc.)

    2. Who do you want to be in a relationship as? (what do you bring and are you sure enough of yourself to support your half of the relationship.)

    My experience is that too many guys have a vague idea of #1, and are pretty clueless of #2. I've been doing a lot of work on the second question for the past 3 years, and it just seems like I'm at the point where I've finally got a handle on that question, and all of a sudden I'm getting dates. Go figure.

    Also, meeting the right guy is like being hit by lightning. You can't make it happen, but you have to be at the right place at the right time with the right conditions.

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    Jul 23, 2008 3:30 AM GMT
    Guy101 said I don't think there is anything wrong with being single since I myself have been that way for 28 years but I have asked myself why that is from time to time.


    Because there's like six gay men in all of Alaska?
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    Jul 23, 2008 3:31 AM GMT
    Guy101 saidTruthfully, 1972, a person could be the problem and not know it. It's really easy to say that others might have a prolem and that they can't see the greatness within you.


    TOTALLY!! However what I was driving at was that some people believe a "better" life is always defined by with someone when they never take the time to look within themselves to see if JUST maybe they could be the challenge when in a relationship....
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    Jul 23, 2008 3:36 AM GMT
    Oh. Right on. I see what you are saying now. LOL.
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    Jul 23, 2008 4:09 AM GMT
    Maybe for some, being single gives them the time and independence to get their life in order and be a Great Catch. But take the same guy and put him in a relationship and the effort to make the relationship work can wear away on all the things he had going on to make himself the Great Catch.

    When you start skipping gym visits to work on the house together, or work extra hours to afford that vacation, diet and health can deteriorate. Or that next promotion is in another town and you can't chase it because of your connections. So your career stagnates.

    Relationships cause tradeoffs in your life. Good Luck to all of us on having a good appreciation for the impact of the tradeoffs.
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    Aug 02, 2008 8:08 PM GMT
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    I'm single cause I'm in a period of time where I need to work on myself: my body, mind and spirit. That sounds kind of selfish, but we all need time to grow.

    Ideally I would find someone who I could be with that would accelerate that process, but really how common is that?

    I find so much more in common with folks on this forum than I do with any of my friends in real life, here in Portland OR, but having mixed nuts is always a good thing anyway.

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    Aug 02, 2008 8:21 PM GMT
    It is all about compromise guys, and you know that. There are several guys here that I would move to their city in a moment, IF I knew it would work out, to be with them. This is not the real world and our world would end if you were deceptive in any way. Of course, the men that have been here for a long time have crafted their credibility and I would meet them anywhere ( See my buddy list). It's all about trust.....
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    Aug 02, 2008 8:26 PM GMT
    There is nothing wrong with me....its all of you that have the problem icon_twisted.gif
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    Aug 02, 2008 8:34 PM GMT
    ActiveAndFit saidSometimes the pain of staying together is greater than the fear of being alone.


    Sometimes the fear and pain of being single will keep some people in bad relationships.

    Me? I follow Madonna's credo...."You Deserve the Best in Life, so if the Time Isn't Right then Move ON....Second Best is Never Enough, You'd Do Much Better Baby On Your Own. Don't Go Fdr Seconf Best Baby Put Your Love To the Test".